When does life's quality improve?

Question

I really don't mean to be a pest, but I just need reasurance.
LIFE SUCKS!!! IT IS HORRIBLE!!! Honestly, I feel as though pople ALL around me are like becoming friends, and hooking up and actually enjoying life. I try to focus on the little things, but nothing good comes to mind. I have few friends, and that is my fault. I am 14, entering high school, and am GAY. Yeps, I am an only child and homosexual... Golly gee, isn't this dandy? T.T
SO tell me, does life get better? Because furthurmore, I can't play any sports. AT ALL. So tell me, exactly when does life get better? Because I would like to see
if it's worth waiting for.

Answer 1

Life's quailty will improve when you are working towards a goal. The more you think about what you want to do, the better your goal will be. It doesn't matter what it is as long as it means something to you. The more the goal means to you, the better life will be. I promise

Answer 2

I don't believe anyone is perfectly happy. There would be no reason for a perfectly happy person to exist. Life isn't meant to be smooth and fair. Our purpose here is likely to learn and for us to be tested. Every time we experience difficulties and manage to handle them properly (by a strong moral code) we add a new facet onto our personality (soul). So don't fret the disappointments and hardships. Try to look at them as opportunities.

Also, our expectations are the single most responsible cause of our frustration, unhappiness and sometimes depression. Some depression can be traced to chemical imbalances in the brain. This can be corrected with medication. But do you ever wonder how people that are extremely poor, even hungry and live in conditions of no hope for improvement, cope and are sometimes happier and more at peace than we are. We who are very significantly better off. It is attitude! The more we have, the more we see, the more we want. Expectations that are affected by the society in which we live and in no small part to advertising.

The worst one feels the more true my next statement/rule is. Wherever you are and however badly you feel, that will not remain, even if you want it to. You cannot stay there.

Answer 3

Hi Jake. I am not going to say life will get better for you if you do this or concentrate on that or meditate or find an interest because i know that will not work or make you feel better.There is no real easy answer at this time. You feel lousy with your life and you are going through a tough time becoming an adult. Your sexuality is no one else's concern and if you accept it that is all that matters.Jake my life hasn't been all roses either.I used to get bullied at school because i was emotional and used to cry a lot and i was called a sissy because i didn't like sports, especially football . Even when i left school and started work i was still shy and nervous and even at work i was made fun of. When i was old enough to drink alcohol i used it to boost my confidence so i could mix better with the others.The problem was i could not stop drinking and became an alcoholic. I also got addicted to tranquelisers which i used to help me with hangovers.I left home in1977 to live in a flat at Bondi. My drinking got worse so i decided to go into hospital to de tox.When i came out of Hospital i thought i was cured but after 4 weeks i tried a beer to see if i still liked it. Well i got hooked again and went for another few years drinking.One night i drank too much and passed out and found myself back in hospital.After 9 weeks of re habilitation i was back out but this time i new i had to stop drinking for the rest of my life. So now i was sober but had no friends and was really miserable because my life now was nothing.I had to retire from work early because i was still on the tranquelisers which helped with not drinking but when the effect wore off each day it was just like the shakes from the alcohol .Before i could be retired i had to see a psychiatrist for an assessment on my health. He recommended my retirement but i still had the problem with the tranquelisers. So back into hospital again to come of the drugs.
Since 1993 when i retired i have been slowly feeling better but it is taking a long time. Today i feel better than i ever did for the last 45 years which i lived in fear and terror . You will get better Jake . It will happen when you are ready. It happened to me so i know what seems impossible now won't be for ever.
I hope i didn't bore you too much Jake ,i know it was a bit long but i wanted you to know what i could never admitt to anyone years ago.
Take care, regards.,Rob.

Answer 4

Perhaps you are just having a bad day plus you are in puberty and you will probably feel like on a rollercoaster until you are 18 or even longer. So life will make more sense after that. Just do not give up and you will see that there are many beautiful and good things out there worth living for.
Many teenagers go through such feelings like you have.

If it gets worse search for somebody to talk to, whom you can trust. Perhaps even a counselor.

You have a task and a purpose waiting for you to fulfill in this life and one day you will find it. Do not judge life in terms of what you feel now. It is much better then you think now as you are still so young, and you will find out if you never ever ever give up!

Answer 5

Science and technology has certainly helped each one of us in many different ways-such as helped in developing the many under developing countries into developed countries, helped in improved transportation system, also made it possible to visit and discover many places on earth as well as in space that was thought impossible before the development of the science and technology, but these are only advantages we also have the disadvantages such as the ozone layer depletion due to excessive use of chemicals, soil erosion due to deforestation, etc. Well I would certainly like to conclude by saying that science and technology is very important but it should also keep in mind the environment

Answer 6

Life's quality improve when you were able to manage yourself. I believe you are still in your stage of adolescence. On this level, you are still in the needs of human which is belongingness. You are still looking for peers which you have to deal with. You made mention that you are a gay. Naturally your tendencies is to befriend girls. That's pretty natural however to improve the quality of life you must finish your studies first. Quality of life will just follow if you have found a good job.

Answer 7

I agree with D Braun. Find a passion. A Blues singer sings 'if there is no blues in heaven, I ain't goin'. He has a passion that makes his life on earth enjoyable. I think we should all try to make our life on earth like heaven. Get a goal and try to achieve it. If you do, then get another goal and work toward it.

Answer 8

"...but nothing good comes to mind," Jake?

You may not be ready to accept this, but the world (your life) "out there" is a reflection of your assessment of it. And your assessment of it--your beliefs--are entirely up to you and totally independent of the so-called "facts."

The facts will change when what you believe--not wish for, but BELIEVE--changes. There is a very real connection between you and what you perceive as "not you."

Gay, no sports ability, etc., are not barriers to a fulfilling life, unless you BELIEVE they are.