i know all men do it but i feel as if im not good enough for my husband when he does this. am i just weird?
2007-07-28 17:35:52 · 19 answers · asked by roxie k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no you are not weird and let me tell ya .i don't think it is right for him to be watching that when he has a wife . he really is disrespecting you .you are his mate his lover his wife you are the one he should only be seeing naked . i think you need to tell him it is you or the porns .i think those things are so sick. and he shouldn't even be watching things like that.
2007-07-28 17:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by debbie d 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I'm not married, but in a committed 6 year relationship. Boyfriend watches porn from time to time, and as long as he's only into consenting human adults it doesn't bother me. If it became habitual or a detriment to our sex life, I'd take issue with it. If it ever spilled over into the realm of anything non consensual or underage, the relationship would be over.
Men are visual. I don't know your comfort level, but if you're up to it, I bet he'd really enjoy finding pics of you tucked away somewhere unexpected. I made a video once, and left it up for the other half to find when he came home after a long day of work. He said it was definitely better than anything he could have downloaded.
2007-07-29 00:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by thegnomeofwrath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go watch it with him. My husband and I watch it together. It really spices up our sex life. You aren't weird for feeling the way you do. A lot of women feel that way. I don't because I know my husband would rather make love to me then watch porn, but if I'm sick, pregnant, or not in the mood I have no problems with him taking care of himself by watching porn. Better that then him going elsewhere to get it.
2007-07-29 00:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dani&Morgan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not married (by choice) but I have been with my guy for 8 years, he watches porn sometimes and it does not bother me at all. It seems like most women are so unrealistic. You want your husband to always want you and noone but you. The best thing you can ask for is that he doesn't cheat. Sometimes he just wants to look at something different and crazy like that and who cares? I mean sometimes its great because I'm not in the mood jump on him so it doen't bother me. Would you rather he watch porn sometimes or talk to other women online? I would choose the porn!
2007-07-29 00:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by meeeeeeeee2681 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This man doesn't. You are not weird and you deserve better
Trust me I know porn is addicting. That is one of many reasons you should not tolerate it.
Think about it like this...Have you every noticed that there are no grandmas or even 30ish moms in porn. That's because porn takes men to younger and younger girls. Not women. GIRLS! Have you ever watched dateline nbc where they bust all the pervs trying to have sex with 13 or 14 y/o children?
PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN
2007-07-29 00:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by JOHN 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
No, you are not weird. I feel the same way. I don't like porn but, I would rather him want to watch it with me.
2007-07-29 00:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are not weird. My husband watches it and I do not get jealous. Watch it with him and act out your favorite scenes. Leave your insecurities behind and just go wild on him. He will love you for it and you will both finish happy.
2007-07-29 01:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by ize4love07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't feel jealous of any of the girls in the movies because I don't feel threatened by them in any way.I have even used a few ideas we've seen & spiced things up when they have gotten a little "routine" from time to time.As long as we're together & he's not watching it by himself & neglecting me then I'm fine with it ; p
2007-07-29 01:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
to meeeeeeeeee2681 : i would rather he did none. why do i have to choose? it's like asking: would you rather have him be physically abusive or verbally abusive. neither is a good choice. just because men are visually stimulated doesn't mean they have to seek stimulation. i think it's disrespectful and disgusting. and i think the "women" who do porn are sick and a disgrace to all women.
2007-07-29 02:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like him to watch porn without me i love to watch it with him
2007-07-29 01:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋