My wife’s only sexual experience has been with me. Is it to expected that she will, eventually, desire to be with another man? We’ve been together for 10 years (married for 7). I have been open and honest with her about my concerns. She shuns such conversations. I have been putting forth a great effort at keeping the sex spicy. But I wonder if through my exposing her to porno, fueled or introduced a desire to be with another man, rather than strengthen our bond.
Anyone have any thoughts or experience in this area?
2007-07-29 09:00:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think its great that u trying to keep the sex like spicy,,,also,,my husband was my first and only experience,,and i wouldn't think of cheating on him just to satisfy my own needs,,,if your wife loves you i don't think she would either,,if u still have concerns u should talk to her and express how u feel,,,marriage is about communication
2007-07-29 09:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by ladyluck1122 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've only been with one guy and that is my boyfriend of 3 yrs.
3 yrs. isn't as long as 7 or 10 but here's my opinion. In the beginning I could never imagine myself with anyone else. The idea of another guy being inside me besides him kind of disgusted me, because he was the only one i knew. Now that time has passed i don't think the same way, but at the same time i would never cheat on him. Because you and your wife seem to have good communication and you've confronted her about it and she just shunned you off, I don't think you have anything to worry about. She probably gets a little annoyed that you worry about her wanting to experiment, I think you should just believe her and as long as you keep the "sex spicy" you shouldn't worry. And if the porno is bothering you and you think it's weakening your bond as opposed to strengthening it, maybe you shouldn't watch it together...
2007-07-29 16:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by unknown 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off your doing great by tring to keep the sex spicy, but ask yourself would you be happy sith the same woman only? you have something going for you, she doesn't know any other experience, an there fore she is telling youthe truth, but then again if she did have the other experience whose to say that she can't be satisfied with the same man for the rest of her life? remember it's every womans dream to live happily ever after.
2007-07-29 16:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by KELLY S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it just depends on the woman really. I am married for 4 years, and 9 months pregnant and my hubby is the only person i have ever dated, kisses, made love to etc. and I would NEVER think of cheating on him, ever. I love him unconditionaly or I would not have married him. At the time he proposed I knew that I would spend the rest of my life with him and so end my chance to explore with other men. I dont think you have anything to worry about, i really dont. Good luck!
2007-07-29 16:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Katy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only ever been with my husband and we have been married for 11 years. I have never ever had the desire for another. I couldn't even imagine being with someone else in that way. I love my husband way too much for that, and I am sure your wife feels the same about you.
2007-07-29 16:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I doubt it.
Women can be quite faithful and after all this time I doubt if she is going to go off.
She's probably more worried that you going on about it might mean you are not happy with the sex life she gives you and she is probably frightened that you are gonna cheat on her.
Everyone will always have that small bit of wonder what someone else is like? Doesn't mean that she will turn into a cheating nympho!
Be happy with what you got.... and make her happy always
2007-07-29 16:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by angi zefi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you satisfy her and make her feel good, she'll hold onto you forever ( it takes too long to train somebody else to find all the right spots!). My husband is my only sexual partner and I fantasies about what it would be like to be with another man. I would never act on it and I believe the reason I fantasize about it is because in my fantasies this guy will do things my husband won't. Do you understand what I'm trying to say? As long as you make her fantasies a reality, she won't leave.
2007-07-29 16:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by lippy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have onlt been with one man and have never desred for another.
I think if emotional satifcation is coupled with physical satisfaction the marriage is safe.
However, don't keep confronting her about it. She might think that you are desiring another partner as well. And on the idea of porn: its debatable. SOme poeple have no problem with porn, others think its degrading. She might use it as an outlet for sexual fantasies. Talk to her abou tit.
2007-07-29 16:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never be with any man who introduced or had any inclination towards porn. You must be mad. That's a surefire way to make your wife disgusted and want a divorce. What are you, a sleazebag?
2007-07-29 16:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i have only been with my husband and i wouldnt change that for anything i am more in love with him now then ever before. u always remember the first and u were her first relax and enjoy her and dont worry so much...
2007-07-29 20:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋