My bf of a year & 4 months has been hurting me...Long story short he hurt me real bad. I called him & told him off & just basically tellin him how I feel bout everything. I said stuff like "You don't care no more bout me, it's all about you..You disrespected me & that I don't know about us anymore" Then he tells me "I don't think were working out, it's not you it's me" He said he's tired of hurting me. Then he tells me he thinks he would rather live his life & do what ever he wants...I asked him "Do you truly love me anymore?" He tells me "Yeah I did" "So I told him "Did?" then he says he didn't mean it that he's stupid??? I kept asking him stuff & he just kept saying he doesn't know? He says he loves me, but to be quite honest.I don't believe it after all that he's said & done.It's real hard to believeI told him were over until you get your mind straight.Then he said he'd call me tomorrow.I don't know what to do? I truly love this one...
2007-07-29 00:25:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My main question is...
Should I stay or should I try to move on???
I've never loved someone so much, my heart wants to be with him, but my mind is telling me to just let him go do his own thing & I'll do mine....I'm mixes in between....I honestly don't even know....
2007-07-29 00:28:19 · update #1
He's hurt me emotionally...He never hit me...Cause he knows I'd woop his A$$!
2007-07-29 00:33:02 · update #2
Well.. lol.. your running the man off.
I don't even have to know what all he has supposedly done to you. All i have to know is that he said "He's tired of hurting you." And that he tried to protect you from a little more pain by allowing you to point the finger at him by saying "It's not you, It's me."
Fact of the matter is, girls tend to buy into those fancy romatic notions that they sell you in those cheesey romance novels. Why shouldn't they though? It's what thier mothers and every other woman they ever run into teaches them, heck everything a girl reads and sees teaches them this falsehood.
Fairy tales do not exist, men do not magically know how you want them to act, or how you want them to show thier love for you, they cannot read your mind. Fact of the matter is they shouldn't have to act the way you want them to, or show thier love the way you want them to, or even read your mind that's silly. Reality is men are going to act like themselves, show thier love for thier woman they way that they choose to show it. And since we are not telepathic you actually have to talk to the guy and make an effort to make him really understand you, you have to realize that men and women do not think or speak the same. Even the simplest problem will probably take hours of talking to solve and that is the reality of relationships.
Now you wanna know why he said "He's tired of hurting you." ? That's simple, he's been doing everything he can possibly think of to do to make you happy, and it's not working and your getting upset and hurt and it's frusterating the hell out of him. He's at that point right now where he is giving up and throwing in the towel and ready to walk away.
Are you going to let him, or are you going to give up the stupid romatic notions and climb into this relationship, get your hands and elbows a little dirty and put the actual work and effort into it that it will take to fix it?
2007-07-29 01:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more I read stories like this the more it irritates me, once someone say "I did" after you asked them if they love you, it's a given, there is someone else in the picture. Sorry dear, but I read these type of stories a lot, when their relationship is going well then all of the sudden he starts acting weird and stupid, being verbal abuse. seems like more guys are using that to get out of the relationship instead of just saying it straight out. I don't feel the love anymore, but I guess by having the relationship end through an argument is probably easier then hearing the truth.
2007-07-29 01:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by J1 M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through this. It started at about a year only to find out six month later he not only never stopped but had been doing the same stuff since two days after we began dating. I forgave him and kept it going until it was about three years into our relationship where he decided that it wasn't worth it, after I had forgiven him and put everything into it... and yes it was true love. Leave him. Either give yourselves a few months and try again or leave him for good but either way, it may seem okay for awhile but it WILL happen again.
2007-07-29 00:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why you girl want to he proof the love , if it was proof able what is all romantic stories and books all about .
when you ask mean you do not be live him and that's it.
If you be live you will understand other wise whatever he said is lie and he is lier?
2007-07-29 00:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My answer would depend on what constituted as "hurting you"? Emotionally or physically??
2007-07-29 00:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by meeeeeeeee2681 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking for trouble with this person if you don't let it go*..Find another*...
2007-07-29 12:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him
2007-07-29 00:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by jenni 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋