I love my wife and will not give up on her for anything. But I also love this effasive, indulgent, trusting, chatterbox barometer of life's unplanned happiness(es) who seem to like me. Wtf am I supposed to do?
2007-07-29 05:01:48 · 23 answers · asked by cynic 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ideally, you have a very narrow view of life and hope you go through it happily with your blinders intact. I and most of us on the other hand do stumble once in a while. I didnt go looking for anything. It just happened.
2007-07-29 16:07:38 · update #1
You will continue to be confused as long as you stay with one foot in one relationship and one foot in the other...in fact with time, things will become more confusing. You'll pull more to the other woman, your wife will hold on tighter, the o/w will want more of a commitment at some point then, you'll feel like you're being pulled in a million different directions...everything will be messed up!
I hate to say this, but the only way you can do both relationships justice is to concentrate on one and only one. Otherwise, you'll have to split yourself and it will be noticed (and not liked) on both sides.
Just because someone else likes you is not a good reason to abandon your wife--there will always be those temptations. The fact that you still love her says a lot about your relationship potential and this is one temptation that your marriage does not need. Give your wife all the things you committed to giving her when you got married and get rid of the other one. The grass isn't always greener.
2007-07-29 05:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone and walk away. You life with your wife, and if you have any, children is not worth a little infatuation. You are going to mean many women in your life you are going to think you love or want. You don't. Don't ruin a good marraige and a good thing and destroy your wife over something that will not last. Besides what kind of woman that knows your married will still be with you. Ask yourself that. Someone who has ruined her own life and who knows who elses. And if she doesn't know your married than you are being dishonest with her and yourself anyway. Move on. Take your wife away somewhere romantic and rekindle the magic between you two. Don't be a cliche of a man and leave a marriage or be a cheating lying husband everyone ends up hating. And STAY away from this other chick. Its better for you not to be tempted.
2007-07-29 06:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to be in love with more than one. I tell you what you are supposed to do, you are to resist temptation like the rest of us who are married. And believe me it is not easy to do. How better can you prove your love for your wife then resisting temptation, or the love of someone else. You took a vow to love only your wife. And as hard as that may be you should honor your vows. Put your wife in your position, what path would you want her to take if she was in the same postition as you. Honor her marriage or throw everything away and get caught up. Think about it my dear man. Is this worth the risk of getting caught and losing everything.
2007-07-29 05:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no marriage expert but here's my take. I believe you can be in love with your wife and love another, just not be in love with another. That would be love with some infatuation thrown in. Not the lasting kind of relationship love. You clearly need time away from BOTH of them to carefully examine what/who you want. I'm not saying separate, maybe spend a day by yourself to get your head straight. You owe it to your wife to do that...if you really won't give her up for anything, then you need to avoid this other person at all costs. Just because you won't give her up doesn't mean she won't give you up if she finds out. I hope it works out for you.
2007-07-29 05:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Empress1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the thrill of it all makes you think that you can get away with it; it is so very exciting on top of that, well, at least while it lasts.
But, . . if you get caught by wify, you will not only avoid the other woman and all women within a 1000 mile radius, like a plague, but your love buds will die for a very very long time indeed. Dont push your luck, and stay put lol . . .!
2007-07-29 05:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by firefaerie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not the smartest thing in the world but you need to check your feelings about you wife what made you fall in love with her, etc sure it is possible that those feelings may have muffled a bit but should still be there if you cannot honestly say you are in love with your wife than it is up to you to let her know that and why also dont be surprised she may or may not be prespective Good Luck
2007-07-29 06:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by brian C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made a promise when you got married, remember? to cleve only unto her. Keep your manhood in your pants and don't let this infatuation with another woman go any further. You aren't single anymore, and you made a vow. Guess you have to decide if you an honorable man of your word or just a lieing jerk.
2007-07-29 05:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of what attracted you to your wife. Think of when you first kissed her. Everything within reason, share with your wife. Be romantic. Have a date. Play sexy games with her( nurse and patient). She is your mate for life and should be your trusting best friend. Love and respect.
2007-07-29 05:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by moeschk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well lets face it we are all animals in nature,and eying someone other than your wife is a natural instinct,but its up to you to control your destiny,just make sure that if you play you pay,it will only take a kiss in the public to ruin a marriage and life so be careful,look ahead and envision whats your life gonna be if you play with this other one and you get busted,whose going to look like a looser in the end,think,think,think,is it worth a trouble ? good luck to yuo
2007-07-29 05:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u cannot love two. I think the other one is giving you the chance to feel that you are single again and dating or she is giving you another taste of sexual pleasure. sooner or later, if this continues, u will faced with decisions to make
2007-08-02 03:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋