Do you think this means he's lost interest?

Question

There is this guy who always flirted with me at work. I could tell he was very interested. On my last day there, I didn't say goodbye, so I sent him a text message later that evening telling him goodbye, and that I was sorry that I didn't say it before I left. He did send me one back saying that it was ok, and then he thanked me for helping him with some work. Well after having listened to other people's opinions of him at work (which were not good), I sent him a rude text message the next day. But then I apologized in another text message later on for what I wrote. A few weeks have gone by, and I hadn't sent him anything nor have I heard from him, so last weekend, I sent him a text saying hello, and that I hope he's doing ok. But he never responded which was ok. But I sent him another one yesterday saying hello, but he didn't respond again. Does this mean he's lost interest in me?

sorry. I meant to put this under singles lol. But I guess it's kind of appropriate for here too, because he's married. sorry.

p.s. he's a manager, and I was his subordinate.

also, his wife is another state, and he's a strip club loving cheater.

also i have to add that no one at work trusts him.

also, his wife is another state.

Answer 1

Please, do not set yourself up for heartache, and that is exactly what you would be doing if you get involved with a married man. I had a friend who was involved, she was 28 and the guy was 35 and all he did was put her off. She couldn't see him unless he had time to see her. And as for the bad gossip you heard about him in the office, he may have a reputation for cheating on his wife. Take this as a gift that he didn't respond and move on. My friend wanted him there for her birthday, he wasn't, his baby was sick. He would make plans and break them, and always leaving his wife but he never could seem to leave. And if my friend went somewhere are got out of pocket he would throw a fit. I told her he is the one that is married not you, you do not have to answer to or obey him like some trained dog. Girl this is the 21st century and women have got to start having a little respect for themselves and stop lowering there standards. I am talking to you like a sister. You seem to be a wonderful person , so don't set yourself up like that. Allowing a man to have his cake and eat it to. What did Beyonce say in UPGRADE YA? Sending me a drink ain't appeasing, you have to come harder. Make a man work for you , so YOU don't have to be text messaging him all the time and getting the cold shoulder when they don't respond. Don't take us back to the CAVE MAN era when all a man had to do was grab a woman by the hair and drag her to the cave. Darling reflect on your self worth and value yourself. I haven't responded to Family and Relationships for a while but I did today and I see I was sent here for a reason. Make the right decision, choose my friend self respect.

Answer 2

Come on, he's married, and doesn't seem interested from what you wrote...are you sure you aren't mistaken about him flirting earlier? And since you wrote him a rude message based only on petty office gossip, I'd wager he doesn't want anything to do with you, romantic or not. It would take a very forgiving person to get over that, even with your apology. You've likely lost this friend for good, but learned a lesson about gossip and flying off the handle - one we all have to learn. :)

(And, please don't screw around with a married person romantically...no good comes out of that.)

Answer 3

Why would you send him a rude text message because of other people's bad opinion of him? He probably was never really interested in you personally. He's married. More than likely he was just looking for a temporary escape from his marital woes. Consider yourself lucky.

Answer 4

I seems like you like him. He is married.Not a good thing. He is probably figured that you like him and he is trying to do the wise thing-- not answering you. You are lucky that he is not using you like other married men do.
Just stop text messaging him. If you see him, just act casual. You have already sent him 2 messages. If someone doesn't return your message, don't do anything further.

Answer 5

good grief, if he's married he had no business being "interested" in the first place, and frankly, neither did you.
He probably got smart after you so crudely sent him a rude text message and wrote you off as just another rude person, probably just deletes your messages as soon as they come in.
I know I would.

Answer 6

if you are the one texting and he has not returned the texts then yes at the least I would say he has lost interest so it is time to move on

Answer 7

You need to suck it up and press on...why do you want to be with a married man who you say is a strip club loving cheater?!?! That is just not natural.....

Answer 8

oh hm.. you said he's married? Maybe since hes married, he felt guiltly flirting with you. Don't worry, maybe something happened to his cell phone..many reasons. Just wait. It takes time....he'll find out he made a mistake for not answering your texts.

Answer 9

He's not interested and extremely busy being married. Move on.

Answer 10

I think...
you are behaving in an immoral manner...
and that I hope if you continue to pursue married men that one day it bites you in the a.s.s. and women hit on your future husband...
just a little karma.