Advice for a very shy person?

Question

I've been shy for years and years now, and don't know at all how to behave in social situations, and always feel anxious around people. Can anyone give some advice -- any advice -- on how to slowly get rid of this shyness? I know counseling and medication can help, but I'd really like some unique answers here. Hopefully I'll get some... Thanks.

Answer 1

Being shy isnt bad,everyone used to say I was shy.But im not im just a bit quiet.
Make an effort to speak to other people and always be confident in yourself and what you say.Look people in the eye,even I sometimes can't look them in the eye.But just try to,it helps you appear more confident.
Is it because you dont know what to say?
Or wonder what people think about you?
Try and become more confident in yourself and then youll show it to others.
Start talking to people a bit more each day,smile at someone you dont talk to,youll feel a lot better in yourself and if you do this more and more as the days go by im sure youll become much more confident.

Take part in a new group like a dance group with lots of people you don't know but make sure you all start at the same time then there wont be any cliques.Then you can just be yourself and they wont know wheteher yu were shy in the first place! Then start introducing this 'new' you at other situations!

Good Luck x

Answer 2

I used to be shy, and I still am whenever I'm around new people or someone I like. You can never completely get rid of shyness and just wake up one morning and be friends with everyone around you. However, what helped me was to find people that I could easily get along with and feel comfortable around. This can be tricky, but you have to start somewhere. Once you found a few people that make you feel at ease, you'll see for yourself that you can be a little more outgoing, and maybe even try your luck at meeting more new people.

Answer 3

i found that the best way to overcome shyness is to have a support net. if you go to a party, make sure you know at least 1 person there that you can feel comfortable talking to. join a club or volunteer somewhere where you can be more social as you get more comfotable - the humane society or ASPCA can be really good for this because you instantly have something to talk about with anyone who comes by. if you are incredibly socially anxious, you should def. try medication because there could be something physically wrong with you (make too much of a chemical, etc).

Answer 4

omigosh i used to be very shy when i was younger!!! well like a year ago, lol, i would never talk, i was alwayz quiet never even said a word to anybody becuase i was nervous. anyway, now im sooo outgoing!! haha and not embarrassed to do anything, because i tried out for cheerleading, it really got me out of my shell, hope this helps

Answer 5

Well i personaly think that shyness has something to do with you not being comfortable with who you are, So therefore, you dont want anyone to learn who you are, so you dont talk to anyone from fear of being disliked. Once you learn to like who you are that all will fade. Love yourself. Its only one life to live. Dont waste it being ashamed of who you are, and remember, God dosent make junk. Jesus is the one of all judgement, the one who decides. NO human is good enough to judge They may think they are, but thier not. We are ALL imperfect. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE. I dont care if your Bill Gates. You Are NOT perfect. Noone is. Except for God.

Answer 6

do not get hooked on meds. i used to shy like too but i realized that it doesnt matter what people think of you. u have to learn to accept ur self and like ur self. when u meet someone just be ur self and if they dont like u then its not worth being friends with them. people are just as nervous as u are anyways. so just relax. maybe have a drink or two! j/k

Answer 7

You need exposure. Meet people, make friends and let others know you. Social circle is necessary but make sure that you accompany good people only otherwise it would do more harm than good