me and my hubby had a fight over some silly matter..and i was showing tantrums and he just said that i am shameless and he won't care if he hit me....
i am so hurt...he is the same guy who fell in love with me and married and he said this....i am so hurt...
2007-07-29 03:15:31 · 9 answers · asked by crazyabs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK, just so I understand this....
You had a fight and you were throwing a tantrum. OK, got it.
Your husband said to you that you were shameless and he would not care if he hit you. Right.
He SAID that but never hit you. Right? You don't say he did.
Kiss and make up and quit with that immature tantrum thing. It gets you nowhere. Quit having "fights" altogether, especially over "some silly matter".
2007-07-29 03:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by copious 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that you feel so sad. You and your husband will develop a "style" of fighting. You may want to set some boundaries as far as going too far with what the two of you say. My ex-husband and I said horrible things to each other during the heat of arguments... to the point that it did not hurt me anymore because I took nothing that he said in an argument seriously. It was all just an expression of the anger and the words were just the tool to express it. I would not advise you to go my route. Set boundaries on arguments and let your husband know that you will not tolerate blows below the belt.
2007-07-29 10:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bentley 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Many people say the stupidest things when they are in a fight of words.Wait until things calm down then in a calm voice ask him if he really meant the things he said.If he apologizes to you then you have a loving husband that still cares for you, but you have underlying problems that need to be addressed.If not, you have serious problems that you will need to make a big decision about.Good luck!
2007-07-29 10:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by pete63daddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reply to that should be if he lays a finger on you then he would regret it for the rest of his miserable life and tell him he is no longer the man you fell in love with if he can even make comments like that.
2007-07-29 10:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by magnum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all i have to say about your situation is ya'll 2 better find a way to talk your problems out. you have to have good communication. i went through something similar to that. my hubby said "now that you have gotten that shitty *** haircut i can't even **** you". at the time we were fighting and arguing all the time but we found a way to talk out our problems and now for the most part we really don't even argue much. he is most likely trying to get under your skin. to push your buttons.
2007-07-29 10:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by caroline k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at what caused the fight to begin with....You were acting like a child. Grow up and act like adults!!
2007-07-29 10:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you are having disagreements with him, act more mature and don't be throwing fits like a child. He is treating you like you are acting.
2007-07-29 10:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry girl, just be careful.. I know it'll be hard but if he does hit you, leave, it wont get better, only worse, I know that from expernce
2007-07-29 10:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mercuria 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he was talking about giving you a spanking... sounds like maybe you need one....lol a grown woman with a tantrum???
2007-07-29 11:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋