Signs you are falling out of love with someone?

Question

How do you know if you are falling out of love with someone?

I live with my boyfriend of three years, and it feels different. We've been more annoyed with each other, bickering type of talk. We still have our lovey moments, but after a while, it's like....Do we stay together because of a few lovey moments? Am I staying in this relationship because it's too hard to move out of the apartment and divide our stuff? We talk about getting married in a year and half and every time we talk about it, I think, do I really want to get married to him...or is it just about the ring and all the time ive put in with him??

Or do we just need to rekindle our relationship....It's hard to know, how do you know when you are falling out of love?

Answer 1

Every relationship has to be worked at to keep it alive, you have to do that all through your lives. I would sit him down and agree to take the relationship right back to basics, start courting again, rediscover the points that made you fall in love with each other. Go out to new places that you have not seen, when you feel you are going to say something horrid, count to ten, walk away and then go back to each other and say, look I feel very miserable, I have ths problem, or that. Communication is the key. When you first met, you tried so hard to impress, well, start again to try and impress, dont get so comfortable that you give up on looking nice, making each other laugh etc.
Good luck

Answer 2

My personal opinion would be that maybe if you spend a little more time a apart to see if this is what you want. I would not recommend cheating b/c you might just mess up something good. You should talk to him and find out if he thinks he may need some space. If the feeling is mutual, then take some time off. How often do you guys argue? How often do you have "lovey moments" which outweighs the other? If you ever seen the break-up, your situation sounds similar. However, I wouldn't jump into marriage discussion anymore especially since you are more concerned about dividing stuff and how much time you've put into the relationship. Sounds like you just need a break to figure out what you want to do. Just remember how hard it was to date and find "the one" and also remember that during marriage you will eventually get tired of the other person. People get divorced mainly based on the fact they expect to stay in love all the time. It doesn't work that way. When you do talk to him about your future and you really want to see if he's telling the truth, act like you want to move the wedding up. Put a little pressure on the marriage thing (knowing u don't want it so soon) and if he gets enough pressure the truth will eventually com out.

Answer 3

you have to listen to your gut and heart. After a few years the passion can be gone, but all couples have to WORK to keep passion alive. The fact that you are bickering is normal, but if it's bickering about trust and respect issues, then it's not worth it. Ask yourself, what would you feel like if you broke up with him and he started dating someone else. Do you really love him? Does he truly love, trust, and respect you? Is he truly your best friend? Secondly, communciation is the key to being connected with your boyfriend. Open lines of communication allow huge trust between two people, and that turns into respect, which leads to love and passion. So, talk to him. Tell him what you told us and get his feelings. You may not have the passion in your relationship anymore, but if you have a lot of love, respect and trust, you may want to hold on to this guy.

Answer 4

Na chica, it's time to pack it up and bounce! If you two are feeling like that, why go through with a marriage that is bound to fail..there is no rush to get married either.

Date, enjoy your life..don't tie the knot so quickly..it is hard to untie later...Think twice, even three times over about getting married..Find out if that is what he wants to do as well.

when you are falling out of love, you lose interest, you start to pick fights just to have the excuse to leave the relationship..you're simply not interested and need to move on..you start thinking about dating other people..that's a clue!

If you stay in the relationship and you are not happy then save up and move out..But make sure you two are not in love, if that's the case, date other people but don't bring them home.

From your posted question, it sounds like it's over.

Answer 5

Relationships go through different stages and it seems you may be going through the stage where it's down to every day life and no longer romantic and stars and all that. You did not say how old you are, and if you are young time apart is good if you are having doubts You may still need to discover who you are. Getting married is a huge step and ask yourself if you are willing to go to therapy together see what the deal is? if you are not, maybe it's time for your independence.

Answer 6

you know, you sound ALOT like everything i just went thru. It sounds like you guys are about to go thru what me and my recent ex just went thru...and thats the begining of an end.
its hard when you date someone for so long, i dated my guy for 4 years and we were actually engaged, and THEN we broke up...so it was extreamly difficult for me, physically, mentally and emotinally...but i went thru a phase where i asked myself, "am i still really in love with who he is now, or am i just in love with how comfortable we are with each other, this far into our relationship" does that make sense? basically, trust your instinct, its hard to break up, but the reason why i am not falling to pieces right now, is simply because i feel blessed that God made me realize our differences NOW, rather than AFTER we actually got married and possibly even had children...think about it...your young, im sure your beautiful and smart, and you can get any guy you want...there are plenty of guys out there, so dont ever sell yourself short or settle for less, just because your afraid of breaking up with someone you've been with for so long. date ANYBODY, and eventually you'll truly feel the same way about another guy as well....good luck sweetie, and if you need to talk, feel free to email me... i try to check it every night...


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Answer 7

When you have to start asking yourself if you are still in love. Think about all the pros & cons before you decide on getting married. Try to imagine yourself with this man in 10 or 20 years...see how you feel. Good luck!

Answer 8

sweetheart wow, I wish I was asking this question because I feel the same way in my relationship right now and to tell you the truth... only you can know for sure ask yourself a few questions and out way your answers.... Do you love him? Can you picture yourself without him? Does he love you? Plan a small weekend to the beach or out of state and have a talk with him about your future be serious about it... See what he says and see how you feel.... Goodluck!!! Tell us how it turns out

Answer 9

You'll feel distant all the time when your right there and if you do break up with him plan all your moves and make a list of whats yours in the house or apartment I hope youdo belong together good luck!

Answer 10

you are not ready for marriage. if you guys dont have anything to communicate about,thats a sign you are falling out of love.