My mom is moving out secretly from her husbands home into my home. There is today left, and tomarrow she is moving out. She still is in her husbands home and her nerves are a wreck. She has packed boxes, and also separated stuff secretly. She has to do it while he is at work. Any advice you might give her for her nerves or whatever?
2007-07-29 03:52:36 · 8 answers · asked by tickertock 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously, since she is doing it secretly, I assume it may be because of fear? If so, let her know that once its said and done she will never have to live in that fear again. Though it may be hard, it just gets better and better everyday.
2007-07-29 03:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boy do I know what she is going threw. I done that 2 years ago myself. I moved out of our house while he was spending the weekend with his gf. I was on pins and needles the whole time.
Tell her to just keep one thing in her mind...the sooner she gets out of there the better she is going to feel. Not much can be done right now to help her with nerves while making this move cause she is scared and nerves, I know I was when I did it. The only thing I know that will really help her out is for every body that she can get to help her get out of there go do it. Have a "moving party" everybody pitch in and help her get out of there as fast as she can get out. She will calm down later on after it is over with, maybe a week or so later. After she is out, she will still have to deal with him calling her and begging her to come back and so on and so forth.
But really everybody that she can get over there to help her get her stuff out of there will help her out more than anything at all. It is going to be hard but it can be done. Good luck!
2007-07-29 04:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a cocktail and vacuum, some type of cleaning the house will surely throw him off the trail.
When a person is nervous, it is better to be active physically to burn off some of that nervous energy. Don't sit around, then it will be worse.
2007-07-29 04:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she is afraid of physicial violence, she could get an order of protection against him. for example if he has threatened her or abused her (physically, verbally, emotionally) she should go to the court and get one. as for nerves, the best cure to calm down is a xanax or other relaxant, if she has one. if not, give her a foot massage while she closes her eyes and listens to relaxing music like Enya. good luck soon it will be over!
2007-07-29 04:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by kallista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to be secretive and face the situation head on.
The stress of worry is creating much of the nervousness.
If there is a danger of him physically harming her, then you need to get police involved from the start. If he is that way, he will be at YOUR doorstep when he figures out where she's at.
Otherwise, the secrecy is going to cause worse hard feelings than being up front with her intention. (Not to mention, him not being there while she 'sorts' their belongings is not right, in my opinion.)
2007-07-29 04:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by gary h 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stick to it, take a mild sedative and tell her to stay with her plans. It's gonna go down later when he come home and finds her missing. But that's not the issue. She deserves to be happy and that's all she needs to help her focus.
2007-07-29 04:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could you go over and start picking up boxes and taking them to your house? What if her husband finds them?
2007-07-29 04:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a shot of tequila and take a big deep breath.her nerves will be like that until she is out of his house.right now nothing will calm her.
2007-08-02 03:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by enlightened 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋