Whats wrong with having a BF and a husband..as long as they never find out about each other?

Question

Why is it more acceptable if a guy cheats..but a woman , no?

Answer 1

I don't think it's acceptable if a guy cheats.

Answer 2

lets get something stright here right from the start . you ask in your question why is it more acceptable if a man cheats but a woman NO? I am not sure where you have been all this time but why are you putting the blame on the male , here , lets face it in this case it is youasking a question that you think that when you are married , why can you not do a little shopping and find yourself a boy friend , and then to say as long as you never get found out about each other , WELL LET ME ASK YOU , THIS WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF YOU FOUND YOUR HUSBAND DOING WHAT YOU ARE SURJESTING , HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF HE WAS MARRIED TO YOU , AND THE HE WAS OUT THEIR WITH A HIS GIRL FRIEND , just how long do you think your marriage would last?? IF you are married then be married , and be a his wife , if you want a boy friend then have a boyfriend , and only a boyfriend , , i think you are on the the boarder line , of greed , why not be contented with one or the other

Answer 3

"Whats wrong with having a BF and a husband..as long as they never find out about each other? " you have no morality if this is your belief.

"Why is it more acceptable if a guy cheats..but a woman , no?" they both evil. You only think it is acceptable because more men are doing it than women.

Answer 4

Cheating is NOT acceptable by guys or gals period! But I have saw both doing it and it makes me sick to see it happen. I don't understand why people do it in the first place. Even if you are not married and have a bf/gf, it is not fair to them. Why be in a relationship if you want to act single in the first place? ANY body that cheats on their mate has no respect for them selves or their mate. I will NOT share my mate with anyone at all. I give them one chance and if they do it again, they are gone. Back in my days they called a girl a **** if she did that and a boy a stud, HELLO in my books they are both a ****! If they want to be a **** or a tramp, then go right on ahead. Just remember what goes around comes around. One day it will come back and bite them in the butt. I hate a cheater so bad that it is not funny. Even if by chance that they are not have sex, just hanging out together with out the other knowing about it, it is WRONG! It is time that they GROW-UP or else just stay single all their life!

Answer 5

I don't think either is more acceptable - I find them both wrong.
1) You *always* run a risk of either finding out, a pretty high risk, and when they find out, which they almost surely will, they will be extremely hurt.
2) You're stealing time and attention away from the person you have promised your life to (while presumably he continues giving himself fully to you), introducing great dishonesty into your relationship, and generally bringing about a premature end to your marriage, consciously or not.
3) This reason may not matter to you, but I personally think doing bad actions demeans your own person, whether there are concrete repercussions or not. Do you really want to be a liar, cheater, sneak, etc.?

Cheaters should figure out why they want to cheat. If they just want more partners or feel restricted in a marriage, consider divorcing, discussing open marriage/polyamory with your spouse, or changing your mindset. If it is simply the thrill of cheating itself, of hurting people and sneaking around, I think that's inherently harmful and the cheater should discuss with a therapist, be honest with their spouse, and stop the cheating.

Answer 6

It's not okay to have both, unless that was part of your marriage vows ("the rules"). If you have an open marriage or decided BEFORE your vows that you did not want to practice monogamy - it's cool.

Cheating - or as I call it; breaking your contract- is not allowed by either party. Marriage is a contract, signed by both parties and witnessed. Just like buying a house (although much more love and respect are involved). If you go back on your part of the contract - you're cheating.

Don't do it. If you want to cheat, get a divorce.

Answer 7

In my opinion cheating is never acceptable..whether you're a man or a woman. People who cheat have zero respect for the person they're married to (or in a relationship with). If you truly loved your husband you wouldn't be cheating. I hope he finds out and kicks you to the curb.

Answer 8

I guess if you don't think there's nothing wrong with it then you're ok, but sounds to me as though you don't love your husband and you are wanting him to be the stability in your life while you get out and enjoy the single life style.....its not acceptable for anyone to cheat on a husband, wife, girlfriend or a boyfriend.....just not right...shows no respect

Answer 9

Because you are ripping out the heart of two people for your own pleasure. --- whether you are man or woman and I do not view a man cheating as more acceptable at all and I never did. The fact that you pecieve that in society is due to the fact that men ruled our society for many generations and that is just changing.. hell, woman weren't even in the workplace in your grandmother's era.

Answer 10

its considered wrong for men and women to cheat, but its a matter of morals and that is your personal decision on what you morals hold yourself accountable for.
You are right, we do have sort of a social double-standard for women because we almost sort of expect men to cheat, however if statistics can be trusted (i'm not sure they can be) they say that Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. So, it appears that women are not very far behind men w/ the cheating.

Answer 11

Hey, if the BF is paying your way through life, then you're doing your husband a favor. However, the reality is, most women think all men should pay their way through life and will milk both the BF and the husband for everything they can get.