should i call the department of children and families????

Question

my ex is a convicted felon. he went to prison for over a year for child abuse. he went off and married a woman he just met on the internet,. she has children living in the home. i afraid he will start beating the crap out off them like did our boys. what should i do ido??

i told the woman but she dont care. she thinks he perfect. i am affraid if i dont do anything now he will hurt one of those kids bad and it will be my fault

Answer 1

Yes... Contact children services and tell them your concerns (annomysly if it makes you more comfortable). They will do an investigation (based on his past) and go from there. Personally, I believe that they will find that the mother of those children is being negelgent for being with a child abuser she met over the internet, especially since you've already warned her...

Aside from that and what you've already done... that's all you can do.. You've done your part and everything withen your limitations... if he hurts those children it's not your fault~ remember that.. Let's hope he doesn't, but if he does hopefully this other woman will leave him straight away... Abusers NEVER change... they go into hibrination, but eventually come back out again.

All the best to you and I will pray for those kids safety.

Answer 2

Dont jump the gun like the commenter above suggested. If anything contact the new wife and make sure she is aware of his history. If she is unaware let her handle the situation on her own.
If she does not act and you know abuse is going on then contact CPS or the police.
There is such a think as rehabilitation for people who are abusers. He may not be the same man you married and who hurt your kids.

Anyways, the first step is to contact the mother of the children involved.

Unless you ex is court ordered to stay away from kids, there's nothing the police can do to stop him from being around his stepkids.

Answer 3

You can call DCFS and make an anonymous report, but without any actual evidence that abuse is occurring, they most likely will not do anything. If you believe there is potential for abuse to occur based on his past, and you are genuinely worried for those children, it might ease your mind to call and express your concern to DCFS. If you want more information on making a report, or want to talk to a hotline counselor from Childhelp, USA, call 1-800-4-A-CHILD and someone there will give you some guidance on the situation. There are counselors available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

www.childhelpusa.org

Answer 4

Well I am a victim of child abuse and my father now has children living with him I know what your going through but if this women he just met over the Internet, notices anything she may have a heart to do the right thing... That is not your family and you cant do anything unless you see something being done...I hope I helped

Answer 5

Call the women and warn her of his past. U can't really call DCF and have her children taken away if she doesn't know. Tell her and see what kind of actions she is willing to take. Then go from there. Make sure u let her know the severity of the issue. And if u let her know and she chooses to do nothing then call DCF b/c then she could be knowingly putting her children in danger.... Good Luck!

Answer 6

If he beats them , it will NOT be your fault !!
You warned her , and she chose to disregard your warning . In a situation like that , NOTHING will change her mind until the beatings start .

You are NOT obliged to take any extraordinary steps to make her see the light ! You did what was reasonable ............. now let it go ! If you interfere further , your ex may "pay you a visit" . Is it worth it ?

If he gives you a beating because of this , would his girlfriend be the least bit concerned ? I doubt it .

He is HER problem now ! Let HER deal with it !

Answer 7

This is what you should do you should type her a letter and send it to her just saying things you know not letting her know who you are or how you know. If you call or write her he may be able to us that to press charges against you so do it anonomis. Then you can call the child serves and tell them your story and then you have to let it go. i like the fact you want to help but you can only do so much with out getting your own self in trouble.

Answer 8

I don't know where you live but DFCS won't do anything in my area. They are so overloaded and severly understaffed. So unless, the cops bring them into it, they won't take it upon themselves to investigate. Of course it doesn't hurt to call DFCS and hopefully they will document the call, so if anything happens (God forbid), they'll already have a record. And you can't call the cops unless you witness him beating them or see bruises or marks on the children. Pray for them and that their mom will act quickly and swiftly if he should ever hurt them.

Answer 9

It is none of your business...BUTT OUT. They can turn around and sue YOU for slander, just because he has been convicted and did time doesn't mean he is going to repeat the offense. You have no proof he has done anything at this point and he COULD sue you, and if he were smart he WOULD do so.

Answer 10

Hold up ladies, All you that want to condemn this man for the rest of his life. He did his time, he could be a changed man? Would you want someone that take something you dead and run you out of town on a rail for it. I know a man that was sent to jail for abuse, at 19, He's now 38 has a new wife 3 kids, very nice man. I'd sure not want you ladies knowing who he is, Hell you'd all have him hung in the square. For Shame.