Women: Do you like male Ob/GYN doctors?

Question

No offense to male doctors that are in this field. I dont like them because they are rude. and the think they know whats best for women. i dont think they know what they are doing. Thay dont know where to begin when us women have cramps and periods and what we go through. i had a doctor (well he was a resident) and he tried to tell me what he thought was wrong with me. clearly i have had a UTI before and he tried his hardest to tell me otherwise.. So here we are arguing what we think. so then im can you go get someone in here that knows what the heck they're doing? and then he gets all mad and storms out the room like a child... has anyone ever had this problem or similar to this? tell me what you think. No dumb answers

Answer 1

Good for you, I'm glad you stood up for yourself. I've had two different male OBGYNs. One was terrible! He didn't believe me when I was telling him what was wrong with me, his nurse didn't believe me either-- she was rude. My other male doctor was wonderful! He believed me and knew right away what was wrong with me.

Interns and resident doctors can be difficult. They want to be right, but they lack experience....people experience. They are so textbook-ish and so opinionated.

Answer 2

I have a female just because I don't feel comfortable with a male doctor down there on me. It all depends on the person though and the doctor. A female can be just as rude as a male. Some of my friends have the best ob/gyn male doctors and I love my female it just depends. Just get a new doctor

Answer 3

Some male ob/gyn doctors are good, others not so good. At the moment I have a female ob/gyn and to me she's the best, I feel like she understands me more than my previous male doctor. Males don't know what women go through when we're on our periods, PMS etc , on the other hand women docs do and I just feel more comfortable with a female doc

Answer 4

Sorry you've had rude male doctors. Keep in mind that not all male ob/gyns are rude.

I have two favorite ob/gyns... one is male, one is female. There are 6 doctors in the practice I go to, and if my favorite female one isn't available, I would choose my favorite male doctor over the other female.

He has the best bedside manner. I miscarried a while ago, and he was there for me. He was compassionate, and so very gentle.

There are rude doctors out there, both female and male. Try not to generalize.

Answer 5

To me a doctor is a doctor, regardless of their sex. Training and education is all the same.
Just because a doctor is a woman does not make them any more of an expert on what's going on inside of a females body. Every female has a different body and therefore differences in what they experience.
I have had both male and female OB/GYN's and never seen a difference in how they perform or diagnose.

Answer 6

I've only had one male gynecologist and he moved to Canada last year, so this year will be my first yearly exam with a female gyno. Actually, he was a family doctor but he did all my gyno exams when I would go in for yearly checkups as he used to do family practice and OB/GYN. He was really sweet and nice, very professional and knowledgeable. He never tried to act like he "knew" what it was like to deal with female issues. In fact, it was funny, because I would go in my yearly exams and he would apologize if he thought he was hurting me in anyway and said that men have no clue what it's like to get an exam like that done and would talk to me about my school, my work, my husband, tell me about his kids, etc, anything to try and distract me from what was going on so I would feel better. He was the best doctor I ever had and I was sad when he moved.

Also, good for you for being assertive and standing up for what you believed in with the resident. It seems like (just based on what I've heard about them) that residents are so eager to show off what they know because they have finished med school and are proud of themselves and sometimes forget about the more compassionate side of medicine. It's your body, so you need to take care of yourself and get the best treatment for your needs.

Answer 7

Male doctors know what they are doing, they did attend college. But, they can not relate to us as women. I had a male doctor perform my gynecological exams. He was never rude, and very gentle and considerate. He did not assume that he knew how I feel as a woman. I think it just depends on the doctor, as to how they are going to act. I have had a problem with p.a.s in other departments. where they came about with the wrong diagnosis. They told my husband that he just had a little sprain, when in fact he had ripped all of the ligaments/tendons in his ankle.

Answer 8

I went to a male GYN before and I hated it. He made the room freezing cold. He used a speculum that was too large, he used the one that he uses one women that had children. I never had children. Because he used one that was too large, it caused some bleeding afterwards. Then he could not even find my cervix!

My current OB/GYN has a warm room, with a heated bed and padded stirups. She heats up the speculum and uses the right size (I didn't even feel a thing).

Answer 9

I wouldn't trade my male OBGYN for anything! I would recommend him to anyone I know...in fact, my mother-in-law, best friend, and sister-in-law all go to him based on my referral...and LOVE him! He's awesome! I have more respect for him that any other doctor. He has gotten me through many m/c, two bedridden-severely complicated pregnancies followed by premature deliveries via emergency c/s, managed my thyroid cancer during a pregnancy, provided strong emotional support through PPD, and many more things. He's great!

On the other hand, I have had a female before and didn't like her at all. She was rough, rude, and insensitive to the m/c I was having.

Answer 10

I have a male gyno and a different male gyno delivered my daughter. I like both female and male gynos.
What I don't like are rude and incompetent doctors. Period. I have had several. My advice is that if you don't like them, even if you can't put your finger on why, get rid of them. If you aren't comfortable with your doctor, then you aren't going to tell them everything they need to know.
I changed pediatricians because I didn't like his bedside manner. He was an alright doctor, just didn't like his personality.