should i get a divorce?

Question

my husband and i have been together for a year. yesterday i looked at his web history and noticed that he was on a sex site and he was seeking women,couple(m&F),lesbian,and group sex. im already mad bc hes on the site and i want a divorce ,and is it possible that hes gay

he has pictures of his penis on this site, and his pictures. he is a marine

hes only 20 and i talked to his mom about it she said she was going to take a look at it and call me back but she never did i have had signs of him being gay but i ignored it .

he dosnt come back from iraq for 7 months . when we were watching mtv one day he saw this attractive guy and said um very quickly im like who are u lookin at his all o some guy on tv . there many other things also

Answer 1

I would print out the history as proof and then seek a divorce attorney. Whether he is gay or bi doesn't matter...he's not trustworthy!

Answer 2

This is my answer from the first time you asked this:

Doubt it, he was also looking at women and lesbians. As a woman who has praticipated in group sex...the two men that were there never paid any attention to each other just me and the other woman.

I can't help you understand the attraction. But if you ever log on and find he's been looking at full on guy on guy porn then I don't think you should worry. Unless the other things you've noticed were him straight up flirting/ checking out other men. Though I don't know of any woman that would ignore that lol.

He might be bi? But then I'd doubt it. It's just a porn fetish.

Now this is my reply to your newly added info:

I'd be angry that he has pictures of himself on the site. Though I still doubt he's gay I do think he may be trying to fix something up with someone on the site. He might also be trying to find partners to praticipate in group sex with. When He gets back you need to have a serious discussion with him about what you've found. Who cares if you were snooping, he should never have given you reason to snoop. Go have tests done for stds, who knows if he already has cheated on you. And I'd want to know for sure.

Answer 3

I would talk to him before just getting a divorce, so many people just oh get married then hey im leaving you. When you get married its through thick and thin, maybe he has a problem and needs help dealing with it, your supposed to be there to help him, I understand being mad, but unless he is cheating on you, I think this is something that could be worked out! If hes not willing to work it out with you and stop going to the site, than I would tell him your thinking about leaving him unless he can fix this behavior!

Answer 4

Ok, first let me get over the thought about his mother going on a website to see a photo of her son and his penius. oh wow! lol
now for my advice, i'd say this. he is young, nly 20 years of age. he maybe curious, he maybe gay, he maybe bi, he maybe whatever but you will not know unless you speak with him. tell him what you found and ask his reason for posting his d**ck online for everyone to see. tell him honestly that is unacceptable and you dont like that. try working it out. if it happens again, well then maye you should consider divorce because that would mean 1. he has a problem 2. your marriage is based on a lie and 3. he doesnt have enough respect for you to stop doing what you don't want him to do. good luck

Answer 5

Yes, it is possible that he is gay. I think it would be more likely that he was just snooping around on the internet. Do you have any other clues that he is not a good husband? If not, I would just let this go. Give your marriage a little more time and see if you can make it work out.

Answer 6

hey nikki,
its only normal for ALL guys to like porn.
its most men fantasty to have two women in bed or wild three some with two men and a girl but that doesn't mean he's gay.
it only means he fantasizes.
you're only married for a year so you are still learning eachother's habbits so don't jump to the divorce yet cause you haven't gone through the rough parts of marriages yet.
its a men's world where porn is concern hon, he's just keeping the imagination going...

Answer 7

Seek out counseling first. give him option to quit what he was doing and to deleted all of his material. I am currently having problems in my marriage also for sort of the same reason. Divorce should always be the last resort. Seek out a professional to help you and your husband before drastic measures are taken.

Answer 8

Why don't you talk to him first. Perhaps see a counselor. Get over being mad, and find out what is going on. Perhaps he is just playing around in his mind with no intention of following through with it. I agree, you have a right to be angry, but you have to get over it before you decide what you want to do with your life.

Answer 9

Well does he know you know. You and your husband need to talk to each othere about this and see if you and him can get pasted this. If not it's time for a divorce. But make sure to talk to him about it. Need to chat with someone jsut IM me anytime

Answer 10

Divorce is to easy of an out. Do you know remember your vows.

Confront him about it, find out what isn't working in your relationship, ask yourselves why you got married in the first place. Then ask yourselves why you want to get out of it and why?

Best of all seek counseling, could learn alot about one another and more about yourselves too...