Is my wife cheating or am i just paraiod !!!?

Question

My wife and myself have decied to give each other one personal day a week{her idea}. i choose not to use mine but she has used hers, no big deal i know. but when she uses hers she hangs with family and a family friend{male}. the first night they played games and drank ,still no biggy. she did not come home that night, i didn't like that. i started questioning her about the family friend, she didn't like that. the next weekend they plated up at her moms, she asked me to come but after i was there a couple of hours she asked me to leave because she was uncomfortable with me there at the same time with the family friend. we were all getting along i was talking normal with the family friend i don't know why she wanted me to leave. so she and our kids stayed and they stayed all night.

Answer 1

I don't know you personally...but from what you wrote, it doesn't sound good. I wouldn't say she's cheating, but a married woman should not be having "personal days" with a male friend. And for her to ask you to leave her mom's house because she was uncomfortable around her friend is ridiculous. She should have had HIM leave, you are her HUSBAND. You need to talk to your wife. Her behavior is uncalled for, ecspecially when there are kids involved.

Good luck, I hope the best for your marriage.

Answer 2

I think the word you need is paranoid. Yes, you are being paranoid. Your wife is an independent person and she chooses to spend time with her family and friends. She finds it hard to have a good time while you are around her.
Perhaps you should look at your own behaviour, when was the last time you and your wife actually had fun together? Did anything other than just home and children stuff.
When I left my first husband he could not believe that I did not want to be with him even though I had no one else. My 2nd husband beat me up because he was jealous and I spent over 3 hours with a dying female friend. This relationship is in danger, not from your wife having an affair but from boredom and jealousy on your part

Answer 3

Somethings definitely fishy.

I don't care what anyone else says I think it is inexcusable for someone not to come home overnight like that. If she had too much to drink, she should have called a cab or called you to pick her up.

If she should have asked anyone to leave her families house because things were uncomfortable she should have asked the friend. And why would it have been uncomfortable if something wasn't going on?

Answer 4

I think she is cheating. Why would she be hanging out with a man alone? If you did the same I think she would mine. If they are just friends you should have been able to stay and there is no excuse for her not to come home and stay out all night as a wife and a mother.

Answer 5

Hmm? she sure didn't handle the situation well. If she were uncomfortable , the friend should have left.

I would talk with her about it, do not accuse, just let her know that you would have liked her to have chosen you to stay instead of someone else. Then I would drop it, but keep your eyes and ears open. There might be something to be concerned with.

Try to remember, just because someone make a bad decision does not mean they are cheating, just that they made a mistake.
Good luck

Answer 6

Why is she staying over night at her moms? why is she uncomfortable with you around? OK don't wast time, I would file for divorce before things get really messy. Don't let her get away with being invasive and cold to you. Hand her divorce papers, She'll start talking. I believe people wait much too long before putting this kind of thing in there partners face. Why if she's the dissatisfied one should you be subjected to her b.s.? Give it to her strait and now don't wait and wast your life on that crap. Good luck

Answer 7

this is a definite sign of cheating...your talking to the f/f and she ask you to leave..it doesn't matter what you talked about at home because you came there to have a good time with every-one..and she gets uncomfortable because your talking to the f/f???...and decides you should leave I mean wtf?? man that right there is the writing on the wall...I suggest you stay away from that crowd and get some friends of your own to hang out with...and if push comes to shove then meet a female to talk to and be friends with her...you don't have to sleep with her but just have some fun...but keep her on your list to do so...after you crack the case about your wife..your to close to knowing the truth because of what just happened (and it was her idea) about having a (one day to me thing) keep doing some research on the situation at hand and take notes on every-thing...her family may not help you on this one..so be sure to take every note you possibly can..be-sure not to fabricate..because she'll be ready for that...so just have all the facts and have your date and time paper ready too....I don't think your paranoid...they say that when they know their doing something wrong and tend to throw it back at you,this is their easy way out

Answer 8

That's not right. It's hard to live by... but there needs to be a separation of male and female if husband and wife aren't together. Wives get into trouble when they spend time away from their husbands... especially in the company of other men. The fact that she asked you to leave... that's enough to cause you to be curious... but the fact that she didn't come home (when around him both times). I'm sorry you are in this situation!

Answer 9

My friend, you are in a state of denial. Please get some professional help. Please.
You are so twisted around her little finger you can't see what's happening.

She can cheat on you and your marriage right under your nose and you would deny it and make up some silly excuse as to why it's OK.

Married people do not stay the night with family friends, especially every week, and certainly not friends of the opposite sex.

Good grief.

Answer 10

there is no reason you shouldn't be able to be around her "friend" if he's really in fact just a friend. the fact that she said she was not comfy having the 2 of you together makes me suspicious of her.
how old are your kids? have you asked them what was wrong with mommy, why did she want daddy to leave, and what happened after daddy left?
i agree you might want to hire a private invest. to tail for her a while.
at most you get peace of mind if nothing i happening. granted the pi can't get pics of what's going on inside but they might find other behavior that is suspicious.