How can I accept my situation?

Question

I'm a mid-twenties guy.

Never had any girlfriend or any friends. I'm insecure about my height and weight - I'm 5'4" and skinny. People tend to see me as a kid.

How can I learn to accept that I won't ever find a girl?

I am handsome and girls are attracted to me, but since I'm short they don't want me

Answer 1

Do worry about never finding a girl, just be who you are. Sometimes life has all there expectations about a person in appearence and sometimes I can fully understand and see why it is difficult for some to look in the mirror and accept who they are looking at. We all want to be the 6 foot guy or the tall slender woman we see in the magazines, but we have to realize that things could only pull at different ends for different people and we cannot all be the same. I believe you will find a girl, you just have to be yourself and I'm sure someone with a open mind and open heart will definately not turn you away because of your height.

Answer 2

Everyone has insecurities about the way they look. Some people have really nice hair, but they struggle with acne. Others have a great body, but are dissatisfied with their face. You really can't have it all in this life. However, that's no reason to permanately give up on your social life. Friends will accept you for who you are, and the same thing will happen when you meet a girl that's right for you. People shouldn't judge you by your looks, and if they do, then they're obviously immature and completely disrespectful.

Answer 3

It's silly of you to think this way. Different people like different people for different reasons. Some people only like other short people. Some like tall. Just put yourself out there. Also, if you're trying to be taken seriously as an adult, and not a child, quit riding that skateboard! :) Hang around the type of people that interest you. If you hang around people and have a common interest (book club, or chess club, etc), then you put yourself in an arena where you'll be looked at for your interests first and then for who you are. Just be yourself and put yourself out there. The more people you meet, the better chances you're going to meet the girl who rocks your world.

Answer 4

Hmm...do you think maybe if you found a similarly short woman (perhaps an oriental), she might not consider your diminutive stature as a serious problem? It might be worth a try.

If not, then you just need to find something else to think about. Whenever you find yourself worrying about the matter, just think to yourself 'No, this isn't doing me any good, I should go do something productive instead.' Try to avoid entertaining the thought, just banish it from your mind as soon as it comes up by replacing it with something more engaging.

Answer 5

I dont think u wont find a girl. I think ur not happy witth urself. U have to get to know urself and be happy with urself if u what someone else to be.When u do find a girl I think shes goin to be the one for u because u waited . But remember get to know the person first because u dont wanna find out stuff about them later on. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

if the girl doesn't want you because you're short, then you're looking for the wrong girls. my grama is five feet tall. and she just got married two years ago.
show the girls your good side, tell them ur secrets, and buy flowers every other friday for no reason. when taking them on dates, let them pick where to go. drop them off at their house, give them a goodnight kiss and LEAVE.
you leave because you want them WANT to see you again.
i think it'll work.
dun have to try if u dun wanna.
oh, and be funny. buy platform shoes, but don't wear them.
or you could find a girl your height.

Answer 7

please do not let how tall (your not) get in the way of dating. once you learn to accept it and realize this is me and nothings gonna change. You can become happier with yourself. nothing turn a woman on more than a man with self confidence. some women think that a man won't want to be with them because their taller, I had a boyfriend that was shorter and I never wore heels when we went out and when I told him it was because I was already taller than him, he said I looked good in heels so I would were them when we went out and he loved it. just be confident in yourself and you will definatly find a woman that loves you for it. don't always bring it up in conversation, she knows already and if shes still with you obviouslly it doesn't bother her. good luck

Answer 8

size doesn't always matter but if you don't love yourself then how would you know love and how can you expect anyone to love you?
in order to love anyone you have to love yourself first and thats way you don't have anyone in your life YET!
Find things about yourself you like and get a hobbie that brings out the joy in you... when you glow it shows...
i understand that girls are attracted to you so thats not your problem, your problem lies with you and your inner self.
self search and find the real you cause it seems you are not comfortable in your on skin.

Answer 9

When you least expect it that one girl gone surprise you. Until then just try to enjoy your life the best you can and make the most out of every situation.