my mate [who is in a relationship] now & again goes with a prostitute [different one each time], but doesnt view this as being unfaithful
as far as he is concerned it is a pure business transaction with no emotions involved; he does however state that it must be a different girl each time or then it starts becoming unfaithful !
I completely disagree with him, and believe he is being unfaithful [and i am sure his girlfriend would as well !]
dont want to know your views on prostitutes/std's/ etc; just
is he being unfaithful ?
[and will the views differ between guys & girls ?]
2007-07-29 03:18:48 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If your friend's girlfriend would see this as being unfaithful [and I guarantee that she would] then he is. It doesn't matter that he is seeing a different girl each time.
Ask him how he would feel if he found out that his girlfriend was having sex when she goes out on her own. I bet he would class that as adultery.
2007-07-29 03:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by talkland72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfaithful
2007-07-29 03:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by ojay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your mates girlfriend - but he's is being unfaithful. It's a cop-out for him to say it's a business transaction. When two people commit to each other in a long-term relationship, it's part of the trust involved that they will stay faithful to each other, sexually and otherwise, for the duration of the relationship. Otherwise where's the trust?
And if it's just a business transaction, is he telling his g/f about it? I doubt it. It doesn't matter who it's with or for what reason - unfaithful is unfaithful.
2007-07-29 03:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this one Honey, he is being unfaithful, the fact that he is paying for it makes no difference - he's still having sex with another woman! If I was his girlfriend, I would be absolutely devastated - not just the fact that he's having sex with another woman - I think I'd be cheesed off that he was paying for it too when he could be using the money to take me away for a romantic weekend etc. Sounds to me like his girlfriend would be better off with a nice guy like you and let him go and do what he seems to enjoy!
I would hope the views wouldn't differ and that most people would agree he's being unfaithful, it will be really interesting to see.
2007-07-29 07:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by ANDREA A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definately being unfaithful and putting his girlfriend at risk for std's and hiv. He's a scum bag in my book.
The only way he's right is that women do view cheating a bit differently. We hate the physical cheating but if there is an emotional attachment that puts it over the top....to some woman that's worse. That's probably what he's thinking of and using to justify his scummy behaviour.
I know he's your mate but can't you annonymously send his girlfriend a note or talk to her and warn her about the danger he's putting her in? If she'd just break off with him and not say why it would maintain your friendship with him although you could find better mates, my friend.
2007-07-29 03:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by NewGrandma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfaithful!
2007-07-29 03:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfaithful!
2007-07-29 03:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does his girfriend know?.. maybe they have that sort of "open" relationship~
If she doesn't know because he hides it from her then, DUH.. he's definatly being unfaithful, and unfair. You should ask him if he'd be okay with his girfriend having strict "business transactions" with male prostitutes. If he doesn't believe what he's doing to be "unfaithful" then he should tell his girlfriend so she can leave him and find someone who won't be putting her at risk for disease or she can have a little fun of her own...
Your "mate" is definatly being unfaithful.. If there is the expectation of monogomy between the two of them and he has sex with someone else (no matter who or what they are) then thats being unfaithful to his partner...
2007-07-29 03:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by busymum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im different here to the others.
He is not wrong in his eyes. I see what he means about a different girl each time. However i believe he is doing this as he has been hurt in the past and he is keeping his options open.
I however am almost the same as him,but i have agreed open relationship with my partner to do things with others but i would never pay for it.
Ive always said ...sex is free so is aids! Always use protection and i know deep down who i love at the end of the day and who i go home to.
Hope that helps
Chri$
2007-07-29 03:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by chri$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's super disgusting. OF COURSE he is being unfaithful. If his girlfriend was having "business transactions' with several other men would your "friend" consider that unfaithful or not?
2007-07-29 03:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Suzy_305 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋