Parents: How would you react if you found out your teenager (13-16) was no longer a virgin?

Question

No, I'm not gonna be a grandparent...It's just a random question.

Answer 1

i went through this, i kind of went on shut down for a little while.

then i regained myself and taught her what she needed to know. i had already had "the talk" with her before, but i gave all the info on condems, stds, babies, you know, the real stuff.

i tried not to preach to her, but it was hard. i didnt want her to shut me out and not listen to a word i said. what i was telling her could save her life one day.

so far she has been smart, at least as far as i can tell. i did all i could. the damage was done. in a society where pregnancy is the lesser evil her life depends on her having the information and ability to come to me when she needs to.

Answer 2

I was 16 when I told my mom I wasn't a virgin. I told her that I had had sex, but I wanted to make sure I didn't get pregnant. She took me to the doctor and I was put on birth control. I know some people will disagree with that, but I also had a classmate who's mother wouldn't let her take the pill and she ended up pregnant and dropping out of school. I however, finished school, ended up marrying that same guy and have been married 9 years and still don't have any children. You need to talk to your daughter and explain the importance of protecting herself. Not only from getting pregnant, but also of the STD's that are out there. I felt comfortable enough with my mom to come to her and make sure that I took what steps were needed to protect myself.

I guess I can't tell you what I would do if my child told me that, as I don't have any children. Again I was 16. I wasn't 'even thinking about sex when I was 13. I had probably just had my first kiss at that age. Just thought that might help.

Answer 3

I would be surprised but not shocked. Then the "talk" about condoms, birth control and respect would be given again. Parents have to know that once a child starts having sex they will only stop when they want. It is time for the parent to make sure the child knows what they are doing as far as responsibility goes.

Answer 4

If you are the teenager asking this question, you should be talking to your mom right now. She'll be upset but she'll get over it.
As a parent the most important thing to me is protection, awareness of all venereal diseases, especially AIDS. Our talks were focused on- being responsible, making wise choices, and earning trust.
And yes Virginia there is more than one kind of sex.
Our children called one of the other kinds, "Presidential Sex."
My children's safety and health #1.

Answer 5

I think my mom would ground me. But, I am now 20. This is the way that I look at it. You can punish, spank, beat, curse, and ground all you want. This is just going to make them more mad and keep wanting to do it. It is already to late. I would teach instead of punish! Teach about safe sex and all the scary diseases there are out in this world. Who knows you might even give them a scare with all the gonaherpasyphalaids out there. Good luck!

Answer 6

What can I do.... The only thing I could do is talk to her, find out who the boy is or man,tell his parents or take him to court or child support and be there for her! I would not make my daughter do an abortion!
It is here( the baby) not let's deal with it!
She would need to finish school and go to college!!!That is it!

Answer 7

Hmmmmm well I guess I would probably be extremely angry at first and then maybe when the anger was gone i would probably make sure i talked with my teen and tell them that by no means am i gonna condone them being sexually active, but i would make sure that they were on some type of birth control.

Answer 8

I would be extremely disappointed, probably cry, and then after I'd gotten over that, sit down and discuss what they intend to do about birth control and the emotional upheaval of getting involved with someone at such a young age. And then support them in their decisions.

Answer 9

I trust that my 14 yo would make smarter choices concerning something so important & would have more respect for her own body, mental state, social status, her soul & spirit.

Her efforts are assocated with education & having fun on a different level.

Answer 10

I'm not a parent but I would be upset. Since you can't be with them 24/7 it would be good to get them some birth control and be sure they are aware of the consequences of their actions.