y do parents Not show affection to each other after marrying for 20 years??

Question

i am 17 years old , i never see my parents showing love for each other!, is it like that with other people?

Answer 1

At 17 you might not be recognizing the signs of affection that would be displayed between a couple that have been married for 20 years. Just because they are not slobbering over each other all the time has no bearing on how they feel. They most likely are not displaying anything like that in front of you because they are your parents and many people think outward displays are not appropriate in front of children, especially your own children. They have been together for 20 years and probably a bit longer than that. You are not worried about a divorce you are not saying that they are fighting all the time, so I'd say that they have more than enough affection, it is enough to have kept them together for 20 years so it ought to be enough for you. and no eveyr one is not like that, every couple, every love is different, acts different and shows or does not show it in many different ways. What might mean nothing to you, things you do not even notice or register as being a sign of affection could have deeper meanings that you would have no way to know anything about. Remember, still waters run deep.

Answer 2

Some do, some don't---people get married for different reasons and stay married for various reasons. Some times the affection stays and other times they just live together like roommates...Remember this when you are thinking about a marriage---Do I want to be married to this man in 20 years and get no hugs or kisses. Will we even be friends???You may be able to ask either parent why they don't holdhands and get them thinking about it...good luck.

Answer 3

Most often we get caught up in everyday business. Our jobs, household expenses, household chores and other things that need our direct attention.
None of that mean we don't still love eachother deeply and take care of eachother.
It's the time they are together (usually when the day is over and they've settled in for the night) that they can relax and just be together. When you're married to a person for as long as that...love is shown in different ways than it is shown when you're first married. We tend to be very comfortable being with our mate and trust being mixed with the comfort is truly enough for us.
Don't mistake the lack of touching, cuddling, etc.. as being a sign of trouble or lack of caring.
It's not.

Answer 4

what cindylu said is very true, but from my own personal experience from looking at my parents. True, they might not show it in front of you for whatever reasons, but that doesn't necessarily mean they don't share it when you don't see them. I just think it tends to happen with asian parents more because i have never seen my parents kiss or hug even if they leave out of states for whatever reason like travelling or business trips. Or it could happen to families that are experiencing empty love relationships, like where parents can't or don't want to separate for the sakes of the kids.

Answer 5

Everyone is different when it comes to showing affection in front of others. Also, couples go through different relationships in a long relationships, i.e. some years they are friends, some years they are more business partners, lovers, antagonists, strangers even.... and the cycle continues ....they become lovers again or antagonists again.... When they stay married forever.... it ebbs and flows.

Answer 6

No, I am married 30 years and my husband and I still hold hands and sit by each other and show much affection for each other.

Answer 7

some parents but some show lots of love

Answer 8

With my parents is they didn't want to be touchy feely around each other around us. Of course we would say ewww if they did. But I think it was just out of respect for us. They did in private and stuff.

Answer 9

Maybe not in front of you. Like the saying goes who knows what goes on behind close doors. ;)