I have 2 children. I had 1 shot of demerol with each labor, which helped me relax and then I was able to concentrate and push those kids out (within an hour of the shot). Epidurals scare me. My husband (not the father of my 1st 2) wants me to go natural this time around (I'm 21 weeks now) and not have anything. I waited as long as I could last time but the shot really REALLY helped. He says I can squeeze his hand so hard I break it if necessary but does not want me to have any drugs. I'm worried he'll think less of me if I have something to help. I told him the next delivery he could do and have it natural. What do you guys think? I know going all natural is the best way, obviously, and will do that if I can handle it but I thought 1 shot of demerol was pretty good too.
2007-07-29 10:09:29 · 16 answers · asked by PK211 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is really up too you. When I was in labor my whole family had begged me to get pain medication. It wasn't until I had been in labor for 18 hours that I finally did get something. I ended up needing an epidural because of getting a c-section. I was scared to get it. It did get rid of the pain completely. Also, nobody will give you a badge of honor if you get through it completely natural. Yes, it is better for the baby but if all you need is a little something, then take it. It will not do you or the baby good if you are aren't able to contentrate to push. Explain to him what your decision is and tell him he needs to support it. Hopefully, he will respect your decision. Good luck with your pregnancy and delievery.
2007-07-29 10:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by lumpy_6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having one shot of demerol with each kid is awesome. To me that is going natural. I believe that it is your body and your husband has no right whether or not to tell you that you can't have a shot. They have absolutely no idea what the pain of labor feels like so they can't judge. My husband was the complete opposite, he was pushing for me to get the epidural so he didn't have to see me in pain. I say do what feels right in the moment, this is the third child so maybe labor with be short and quick and you might be able to do without, but if you feel you need it, by all means, get it!!
2007-07-29 17:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by nikkireno9 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go natural. I did. I took a hypnobirth class. It really helped. The drawback was that the hospital staff wasn't familiar with the method, so they didn't quite know how it was supposed to go. I promised my husband we'd take a Lamaze class this time and learn another method. I'm totally confident that you can do it without drugs, especially your 3rd birth, it should be cake.
If you need a shot of demerol, take it, I'm going to if I need it. I don't want an epidural either!
I just read about something called a sterile water block, that isn't supposed to cause the side effects of an epidural. I'm going to ask about that, too.
2007-07-29 17:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kat H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you needed meds with the first two odds are you will need them this round too. Only you know what your threshold for pain is and it is up to you to decide whether or not you will use medication to get through childbirth. I did choose the natural way for all of my births (except for the one that was a c section) but I have an extremely high tolerance for pain so for me it was easy but some need epidurals, nubane, demerol ect...what ever helps you to be able to enjoy your delivery is what is most important
2007-07-29 23:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by wiccangrl29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this decision should be totally up to you and your husband should know that. If you were thinking of doing something dangerous or questionable, that would be a different story. There's no question that going all natural is considered to be better for the baby but, there is also no evidence that there is any harm done by doing what you are asking. I think your husband needs to understand what he is asking. I think if you want meds, you should ahve meds and you should absolutely feel fine about it. The way I see it, there are pain medications for everything, and when they are safe, no one really questions whether someone in tremendous pain should use them. Why is childbirth any different? Because the baby can't decide to say yes or no? The mother has been in charge of keeping the baby safe and healthy for all those months. I think your husband should know that you will take care of your baby no matter what and he should respect your decision what ever it may be regarding childbirth. Why does he think he has a say in this? Why should you give him the power to tell you what to do in this situation? Is this a control issue for him? How about if you do as you want to with pain meds and he squeezes your hand as hard as he wants to?
2007-07-29 17:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 39 weeks and i plan on going natural. You should definitly do your research about natural ways to handle the "pain". I have found this website great www.givingbirthnaturally.com Take a look at it. In regards to your husband he should be supportive of your choice no matter what you decide and he definitly should NOT think any less of you if you decide for some type of medication. Since you only have 21 weeks there is lots of time to decide and prepare yourselves so that you can at least try and go natural. And remind him that the biggest help during a natural bbirth is to have a good support team, which would include him.
Good luck and congrats
2007-07-29 17:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby cakes, I know you have 2 kids and all, but trust me, medication is not the enemy.
I tried to be a cowboy, and labored for 37 hours naturally. After some cervidel to get my cervix to open I opted for a spinal morphine.
No one loves a cowboy.
My mom had all three of us (nearly 9 pound babies) naturally, because they wouldnt give her anything. She swears medication is the way to go, and if she had had the option she would have taken anything they gave her, including a shot of whiskey.
Get your demerol, and tell your hubby to shut up. He's not the one squeezing a bowling ball out a hole the size of his ear.
2007-07-29 17:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any kids, but I've seen births- THEY HURT.
I can't believe your husband.. it seems awfully insensitive to me.
Some swear by epidurals. One girl/woman I know (34yrs) had an epidural. Then spent 6 months in pain d/t some pinched or iritated nerve from the epidural. That's the only one I've ever heard of- but - wow- for 6 months- it would make me think.
I think in this case- you have to make the choice that's right for you. If he wants to think less of you for that- then just wait until he gets a kidney stone- and tell him not to take anything for it.
If you need back up, ask your doctor for his/her advice.
good luck
2007-07-29 17:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by Christine H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is tha supportive you will be able to do it my hubby was absolutly great i walked the whole time i was in labour both times and with my last one i had it down pat i would get my hubby to hold me up and i would go a bit limp and it seemed to make the contractions hurt less you will figure out your own way and with him supporting you all the way you will do fine i don't think the deorall does too much anyways the contractions for me were the most painful part i think alot of people believe it gets worst biut i find soon as you can start pushing it doesn;t hurt nearly as much
2007-07-29 17:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the hand, tell him if you get to squeeze his balls than youve got a deal. You will go without medication as long as he does. Seriously, the guy obviously has no clue... Im sorry a broken hand is nowhere near as painful as labor. He needs to support you in whatever you decide.
2007-07-29 17:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by celticfairygoddess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋