my new wife told me its me or your kids.?

Question

thank every one. yes she knew about the kids. it's been a problem all long but i thought things would change.i try to take them to the park. we fight over it.

Answer 1

What do you think would happen if the roles were reversed and you told her, "It's me or your kids"?

Answer 2

Bye bye wife. She knew you had kids when you got married. I married a man with a child and I take on the responsibility of being a step parent along with being his wife. If she really loved you, and was truly your partner, she would work with you to find a way to deal with the situation - I am guessing it's a less than positive one as she is issuing an ultimatum.

I hope that you are able to work this out, and she grows up and realizes that when you get married, you marry the kids also. For better or worse.

I have to ask - did she think that the ring would make a difference in how you felt about your kids????

Answer 3

No one should give an ultimatum where someones children are involved. If she knew you had children before you married then she has no right to make such a statement.

However, as a step mother (26 years now) I can say that it is possible that when you're children are around you ignore her and her feelings. You need to make sure she feels that she is a part of your children's life too. Perhaps she gave this ultimatum because in some way you've made her feel like an outsider in her own marriage. You didn't give any details so it is difficult to tell, but please think about why she might be feeling this way.

Answer 4

You haven't given enough details! Does she have kids, too? Do you ignore her when your kids are around or try to have her involved in some part of the time together? Do your kids treat her respectfully? Does she treat them well?
Your children should be first priority as far as their health and well being is concerned. Your wife is your partner and her reactions to your children should have been ironed out before you said "I do". I seriously think counselling is in order to help pinpoint the areas you can both work on to make this a successful family dynamic- and include your kids!

Answer 5

Beingst as I am a mother who's childs father has pretty much chosen the new wife. I am gonna say choose your kids. Now him and the wife have a child but he has not seen this child since he was born. The children are not very far apart in age but it still just bothers me. Any women who is not gonna tell you to go and get your kid is not a women at all!!!!!

Answer 6

No one would come between me and my kids, I mean NO ONE!! She knew about them when she said I DO, so I would tell her don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya! and chalk it up to experience, the go out and find a "real wife" one that is a partner, friend, and lover, not just a spoiled rotten *****

Answer 7

Time to put your foot down on the neck of the wife, it seems..your kids should be first and she is uite selfish to give that ultimatum..if she doesn't cool it, sounds as if you need to lose the wife..sorry, but I have been faced with this similiar situation.. Luck to you..

Answer 8

First of all.. U shoulnd't asking this question, it shows that you are weak and do not love your children very much. Secondly and lastly, kick your new wife's sorry asss out of your house. She don't deserve to be with you or your kids.

Answer 9

no wife or husband who makes you choose between them and your own flesh and blood deserves your love. She obviously knew you have kids before you two got married, it is very selfish of her to cause division with your kids.

Answer 10

She knew about kids b4 marrying U right? What changed?

Answer 11

The kids you could always get another wife but you could never replace your kids.