Only by allowing ourselves to be vulnerable do we stand a chance in succeding in Love?

Question

When we defend, protect & guard , we isolate ourselves into loneliness......If in the end we are deceived, betrayed or tricked, we can at least say we tried...Vulnerability is the soul of Love??? Do you agree??

Answer 1

I agree - you have to be willing to be vulnerable in order to find love. I feel as you do - I would rather be open and trusting and be deceived rather than to always be on guard and suspicious of others.

Answer 2

I agree with your second sentence about isolating ourselves into loneliness if any of the three (defend, protect, guard) are an integral part of our relationship with another. If one loves, & is loved in return, NONE should be necessary. Vulnerable is open to attack, & stresses lack of protection from physical or mental harm. If we love (& are loved) wisely, we should have trust, confidence & mutual honesty--thus we are not vulnerable. The things you write about, "..if in the end..." are almost inevitable if we "fall IN love," & enjoying the high, but not truly knowing the person. Vulnerability is NOT the soul of love. Do you have any idea what it really is?

Answer 3

Yes, 100%. But I would add the caveat that we must choose with some thought the ones to be vulnerable with. If we choose untrustworthy people again and again, we will be betrayed.
If, in our quest for love, we look for trustworthiness over style and flash, then we have the basis for a great success in love. And, then, your are quite right. We have to open up and be vulnerable. The rewards are astounding.

Answer 4

In order to love, truly love, one must give and receive trust. This requires an open and sincere relationship. When you open yourself,you feel vulnerable, exposed. Now if it is love, you have no choice. It is the nature of true love. But through opening to each other you also find a strength that defies description.

Answer 5

For a real love to succeed takes honesty of the inner self. So yes, I'd say your statement is correct. When you reveal yourself warts and all to someone, you are figuratively exposed and vulnerable.

Peace

Answer 6

Anyone who thinks about vulnerability does not at that time any possibility of allowing love to flow.

Answer 7

Very Good!! i don't know how old you are,but this is one of the most deep,thoughtful questions that I've seen on this site!Yes,you need to let down your guard in order to let love in.It doesn't happen in a vacume and it requires patiance and understanding on the part of both poeple if there is going to be any chance at happiness.TL

Answer 8

Yes. Why would we seek to defend ourselves against what we love? It worst it can only teach us something we don't know. And increased confidence that we can survive on our own feet, and remain open. Love has no expectations or demands. It is like faith - it makes no assumptions either. It simply is.

Answer 9

Yes, i finally quit acting like most men do and gave in to romance, Love and being a mans man but in love. And let me tell you submission is bliss. If you totally let go and let a woman,mind you the right woman, know how you truly feel.....awesome. I was once the tough exterior, snide remarks, playboy wanta be, stud-muffin I thought, nowadays my wife of one month thank you, her friends find me irresistible, they think I can do no wrong, yet the only thing I did was submit to true,undying Love the rest did itself.

Answer 10

Yes, you'll never knew of the beauty of things if you don't allow yourslef to be vulnerable once in a whiile.