Issue between my husband and I...?

Question

Okay, my husband grew up a Church of Christ and I grew up as a non denominational. Recently, my husband got back into his church. After 20 years, he goes back. Today my daughter went with him and she said that the preacher said, at the end of the surmon that, "It's a shame that all these other denominations, such as Catholic, Baptist, Methodist... can bring people in when they're not really Christians, or believers and our own chuch, which is the ONE TRUE CHURCH with the real truth can't rally people in." It's just that sort of sermon that made me stop going with my husband years ago. When my husband is going he constantly says that I'm a "non believer" and he tries to force his beliefs on me. Now, he's trying to do the same to my kids. My kids have a church that they love... Also, my mother in law was out of the picture for a while and it's her that is telling my husband that he needs to, "get back with the church". How do I handle this? She's tried to cause trouble in my marriage.

for years and years. That's why she was out of the picture. I can't even begin to tell you just how pushy and down right sneaky this woman is. She's telling him that it's his job to get his family back into the fold. How do I handle this?

She does things like telling him that I don't answer her calls, or that I'm throwing away her mail she sends... None of this is true, but he questions me and I sense that he holds some recentment toward me over this. When she was out of the picture my marriage was so much better.

This church openly says that they're the only ones that are going to heaven, because they've been baptized into "Christ's Chruch".

Answer 1

First, the Bible teaches there is only one church. Ephesians 4:4 says "There is one body"! Ephesians 1:22-23, Colossians 1:18, and Colossians 1:24 teach thet the body is the church and the church is the body!

Since the church and the body are the same thing, and there is only one body, then ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE, HOW MANY CHURCHES ARE THERE? The answer has to be just one!

Now, is your husband's church the one church of the Bible?

You must learn exactly what they teach and compare it to the Bible! Acts 17:11 says, "These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so."

If the things this church teaches agrees with the Bible, accept those things! If their doctrine does not agree with the Bible, reject it and show it to your husband so he will no longer follow error!

Now, it may be that congregation teaches the correct doctrine, but they have the wrong attitude. The Bible says we should be "speaking the truth in love". (Ephesians 4:15)

This sometimes is a hard balance to maintain! Some churches teach error, but they are loving place. Others teach the correct doctrine, but they don't show concern for others. If you sacrifice either truth or love, you have fallen short of what you should be.

If your husband is right, what are you going to do about it? Will you continue to hold onto what you’ve always believed? Are you going to pull him away from it just because you don’t like it?

What if your husband is wrong? Are you going to let him stay in his error?

Both you and your husband should not let pride, selfishness, and loyalty to what you have always been taught get in the way of your finding the truth!

If that congregation is not satisfactory to you, maybe you can tell your husband that you don’t mind attending a Church of Christ with him, but not that congregation. (Also, if you go to another congregation, that may put some distance between you and your mother-in-law.)

It may be the best answer is for both of you to visit other congregations of the church together.

It sounds like you both are trying to do what is right, but there is a different view. Go to the Bible and see which view is correct!

If your husband has a doctrinal problem with the other churches you have been attending, give him a Bible and ask him to show you what he believes the Bible says. But, do so with an open mind! If his belief is correct, according to the Bible, be prepared to follow God's Word! If you will not submit to the Word of God, then you have not submitted to God.

The attached is a link to a free 6-lesson video Bible study. Watch this with your husband and then investigate it with the Bible! Look up the verses cited in their context. If the things taught are from the Bible, accept it! If this study does not agree with the Bible, reject those things! Follow the word of God!

Answer 2

It sounds like you have amommas boy for a husband that will never stand up to his mom. Until shes totally gone nothing will change. I am a Methodist ad married into a catholic family but I dont go to church because Ive tired of the history lessons and the other church problems but dont stop my wife and kids from going to church.My mil lives with us and the church thing is to please her so I understand how much a pain a mil can be in a marriage btu life goes on with or without a church and true a real preacher would never have said what he did and no very well everyone is a Christain in Gods eyes no matter what the faith is.

Answer 3

Well, first off let me start by saying, I am sorry that you and your hubby are having problems.
Now let me ask you, does your husband church believe in the exact and absolute teachings of the bible? (being baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ for the remission of sins? Being filled with the Holy Ghost and speaking in Tounges as the Spirit of God gives the utterance?) That is the ONE TRUE CHURCH.
I think it is great that he has started going back, no one can force you to do anything, one thing I have learned, is that if the Lord wants you, he will do what ever it takes to get your attention.

Your mother-in law is right, your husband is considered the head of your houshold (according to the Bible), and it is his duty to oversee the spiritual welfare of his famiy. It is also your childrens duty to honor and obey their parents.You might think that she is causing trouble, but she is just stating probablly what she has already instilled in him while he was growing up.

The best advice I can give to you is pray about this situation, because you are going to get a lot of conflicting answers about this, but if you need to talk, I am here. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 4

This is actually an easy one but not a fun one. First you hit him with John 3:16-17 which states, "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, for WHOSOEVER believeth in him shall not perish but have everlasting life!
(17) For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world but that the world through Him shall be saved."

Introduce the following points:

1. God so loved the world, not a church
2. Whosoever means everyone, not just the ones attending your husband's church
3. If Jesus was not allowed by the Father to condemn anyone in this world, what right does his pastor to condemn all other church denominations.

Then you will have to tell your husband it is either you and the kids or his mother and his church. Then get ready to call a lawyer. People are dying all around the world because thier's is the only "TRUE" religion and if you don't believe you are going to hell. Get out before he brainwashes the kids beyond repair.

While you and him may not be ready for this one, here is a couple of questions that most denominations can not answer.

Who is/was more powerful with his actions, Adam or Jesus? Most will answer Jesus of course. Then ask this, "Well if Jesus was more powerful and we are all born into sin because of Adam, Why are we not ALL saved because of what Jesus did on the cross?"

One action of Adam caused us all to be born into sin but most churches don't believe that Jesus dieing on the cross was a one act that "saved" all of us.

Just a thought and good luck with the soon to be ex husband. Keep your kids in the church they love because if they love it they will attend. If they don't like the church, they will take every opportunity not to go.

Answer 5

You do not have a religion problem, you have an in law problem. Believe me. I would suggest talking with your husband. I cannot remember what scripture it is but when a man marries he is suppose to cling to his wife. At the same time, his mother may focus on the fact that one should honor their mother and father which also in the bible. However, she needs to respect God, her son and you and understand that her opinions are valued, but interfering with a marriage and family is not what God condones no matter what you religious path is taken.

Answer 6

Oh this is a hard one. I'd hate to be in your position right now, I can totally understand where your coming from. I'd take up another interest and really get involved with it. On the days he goes to church, go do something else.

Answer 7

In a marriage, each party is entitled to their own beliefs. And they also have the right to teach those beliefs to their children. Which means you should be able to take the children to your church and teach them your beliefs, and he has the same right. When the children are old enough, they will make an informed choice based on what they've been taught. It will not hurt them to go to his church anymore than it will hurt them to attend yours. It is good for them to see that people have many different beliefs and the ultimate choice is up to them.

Answer 8

I think that the problem is the preatcher, you must first understand that their is only one god and it's mans doing by creating all these demoninations, just let your kids know that it's ok to beleive in god.As far as your mother-n-law thats a horse of a different color. Remember the family that pray's together stay's together.

Answer 9

It is a tough situation indeed.if the preacher says that church is the one true church;he is wrong at all.The Bible is only one,and God love people around the planet earth,who read the Bible,pray,and believe in God,Jesus and the Holy Ghost.When that preacher is dead,he will have a big surprise at the heaven,because,to believe in God have nothing to do with denominations or churches.If you believe in Jesus,and read your Bible and go to a church where preaching according of the Bible,then you will be okay.Talk with your mother in law.

Answer 10

Ask your husband if the church will save your marriage instead of trying to ruin it.

Put your foot down with your mother-in-law and tell her to mind her own business or get to stepping.