2007-07-29 04:32:14 · 14 answers · asked by nupur p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's as lonely and difficult as you allow it to be (barring financial issues).
Friends and family can be a great support system...get involved in hobbies or classes or volunteer work to keep you busy as well as socialize and network with other people.
Even people in relationships can be lonely...being alone (single) isn't the same as lonely. It means you make decisions just for you now (if there are no kids) without having to consider anyone else's wants or needs but your own.
If you want to have another partner at some point, then get to know people and date...it's not difficult but may take some time before you meet someone with whom there is mutual interest. Don't be in a rush, and have a great time whether in a relationship or not. This life is too short not to enjoy every minute we can!
2007-07-29 04:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll go thru an emptiness because there is no longer someone in the picture on a daily constant basis......it's an adjustment.
The reasons you got divorced are what determines how you'll get thru it.
Was your partner irresponsible with money? Then having that problem gone will allow some type of relief. (or the end to any problem experienced with your partner).
You'll go thru the 'stinkin' thinkin' syndrome and sleepless nites - as well as nitemares.....the lonliness is normal, and the seclusion may be what you need temporarily to get thru the feelings that you'll be overwhelmed with.
You don't have to fail yourself, find your strengths and accentuate the positive - what can you do with your life now that it's not on someone else's terms - you can take your time and get to know yourself again.
When you're ready to start meeting people again for potential dating, the advice recently given to me was, get rid of your 'I'm taken' attitude and be a friendly to all type of person - show your confidence in your smile and your attitude then you'll be able to get on with life again.
I'm at the point where I'm wanting to date again and am working on getting rid of being gunshy and that advice really opened my eyes.
2007-07-29 11:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not difficult. It gets lonely, but the good times are good. Difficulty in finding another partner is up to you. I suggest learning about yourself before jumping back into the dating pool.
2007-07-29 12:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might seem lonely at first. But you need to find yourself again before you start seeking another relationship. Is there something you have always wanted to do but couldn't because you felt restrained from your partner? Go ahead and do it now. Enjoy life while you can. You need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Go out with your friends; go shopping, go to a movie or to a nice restaurant. Do something for yourself.
Good luck and God bless!
2007-07-29 11:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not have to be difficult or lonely. It also depends on how high you set your sights. Make sure what you are looking for is realistic, learn from your previous mistakes, and the minute you stop looking is when someone finds... you.
2007-07-29 13:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by brandon b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's a relief. Take the time to breath and figure out what went wrong. And watch out for the rebound. People will jump back into a relationship due to lonliness. Look at yourself also. To understand what went wrong will make for a better relationship next time.
2007-07-29 11:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by Gabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not married and i feel lonely & heart broken
my dad got divorced 12 years ago but met someone 8 years ago and got remarried and doesn't feel lonely
it depends about how willing you are to be strong and love yourself and love life
things are always hard in the beginning but don't let the negative energy take over
anyone can be happy when they decide so!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-29 11:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by mallouna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is harder when going through a divorce. i think you have to give your self time to get over your spouse,so you don't carry any baggage into another relationship. it will help take your mind off of things by getting a few friends to go out with & believe me you will feel so much better. it's also a good thing to have someone to talk to & depend on when you feel down. praying is also another good way of helping in rough times. good luck
2007-07-29 11:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by linnyhastheanswer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not take a break from all the grief you have experienced? I mean soon enough you can be back into that same grief so I would say you need to enjoy your independance.
2007-07-29 11:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be lonely at first, but you have to look at the bright side of life, your single again, and can go out to look for new people.
2007-07-29 11:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by R O to the D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋