I always feel that I'm unimportant to others and will be forgotten very easily. Is there something wrong w/me?

Question

Can someone please analyze why I would feel this way? B/c of this or as a result of this, I disregard people very easily. "Who cares what they think, they are nothing to me." Should I treat everyone I encounter (including strangers on the street) as a significant person that deserves time and respect?

Answer 1

that is a natural feeling

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Answer 2

The only thing wrong with you is a crystal clear perception of the truth about how those around you feel - both towards you and towards each other. Generally speaking, in day-to-day lives when things are relatively stable, humans don't care much about one another in a community sense. It's only when the going gets tough that people learn to communicate and cooperate.

The way you've described it doesn't sound very flattering, but at its core, what you describe is something that's evolved in humans because it's a very efficient behavior. We can't afford to become too emotionally entangled with too many people, it would just wear us out before we even left the starting gate. So to most in the world, each of us generally should maintain a somewhat cold detachment, at least if we are to remain sane. However, that doesn't mean you have to give up caring altogether. I generally pay little attention to those around me, but sometimes I sit down and contemplate the world - it's in those moments of deliberate introspection that I permit myself the luxury of "caring", at least to the fullest extent possible. It's at those times that I can marvel at the sadness and awesome tragedy that is our modern world, and not have it be a distraction. Sure, I technically care _all_ the time, but I can't live my life just focusing on that one thing - I have to put caring on the backburner once in awhile, otherwise I'd never be able to live.

So we're all unimportant to each other, and yet that is by choice. Revel in your anonymity, just look at those who have none (celebrities) and realize the precious gift your solitude truly can be.

As for treating people on the streets one way or the other, a healthy attitude is that every person you meet deserves respect by default - but they have to maintain their right to that privilege. Even if you're related to them. If they don't, or if they do something to destroy it, then no more respect is due them. By treating "respect" as the default option, but an option that can change, we tend to foster more harmonious interactions among our peers.

Answer 3

To me it sounds like you have had some real tradegy in your life and you for whatever reason didn't bond with your parents or caregivers.

When we are young and I mean infancy into toddler years; which is the biggest reason people should find a way to stay home with their kids for those first 6-7 years, we have to bond with our parents or something happens to us chemically and the people who don't wound up feeling this way and or worse.

Those generally are the main two causes and to be honest the only causes I've encourtered.

It doesn't mean there is no hope you need to find someone to mentor to you and lift you up and help you to deal with these things head on. The younger you are when you do this the better and the easier it will be. Over time and I'm not talking a few weeks or months it will become easier and you will find you feel this way less and less.

Answer 4

Whether you feel it or not...everyone is important! Sometimes the sheer number of acquaintances means that we don't always get to reflect that reality. However, I'm paying attention now.

It is important to me ...that YOU cheer up and enjoy life. What you have said indicates YOU have a sensitive soul. There are not enough of YOU in this world...and that makes every one of YOU very, very important.

And don't give up on others either, because they mostly feel the same way as you do. They just don't vocalize it. Only a sensitive soul does.Have you ever read that the sweetest sound to a person is the sound of their own name? I think it is probably true.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with you; everyone who is honest has felt this way at one time or another. I look at it this way: I may be "unimportant" to the person or people I am currently around, but that can change. We are all important to God, and He knows we have our doubts. Should you treat everyone you meet with respect and consideration? Yes, because you never know when you are "meeting angels" unaware, and perhaps the kindness you show to someone else will be the "angel point" they themselves need in their own life at that time and place.

Answer 6

You suffer from low self esteem and this reflects in your attitude toward others. Stop when in an association and actually listen to what another person is saying. It may take some practice but you have an indifference complex that need some attention. If you can't do this or have problems attempting to rectify this malady according to these instructions you may want to visit a reputable therapist..

Answer 7

Ultimately its up to you. I tend to be pleasant and take any slight as a person just having a bad day. If you think you really are having serious issues with this then finding council would help you out. If you can't afford it proper then sometimes social services can hook you up.

Answer 8

Take a Bible, start about 2/3 of the way through, read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, and you'll probably feel different. Not necessarily from the words. Something happens. You'll see.

Answer 9

Try to give all a kind word..
A first impression with stick with someone forever..
I sure they are nothing wrong with you..I think its good how you feel...look at it this way...you don't get your feeling hurt easily.

Answer 10

Not really. It seems what you have to offer is not appreciated. Just be yourself and stop worrying about what others think.