Must have job and do all housework and pay half the bills?
2007-07-29 04:05:50 · 7 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do ALL the housework and pay half the bills? Are you planning to live with my ex-husband?
2007-07-29 04:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Amy W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, thats not the "new rule", i'm sure its only a rule that some have.
I believe that each partner helps the other out any way they can. Weither its money or love or help, its all a 50/50 relationship but there are times it may become a higher or even lower ratio. The real phrase is give and take as each partner will have to do that.
An example would be me and my last live in gf of 4yrs. We both worked but I made 4X as much as her. I paid all the household bills and my personal bills, bought all the groceries, gave her $$$ "just because", Cosigned her loans to get eye surgery, autos, etc. She paid her child support, her credit card bills her car pmt and that was it, and only cleaned house truthfully 4X in 4yrs, I did cleaning when I came home.
This went on for 4yrs, and when I needed a bit of help as financial hard times hit me instead of helping me as I helped her, like a couple living together would do, she packed her stuff by her own choice and found someone else who could pay her way.
Thought I had the right person and was doing the right thing as she made lotsa promises and statements that I was her 1
true love, but to no avail. Thats what I mean when I say sometimes the ratio is higher and sometimes its lower, compromise is the real answer, work together as a couple to help each other out, and you'll both be fine in the long run.
sorry for my life story, just meant to exemplify my answer, nothing more.
2007-07-29 13:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, wow, that's harsh. In general, I think they should try to split bills, rent, chores, etc. evenly to prevent either person being overburdened. If someone absolutely can't find a job and pay their share, I think they should have to do the housework and errands to compensate so the household isn't dragged down. And though it's a bit cruel, sometimes people have to kick a slacker out if they become totally overwhelmed pulling both weights long-term.
2007-07-29 11:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by blackbyrus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its determined on an individual basis. Most woman are willing to do more these days to earn their keep, so their guys won't turn into a self-righteous pig. Its a shame, I was the same way....but now I'd rather be by myself instead of living with a man who THINKS I don't earn my keep even though I work, pay 1/2 the bills, do ALL the cleaning, etc.
2007-07-29 11:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are describing is having a roomate, not living together as a couple.
Roomates are expected to pay their share and clean up after themselves.
Couples pool their money and do things together equal.
2007-07-29 11:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mr R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MUST HAVE A JOB GET THE BILLS PAID TRUST
2007-07-29 11:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule for marriage. Every marriage is different.
2007-07-29 11:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋