Secret of successful marriage?

Question

What is the secret of a sucessful marriage that lasts forever?

Answer 1

It's not really a secret, but my husband and I have an awesome marriage. We trust each other because we are both completely honest with each other. I always try to live by the golden rule (treat others the way you wish to be treated). I consider him before making any decision, even the little ones. We tell each other we love each other each day we speak. We both try to do little things to make each other smile, like he'll bring me flowers and I give him back rubs. I always tell him how I feel.
One huge thing that people do wrong while having arguements is says words like, "You never" or "You always", and words like that just aren't true. You are bleeping out all the good things and they get defensive. It's best when you have a disagreement just to tell the other person how you feel and not to blame it on them being a bad person.
My husband and I have made a promise to one another not to call each other names. We say nice things to each other to boost our selfesteem.
I think the reason we do so well together is because we are best friends. I tell him everything, and I know he will never judge me. I love him with all my heart, and I appreciate him and everything he does for me.
Those are some of my secrets. Good luck in your marriage!

Answer 2

No real secret just a lot of common sense and knowing one's self and one's proposed partner. Many people marry expecting that marriage will change the other person into something else. It won't. You need to know what you want and who you are and thenfind a person who is what you want and loves what you are. When you marry you need to become and remain friends which is not the same as being lovers. You need to have similar interests or at least something major incommon like a love of travel, so you can have some activitiy to do together that you both really enjoy. You must have enough trust in the other person to let them live their lives without wanting to question and monitor,scrutinize and supervise every moment, movement and motivation. You must have enough respect for the other person so that you will not do anything that might hurt them or be detrimental to them or their well being, you must be willing to put the other persons happiness above your own at least 60 percent of the time and no more And most importantly each person must feel this way about the other because it will not work if one does and the other does not.

Answer 3

There is no secret to a successful marriage. All it
takes is two people that love, are committed,
communicate, respect one another, and are
honest with each other, and that will make the
foundation of the marriage which no-one can break
and cause the marriage to last until the end of
time.

Answer 4

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Answer 5

Marriage is not a 50% -50% propositition it is a 100% - 100%. Respect from and to both partners I think is key along with communication! None of this is helpful though without TRUST!

Answer 6

There are many things that factor into a successful marriage:
communication, trust, honor honesty, respect,admiration, playfulness, encouragement for the other, shared interests as well as individuality of each person , and of course unconditional love.

Answer 7

Having been married for 30 years I believe you need a sense of humor and a lot of patience. Don't sweat the small stuff. Its never 50/50. Someone always gives more or less. Don't give up.

Answer 8

The secret of successful marriage are;
love,communication, affection, passion, listening to each others, devotion, understanding, protecting each others against all odds, and touching.........

Answer 9

I dont think there is a secret...basically just keep the communication lines open..trust one another and remember that whats best for you mat not be whats best for the marriage

Answer 10

To keep the romance alive. Keep your relationship fresh and interesting.
After 12 years together my man never knows what kind of surprise I am planning for him. Could be spent day baking his favorite treats, sexy little outfit for a quiet night. He loves it. Our relationship is strong, secure and filled with adventure.