We lived together after high school but her manipulative mother eventually broke us up. We have found that even after 23 years we were and we still are deeply in love. Both of us have good spouses but we cannot stay away from each other. The only solution seems to be for us to move to another state and spend the rest of our lives making each other happy. Comments appreciated.
2007-07-29 03:15:04 · 5 answers · asked by wheezer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Her mother was onto something--she tried to prevent you two from destroying each other with irrational behavior.
I suggest you call her mom and sit down with her as an adult and ask her to tell you what she saw in the relationship that was negative and destructive to the two of you.
Then, I think you should break off all contact (disconnect) and continue having a successful life and loving relationship with your spouse.
Oh, and don't forget to thank her mom for saving you yet a second time.
2007-07-29 03:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of such love stories, but its after the other spouses have passed away. You two cannot go back in time and change it. You cannot relive high school love. What you both have in real life now is real spouses who depend upon you, who love you, who you have spent much time in real live developing a real relationship with. What you are doing now might just be a temporary reliving of what once was and can never be again. I urge you two to seek separate counseling before making any changes to upset all these families. If it shall come to pass that you two belong together than that's what shall happen. Running off is not the answer. That is a kid answer and you are adults. Do the right thing. Seek help, seek answers, talk it out rationally and logically, and then remember the lives you have built with your spouses were not built in like but in love.
2007-08-02 02:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by billies35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 years is a long time.
I think you should stop trying to relive your past and examine where you are now and what you stand to lose.
You have reached a point in your lives where you realize a lifetime is half way over, and reverting back to the way it was in high school is your way of denying it.
Does your spouse deserve this treatment? your kids?
Your spouses have devoted their lives to you and your marriages, and you would tear it all down to feel like a high school-er again?
You have built something with your spouse, your kids.
Are you willing to destroy your integrity? your morals? your family, friends, and children's respect?
What are you thinking???
You and your high school sweety better examine how many lives and friendships you will destroy to take a trip down memory lane.
2007-07-29 03:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stop u from going away w/ur luv, but think about how ur spouse will feel. They must have been at least a bit in luv w/u to have married u. I suggest u talk 2 them 1st. Don't just get up & runaway. & wut if u or ur sweetheart have children! Wut will they think? I just think u should talk this over with ur wife/husband, tell her/him that u luv them, but there is someone u luv more. Tell them the whole story, instead of just leaving her/him crushed. But better yet, tell them in a letter. But make it long & beautiful not just a note saying i've run off with someone i REALLY luv. & wut about ur work?? Wut r u going 2 do 4 a job, i suggest that u plan ahead on wut u plan 2 do 4 work, unless u can have the same job there. Plz don't drop ur whole life, take this more slowly.
2007-07-29 03:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids? because i spouse MAY forgive you over time..beacuse of the situation ...but if you leave your kids, they may not.
2007-07-29 03:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋