abortion question?

Question

i found out im 18 and pregnant and im completly confused on what i should do i always said if i was between the age of 17-23 id have an abortion but now im starting to rethink that decsion as my dad and my boyfriend dont want me too
im just worried if i choose to keep the baby i'll be lumped with it if my boyfriend then decides he cant handle it

Answer 1

In the end the choice is aways yours.. No matter what anyone says and no matter if they say they will be there for you or not. In end it will be just you and that baby..

You need to think real hard because if you are saying that you will be 'lumped' with it if the father is not around, do you really think you need a baby around.

Talk to someone that can give you all sides. No having it, having it and keeping it, having it and giving it away.

Good Luck and i am here for you to talk to too..

Answer 2

Being 18 and pregnant is no excuse for an abortion. You should have been taking more serious precautions. If you've "always" said you'd have an abortion if you got pregnant between 17-23..then you should have been having SAFER SEX between those ages.
Don't get me wrong, I'm pro-choice. But I'm disgusted by people as selfish as yourself. You weren't raped, Im assuming you're not related to your boyfriend, and the baby is posing any threat to your health. So what's your excuse, "you don't wanna" ???
And as for your boyfriend, yeah, he doesn't get a choice. Why are you with someone that it would even be a question weather or not they'd stay with you through something as monumental as a pregnancy (that he participated in JUST as much as you) But you're saying he wants you to keep it, does he just...not get a vote? It's just as much his baby as yours
Either way, there's a beautiful thing called child support, so you can nail him if he decides he can't be a man and step up emotionally for you and the baby....at least you know he'll be there for you financially....weather he likes it or not :-D

Whatever you do is your decision, just remember you'll have to live with that decision.
And if you do get an abortion, DO IT SOON!
I was only 9 weeks pregnant when I got my first ultrasound and at that point I could see my little baby moving around and his little heart beating. Mind you, you're already 4 weeks pregnant around the time you find out. And that's if you find out early.
The longer you wait, the crueler it is.

Answer 3

You didnt think of the consequenses BEFORE you had sex?
That was the first immature thing you have done.
"Lumped" with a baby. Hmm, I will say that children are a HUGE responsibility, financially, emotionally, etc.
I had my first child at the age of 16, and he is now a happy, healthy 23 year old. An aspiring artist, college student, played football for his high school and helped take the team to state championships, WITHOUT a Dad. I worked full time and supported him on my own.
Yes, it was hard in every way, and I was prompted, and threatened several times to have a termination and if I had listened I would never have been able to enjoy all of those afor mentioned accomplishments.
BUT every one is different, and not all people mature the same way.
If nothing else, whatever decision you make, I hope this becomes a lesson to you.
In this day and age, becoming pregnant after unprotected sex is the BEST thing that can happen to you.
Good luck with whatever decision you make.
I just dont want to be the one of the thousands who supports your child through the welfare system, so start becoming financially prepared now.

Answer 4

You are going to hear alot of answers hear, abortion stirs up the Y!A pot big time.

I would say keep the child, you are starting to rething your decision, which means if you do kill your unborn child now, you will most likely regret it for the rest of your life.
18 is mature enough to raise a child on your OWN, regardless of where the boyfriend is in a few years.

If you find you feel you cannot raise this child at least put it up for adoption.

Your dad will always be there for you, you CAN do this. I might be a change in your life, but so many woman have done it, starting much younger than yourself. I was ready to have a child at 18, it isn't too young, and age shouldn't be a factor in murder or not....

Build a STRONG support group now, including your boyfriend, but also outside the family. With other mothers your age, your friends, aunts, etc. When/if the dad runs off (you will still get his money though), you will be able to handle the baby easily, because you have the support of people that love you and care deeply for you.

Stand tall and love your changing body. You are about to go through the most beautiful change in your life. Motherhood.

Answer 5

I would say keep the baby. As you go through the pregnancy you can always make a decision about giving the baby up for adoption. There are wonderful people out there who would make terrific parents but can't have children of their own. Have a serious talk with your boyfriend about what having a baby means. Find others who had babies that young and sit down with them and your boyfriend and your dad too and talk about the postivies and negatives about having a baby that young when you weren't planning it. Most of them will be very honest with you about the difficulties, and the positives!

Make sure that you are getting good medical care throughout your pregnancy. This will go a long way toward ensuring that your baby is carried to term and that you and the baby stay as healthy as possible. There are never any guarantees...but medical care is the best way to go. If you don't have insurance find out from your doctor (or any OB) about any state plans that can help.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Thats a big decision but it doesnt matter if teh father can handle it or not what matters is if you can handle it. Also can you handle the abortion? If you have ppl around you willing to support or help you, you should let them. If anything just have the baby and if you decide you cant do it give it up for adoption. There are far to many women trying hard to conceive and wishing they could have a baby. So if you cant "handle it" thats always an option. Good Luck.

Answer 7

The baby is not an "it". You'll regret the abortion forever if that's what you decide to do. Look up pix of the fetus at your number of weeks and see if you can actually go through with it. It's scary, but you'll be just fine. There are programs such as childcare assistance and school grants/loans to help you through college. It'll be hard, but no one ever said that life is easy. Take one day at a time, and you'll be just fine. I freaked out when I first found out that I was pregnant, and I'm so glad that I did not go through with the decision of abortion.

Answer 8

I think you should keep the baby, but it is up to you. If you have an abortion, you can never ever take it back, and do you want to live with that?

If you actually have the baby, there are options for that too, you can either keep it, or have someone adopt your baby.

Whatever your decision, make sure you're doing it for the right reason. Good Luck!

Answer 9

I was 16 when i had my daughter. she is the love of my life. but no matter what this pregnancy is your decision...it is your body and no one else's. dont let any one tell you what you should or should not do. If you want it keep it, if you dont there is always adoption but if you dont think that you can handle the pregnancy or the adoption issue you can always choose the abortion. always look at all the options and weigh them carefully because you will be the one that has to live with it. I almost had an abortion but i decided to keep her, and her daddy left when i was 6 months pregnant but i never regretted my decision to keep her. Hope this helps and just remember that it is your body and your life.

Answer 10

Abortion or keeping the baby are only two of your options. Giving the baby up for adoption is the third. I have a couple of friends who have adopted and a cousin-in-law who was adopted. It has worked out great for them. It is not a question of their loving the child "like" it is theirs--it IS theirs. Adoption agencies have long waiting lists for people who want to adopt an infant because there are so few available.