2007-07-29 12:26:14 · 30 answers · asked by OzarkOasis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I always get jelous and think that she will replace me to fast, for security reasons. I don't wan't my kids to think that I gave up. But I do not wan't to continue to live my life in a non-loving relationship.
2007-07-29 12:35:36 · update #1
We have three children, and I love them so much, I also love her, I feel that it is mostly her that want's to go, what should I say to her?
2007-07-29 12:41:41 · update #2
Number one: if you hate each other then don't waste time on seeing a counselor, you'll just waist the counselor's time. Counseling at the end of a marriage doesn't help anything.
Number two: women suck the life out of men. WTF? Is this news?
2007-07-29 12:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two half to ask each other if you really love each other and do you two want your marriage to work? If so then you two should seek marriage counseling. If you two are past the point of love and are really hanging in there for the kids then leave it alone and work out a relationship for the kids. Because what ever vibe you two are putting off the kids do see it no matter how young 1 years old and up! It does affect the kids. It can affect them mentally, physically and emotionally (health). So try to come to a middle together for the kids.
2007-07-29 12:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The kids keeping you together? That's no kind of relationship and you could be doing more harm than help by looking at things like that. I would suggest counseling and trying to find the things that brought the 2 of you together in the first place.
2007-07-29 12:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both have insecurities that need some work. You'll get through it. And hey, Don't say you HATE each other, thats the first step to disolving a marriage. You loved each other the day u took the vows. If you really hated each other, you wouldnt be together still. Look at each other through the eyes of your children.
2007-07-29 12:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by MrsBug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start out by doing something goofy together that will bring you two together. go to a dance class like swing-dancing or do something that both of you suck at so it will be funny. do a lot of things with her just the two of you. get drunk together and have a dance party or food fight. go to an amusement park. you need to get back to the way you two were when you 1st fell in-love or before the "honeymoon stage" was over. randomly bring her flowers home and start being more romantic and she will probably follow.
you might also need to take the stress out of your lives. go on a vacation just the two of you and leave the kids with a parent or friend or something.
2007-07-29 12:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U sound like me dude! I am going to same thing as U, in a unhappy 15 yr marriage. I only stay for the sake of kids, but I hate my wife at times! Sucks! I love to go out dancing and have a super blasting good time, but she hates dancing out-period!! My wife is a complete turn-off, in alot of things, that I certain enjoy out of life in general!!!!!
2007-07-29 15:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you truely hate each other? I would get some counseling... both have to be willing to work on the issues you have... but you cant just stay the way you are to be together for the kids... that just doesnt work... seek counseling... and try to work things out.. if you cant then seperate but work together for the best of the kids... if you cant make it work its not good for the kids or for yourselves.
2007-07-29 12:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lori S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this-if you fight all the time, and don't get along, maybe it's best to leave each other, it's never good for the kids if they are in an unhealthy environment where there parents fight and argue all the time.
I would say try marriage activities to re-kindle your romance. Google "things to do to save a marriage"
2007-07-29 12:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by catrina230 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to be married to a guy like you, I stayed for 11 years and felt like crap, the smothering and jealousy is a killer to any relationship and let me tell you it will not change until you take the change, life too short to live in la-la land think it's doing any good for the kids they are not dumb, pretty perceptive if ya ask the poll! I moved on and realized that ya can not change any one but yourself.
2007-07-29 12:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you remember why you married her in the first place? Did you love her? You must have at least liked each other. Talk to each other and tell each other all those things you loved about each other when you got married. Make a list. And neither is allowed to say anything negative during the talk.
2007-07-29 12:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't hate each other you are just tired of each other and exhausted taking care of three children, if you can get marriage counseling go ahead.
I think you guy's need to take a brake from each other, she should go on vacation with her friends or sisters first and then you leave on vacation with your friends just please don't cheat on her, after you both get some rest and have some fun you'll feel much better about each other I promise.
2007-07-29 13:08:58 · answer #11 · answered by thecoldfire72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋