How much does the ring really mean?

Question

What does it make you feel like if your spouse decides to not wear their wedding ring? What if they take it off for a day or two? What if they take it off for good? What if they take it off for a good excuse, ie cut finger, and after it's healed then they don't wear again?

Answer 1

I'm a biologist, and I do very dirty work with animals who love to bite at shiny objects. So, I rarely wear jewelry, including my wedding ring. And, because I have gotten out of the habit of wearing it, I almost never remember to put it on even when I'm not going to work. If we are out, and I actually notice, I'll hold up my ringless finger to my husband, smile, and say, "Forgot my ring, guess I'm not married today. Mind if I try to pick up a few guys?" He laughs at me. So, as much as I love my ring, and I put it on when I can remember, a ring does not make a happy marriage. My husband knows that, and understands.

Answer 2

The ring signifies the commitment that you both made to each other in front of God and your guests. There are going to be times when either one or both spouses will not be able to wear their rings.

I have been married for 6 years, and sometimes I have to take my rings off for a few days ( four at the most so far) because my fingers swell and feel as though the circulation is being cut off because of the rings. During these times, I tell my husband and he agrees that I should not wear them for a while--but it in no ways signify that I do not love my husband! I am thankful and blessed to be married to him. My husband always wear his though.

Don't fret, if you are both truly commited to your marriage, there is nothing to worry about.

Answer 3

I have been married to tradesmen 1 carpenter and the other an electrician either men have ever worn a piece of jewelry in his life I don't think the ring thing is all that important when I started working with my first husband I had to take me rings off and after awhile it was just easier to leave them off it did not mean anything more than just not thinking about it when I wore my rings I didn't think about it then either it was just part of me . My commitment is just that a commitment and has nothing to do with the symbolism

Answer 4

My husband and I went through a rough time recently (we're still working on it actually) and there was a period where he actually refused to wear the ring. I felt as though it was his way of saying "this relationship is over and it'll never be the same again and nothing we do will ever fix it". I was devastated when I found out he wasn't wearing it, because I was hoping beyond hope to work things out. To me, it's a constant reminder of our commitment to each other. I never take mine off unless my fingers start to swell. It's also a way of signalling to others that you're off limits.

Answer 5

My husband is a massage Therapist and before that he worked in a factory where he wasn't allowed to wear jewelery. It got to the point that his ring was really bothering him when he put it on because he wasn't used to it. He hasn't worn it in about 5 years and it doesn't bother me at all. Yes it's a symbol of our love but I don't need him to wear it. He is married to me and committed to me whether he wears it or not. There are plenty of guys who wear their rings while their having an affair with someone else. The ring doesn't mean that a guy is committed...what's in his heart counts. And as far as other women knowing he's taken, that doesn't really bother me either. He IS taken and that's all that counts. He is fully committed to me. And actually my hubby has noticed that more women flirt with him when he's WEARING his ring then when he's not.

Answer 6

Personal experience. My husband took his ring off three times in his life.
Once it was a bone tumor in his ring finger and we had to get the ring cut off, because of the growth underneath.
Once when an insect bite caused his finger to swell up.
Both times he wore it on a chain around his neck.
And once during an affair, where he told his mistress that his marriage was over, without telling me, his wife, that it was.
The ring is the symbol of a marriage, of a promise of fidelity, of faithfulness. A sign to others of that commitment. To remove it (without a medical reason) might mean that they have no intention of keeping those promises which it symbolizes any more.
Be careful if that's the case in your situation.

Answer 7

My husband has never wore a wedding ring, even though I did buy one for him. He works in a mill and wearing jewelry can be very dangerous. However he doesn't wear it other times when he certainly could. It used to bug me, but doesn't any more. He isn't doing it so he can appear "single", he just doesn't like to wear jewelry (doesn't wear a watch either). We've been married for 26 years.

Answer 8

I love my wife completely. She is my best friend. However, I work for a gold mining company and we use chemicals that will strip gold out of rock or off your finger, not to mention what could happen if you also work with electricty or rock crushing equipment and have an accident. I do not wear my ring at work for that reason.

Answer 9

The ring means a lot to me. My husband can't wear it for work because of the job he does, but when he comes home he puts it on. I feel like his wearing it is like saying he loves me to the world. It is also him declaring to women that he is off limits.

Answer 10

If they decide not to wear it, that would say to me that something big has changed because the ring is a big thing. I would want to know just how much the marriage means.