Ladies...do you see "femininity" as a sign of weakness ???

Question

For those of you who do not embrace your femininty...
why is that?
And I'm not judging...everyone has the right to be who they want to be.
I just can't imagine being a woman and not using femininty to your advantage.

to clarify....being feminine is so much more than batting ones eye lashes! pu-lease! And I'm not talking about using femininty as a weapon... just embracing it as part of who we are as women.

Femininity, IS AN ADVANTAGE!
It is my point for asking this question, as it amazes me that the very women who say they want as much power as men, trade theirs away and lose a whole lotta leverage. I work with I've got, and I'm not going to apologise for using my strenths.

Answer 1

Femininity is a strength as I see it. If you don't use it you lose it. What a tradgety when that happens.

Answer 2

No, actually I enjoy being a girl (or older woman): There's nothing wrong with feeling feminine, and I've never considered it a sign of weakness, if you're referring to character. Now if I get a flat tire on the highway, and some chivalrous male offers to come to my rescue, I may feel "weak" in not knowing how to change the darn thing, or get my hands dirty, but it's a good kind of weakness. I have never wanted to be like a man. I rather enjoy the contrast of velvet and steel, so to speak. But I don't try to use femininity to my advantage. That wouldn't be fair. I'm too old to play those games, anyway.

Answer 3

Femininity is something that comes from within. I actually see it as a form of self-empowerment. By making myself pretty, and asserting my feminine side, I find men and women will listen to me more than if I was a ball buster.

Georgette Mosbacher wrote a book called "Feminine Force: Release The Power Within To Create The Life You Deserve". It's good reading! She is also a great example of a woman achieving what she wants without having to sacrifice her femininity.

Answer 4

No. Weakness is weakness and comes from within. Being feminine doesn't make you weak, just as being masculine doesn't automatically make you strong. I love being a woman! At the same time, I don't use to it my advantage. I think it's tacky to bat your eye-lashes and stuff in order to get what you want, I could never do it. It doesn't reflect well on either me or the person being worked upon. But that's just my opinion.

Answer 5

embracing my femininty is something i never learned to be comfortable with...in myself i would see it as a sign if weakness because i know no man would take the time of day with me..( no matter what they say online). So why bother trying?

but for those who wanna be feminine..and such..more power to them. I have noting against them at all

Answer 6

I love being a woman. And I don't feel it as a sign of weakness.
That's why I don't understand the hating on here - I think these guys love women (some - not all). They get frustrated with a certain aspect of us though and lump us into the ALL WOMEN category which of course always presses someones button -and not in a good way!

Answer 7

I think all women are feminine in their own particular way. I don't see it as a sign of weakness, the same as if asking to men if it is a sign of weakness to be "masculine".
Women that are not "submissive", doesn't mean they are not feminine, and men, for that mater that are more passive are not necessarily not "masculine".

What I believe nevertheless, is that these behaviours are learned. My first love, was a man that was judged as being gay, because he had some feminine gestures. He had been raised in a house just with women, so he learned these gestures, and I will tell you, he was and still is not gay at all.

Strength and weakness is about character and we build our character through decisions or lack of them through all our life.

Answer 8

I only see parts of "femininity" as weak because they're defined that way... like overly emotional, superficial, etc.

I'm pretty feminine, and I have many typically feminine interests. What bothers me is that those interests are judged to be somehow "lesser" than typically male interests. For example, isn't watching reality tv and watching sports equally superficial? What's the difference between buying clothes and buying sh!t for your car? Why is it cool for women to be interested in sports, etc, but if a man is interested in, say, decorating or the theatre, he's deemed a lesser person?

Basically, there's nothing wrong with femininity, but there is something wrong with judging femininity as inferior.

Answer 9

I prefer to be more balanced. I like having both masculine and feminine qualities. But do I embrace femininity - not really just because it is not in my nature. I am just not a girlie-girl and I never will be because it is not who I am.

Answer 10

Nope, femininity is a gift that women show enjoy .There is nothing wrong with a girl being feminine , that is just the way we are made.

Answer 11

no,I see a truly feminine woman as possessing class and integrity who perhaps have more confidence and self esteem then pseudo masculine women.Those women truly believe that the feminine traits they have been born with are inferior.The games and toys they played with in childhood when their intrinsic natures showed like nuturing and sensitivity become shameful to them.I mean one thing i can't fathom is that as a child little girls are sweet and delicate and want to take care of their dolls and baby borns and whatnot but when they get older and learn of feminism they ditch that repetoire of behaviour and deem it to be contemptible?That is our nature in alot of ways,most little boys use those dolls for fighting if they had the chance.Males are born with 10% more testosterone.Also i believe women should have the same rights as men but there are so many staunch feminists who are plain arrogant and self righteous and i would often feel that I personally am more intelligent then them but am more refined and posess humility and so am not going to shout my credentials out of hauteur.Alot of these women would perhaps underestimate me purely as i do not join the scores of women who curse and belge and insult and shout like men.I personally love feminity,its who i am and that's not going to change and i admire men for their masculinity!