She does'nt want me to work on a farm. She wants us to live with her mother. She wants things that i can not afford. She forces me to wear the colthes I don't like. I can't vist friends. she even told my boss to fire me. She always wants all my money. She always buys things for herself and uses the change for things for me.
2007-07-29 04:06:53 · 30 answers · asked by rocky r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
... sounds like your enemy and not like your wife...
If I were you, I would get a divorce and try to find somebody who treats me like a human being and not like rubbish!!!
I wouldn´t accept a husband who tries to separate me from my friends & family, tells me what to wear and where to work and takes all my money.... why should you accept a wife like that???
2007-07-30 00:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words - divorce lawyer.
Assuming what you describe is correct, and there isn't something significant to the story that you are omitting, there is no hope for this marriage so you should get out now while you can, and before she drives you to bankruptcy.
If she's so greedy and money hungry, why would she tell your boss to fire you? That's the only thing that makes sense.
Next time around you gotta look for signs of compatibility before you say "I do", as I can't believe she was 100% different when you were dating.
2007-07-29 11:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your plight like that? Are you living off your wife's income? Or living with your in-laws out of choice? You perhaps know that some men choose a life of subordination because they are unable to earn themselves and provide for a family of their own. These people are known in India as "Ghar Damaad/Jamai".
Without meaning any disrespect to you I think that you have some weakness which you haven't revealed in your question. Or maybe you have made some compromise somewhere which makes your wife dominate over you.
If I am wrong, then there is every reason to put your foot down and say a firm no to her unjust demands. You just have to do it and without delay. You can't afford to be treated as your wife's doormat.
2007-07-29 11:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has serious mental health concerns, it is abuse by woman on man, you have the right to be who you are, and she has no right to dictate your life. this sounds a very unhappy relationship. What you can do is in your own power, ask your self what you want first of all, is you are not happy find out what would make you happy, and how you can get what you want. You should be appreciated, at least you know that life is miserable, and you feel controled. Choosing a life partner is to share life, and be who you are, if your wife is not happy the way you dress, your work, and wants something out of you which you are not comfortable with then it is clear that she is not happy with you but is trying to make someone out of you, it must be very hard for her to love the real person in you. Tell her to choose the man she would like to be with and leave you alone to be who you are.
2007-07-29 16:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not criticising woman: this is the practical thing:
They have ( mother or wife) no full maturity; they might have adamant attitude: sometimes good mother will spoil the family sometimes beautiful wife will spoil the family atmosphere: so you do not hate or to be affectionate on both sides: do not react for her activities towards your mother: and do not shoe it to your mother also: take care of both and act according to the situation: think calmly:
2007-07-29 23:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by ar.samy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this situation is to try to talk to her.Tell her that as much as she loves her mother you love ur mother too,and you can't live without her the same she cant live without hers.If she likes then its ok but if she still wants what she wants use reverse pshychology on her.
2007-07-29 11:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly I know someone just like this, and no matter how much we (our mutual friends) try to convince him to grow some nads and stand up for himself, he just let's his wife walk all over him - including, like you posted, keeps his money and sometimes gives him a small allowance to spend.
Here's the hard answer you need to hear. Stand up and face her. Make it solidly clear that the relationship is going to be on equal footing. If she isn't willing to work with you on that, cut your loss and move on. Soon.
2007-07-29 11:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by gary h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to control you. She obviously has issues with herself. How can you not talk to your mom? I couldn't imagine not being able to talk to mine. Maybe you should consider a divorce. You might hurt for awhile but I think you would be better off than in the situation you are in.
2007-07-29 12:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.First you try and tell her that you are quite unhappy with her. Let us see if she can live and let live. If you have not troubled her, what right does she have to spoil your peace of mind?
If she stubbornly refuses to change, there is no point going ahead hoping for good times. Just divorce her- But why did you allow it to go to such an extent?
2007-07-29 11:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by artqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you feel like you need to be with a controling woman and if she doesnt wont you to be around youre mother or friends then she wouldnt either you need to leave her and let her control somebody else she is no good controling people are unconfident about them selves thats why she feels like she has to control you and you need to put youre foot down and stop her and dont give her all of youre money life is too short to be unhappy
2007-07-29 11:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, both partners must adjust and accomodate for a marriage to work well but on the cost of one's self esteem is a big no no.
warn her that u r not happy with her attitude and talk to her frankly abt all this which bothers u. let her also speak her side. discuss and decide.
2007-07-30 15:46:33 · answer #11 · answered by purna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋