My bf & I are having problems w/ our sex life. He's only 25 & doesn't like having sex as much as i do(I'm 20) I have tried everything from wearing sexy little costumes to buying sex books but still complains that he can't keep up so now we go almost a month w/o it. I hate it! I've asked him if it has anything to do w/ me but he assures me I am perfect & he just doesn't feel like it sometimes. Last friday, he told me I should find sum1 to have sex w/ & that he will b perfectly ok w/ it as long I let him know. I can't stand the thought of being with another man then coming home and start to hug and kiss him as if nothing happened. It would feel a little too awkward. What should I do? Go through with his idea or try to make our sex life better? I love him more than anything but I don't want to end up like those couples that don't ever have sex.
2007-07-29 07:46:16 · 7 answers · asked by Mother of a wonderful baby girl! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There might be something medically wrong if he's 25 and not wanting sex for as long as a month. Perhaps you are picking the wrong times to turn him on? If there are underlying issues that are causing tension between you two, then maybe those should be resolved.
Having sex with another man is a BAD idea. You should not do that. First, sex between two people who love each other will bring them closer and is something that is special between them. It will only cause hurt and make your situation deteriorate.
2007-07-29 08:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried going to a doctor with him? Finding out why his libido is down? Is it stress? Is it work?
How's his diet? How's his weight? Healthy sex life is determined by many factors.
If it is not physical (medical), then try counseling for the both of you.
He should be at his top at 25...wanting it all the time. Then again...maybe you are too assertive.
Let him do the leading.
Diet of fish, vitamin E...your doctor will guide you.
soft music...candle light...slow and gentle...
Talk to professionals.
Forget the wondering beyond the marriage. It was a dangerous solution to your intimacy.
One not suggested.
Marriage is a holy entity...work from within. You'll be glad you did.
2007-07-29 07:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by cadvadvocate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a tough spot to be in. If you are not the type to just have sex to get your rocks off there is no way you should have sex outside your relationship. I would really sit him down and tell him just how you feel. He may be a watcher and that is where he is trying to steer you to. He may not like sex very much. If you feel that sexully you and him are not a match than maybe you may have to move on to find your match. To be that lucky to have a woman that loves sex and not want to enjoy it with her is a shame.
2007-07-29 07:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by heads 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he deosnt have a problem with u having sex with someone else then he is not inro the relationship honey sorry but its true cause if u going the extra mile for it hes not as into u as u r him ur best bert let it go and move on with life
2007-07-29 08:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know too much about your situation, but it seems to me that he is probably getting sex from someone else. don't go 100% on this but it's probably what is going on. talk to him. and good luck.
2007-07-29 07:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by gus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-29 11:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what u think is better, isn't it simple???
2007-07-29 07:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by cooldude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋