My sister, who is much younger than I seems to have no need to have much of a relationship with me. She only calls if she absolutely has to and I have found myself practically begging her to visit. Her husband, who is a very nice person often talks to us more than she does. My husband and daughter tell me not to let her get to me but its hard. Our parents have died and I am the only family she has left. Why does'nt she want to have anything to do with me?
2007-07-29 02:55:41 · 6 answers · asked by chchhart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing you shared that would give anyone an idea of why she is behaving this way. Perhaps that is because it baffles you. I find that my relationship with my siblings is strange (my parents are gone also). It changes from time to time. My sister is overly private... sometimes it feels like I am an intruder in her life rather than someone that brings love into her life. That's her.. based on her experience and after crying and beating myself up for years.. I kind of accept it. I just love being with her, but I'm much more social and open than her...
You can try talking with her and telling her how you feel and the kind of relationship that you would like to have with her. I tried that with my sis, but it didn't work with her. I think most people would respond to that conversation. She may be surprised at how important she is to you.
2007-07-29 03:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of it could be the age gap. My sister is 8 years younger than me. Once an adult, she was always so busy with work and her own family and friends. It didn't help that I had moved out of state when she was 12. Most of the news we got about each other was from out father, who we were both close to. After he died last year she made a lot of life changes and we talk much more often now. It may not be you that she has a problem with, it could just be that she feels she doesn't have a lot in common with you. Talk to her, heart to heart. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it. Expect tears...............
To make matters more interesting, our half-brother is 12 years older than me (20 older than her!), and he lived with his mom in another state, never with us. Talk about not having a lot in common! But the three of us are getting better about it now that our dad is gone. So sorry it took this for us to come together, but we let everyday life interfere, like most people do these days.
2007-07-29 10:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by msims52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her when it is just the two of you. Explain that you want a relationship with her, and if she seems uncomfortable, you need to find out why. It may be something the two of you can work out. If she is just really busy, try to plan like a lunch or a shopping day together where you can let loose and have fun. Tell her about one of your problems like she is your best friend.. maybe that will break the ice and get her to open up a little.
2007-07-29 10:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, what was your relationship with her when you were growing up? maybe there's something that has just surfaced in your sisters life that triggered a memory from her childhood that she is in conflict with. it could be anything (the memory) but when siblings grow up and especially when they begin a family this is when those memories become triggered. it also does'nt mean that it's a memory that involves you but one she could be too embarrased to talk to you about. but, please may i suggest that you don't break the connection i know that from my own experience that breaking ties with a sibling unless it's toxic is not the answer i lost touch with my sister by my own decision and we were very close while growing up but, problems surfaced and ties were broken. the biggest regret of my life!! why? my beautiful sister died at the young age of 46 now, i think of her every day and night truly. good luck to you.
2007-07-29 10:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by justicejamie888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seems to be happy wiyh the life she has right now.just leave her alone and call her on her birthday or special occasions.when she has a crisis and needs someone ,im sure shell know who to call.write her a note and tell her your feelings and tell her you will let her contact you at any time she wants .
2007-07-29 10:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her? She is the only one who knows the answer.
2007-07-29 10:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋