Ok, my wife said she was going to work this morning and instead of going she went with some guy for 8 hours where she says that she talked to him about bankruptcy and other things about finances and stuff...I called up at her work today and they told me that she wasn't scheduled to work and that they hadn't seen her all day...when she got home I asked her how work was and she said that it was ok...then I asked her what area of the factory she was working in and she said a different one that normal...I then told her that I had called up there and everyone said that she wasn't there....She admitted that she was with this guy all day and that nothing went on other than them talking about financial stuff...she said nothing more than that went on. Is this constituted as cheating? She has cheated on me once before...what should I do? We do have a 6 mos. old son....
2007-07-28 17:17:04 · 22 answers · asked by Jeremy J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it is your wife why aren't you involved in this "financial" stuff? If you are husband and wife you should be discussing financials together...not behind someones back. She is either cheating on you or plotting divorce and figuring out a way to get all your money...that could be the "financial" side of things. Sounds pretty shady to me.
2007-07-28 17:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would have to sort of agree with the first response to your question. I mean if you don't have a birthday or a anniversary coming up pretty soon. Then she is more than likely doing something that she doesn't want to tell you about. Because if you are talking about something as big as fianances, I think you would at least share with your hubby if there is even a fianancial problem to begin with. You can confront her about it which may work and it may not. She may clam up though about it and keep lying. So just ask her out right, if she loves you, if having a child together means anything at all to her. Because if not you can happily take your son and go to court over this. Its pretty sad, that you would have to stoop to such drastic measures but if she won't fess up about this and you know she has cheated on you before, your options are very slim to none in this situation. So talk to her again about what really went down, if she can't look you directly in the eyes without fidgeting and tell you she wasn't cheating then you have your answer.
2007-07-28 17:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude i feel for you she lied to you or least omitted the truth i have been through this my self and been the cheater and when your gut tells you its happening then it is as far as nothing went on your a guy do you believe this - you are all ready exhibiting the behavior if it was me i would not believe her all day long huh i am known as a talker and people even tell me to shut up for a while i have never had a all day talk. second what honorable guy would go out with a married women like this they sneak around behind your back that should tell you ever thing.she lied about being at work if it was Innocent then she would not have lied find the guy let him know that if he come s near her again it will go bad for him as for your family you can try to keep it together but it sound like she does not care about that a wife should treat her man better then this.
2007-07-28 17:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't prove she cheated, but it's clear she LIED to you.
What was her excuse for lying to you?
That's a good question to ask her.
It doesn't look good either way Buddy. I'm sorry.
You see, she is hiding stuff from you. That is clear.
Now you know that you can't trust her.
I wouldn't want to be in your shoes right now.
I'd rather be alone than with a woman who lies to my face.
I'm sorry for your Son also.
You admit she has cheated on you before.
I'm sorry, but the good news is that you are seeing her TRUE colors and that she is a liar. Now you know where you stand.
This is good.
Talk to a lawyer. You may have to hire a P.I. and then divorce her and she will NOT get 1/2 of your stuff.
Good luck.
2007-07-28 17:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Yam King 7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is saying she is going to work and she is not, even if she is not cheating (with a lover, etc.), she is still hiding a major aspect of her life from you. Seeking financial guidance is not something a wife would hide from her husband (in a normal relationship), unless perhaps she is trying to figure out how to support herself and your child should she leave you.
The bigger and more important issue is WHY. Why did your wife cheat on you previously? Why would she not be honest with you about what she does during the day? What state is your marriage REALLy in?
My suggestion is to sign up for couples' counseling to get everything out into the open, if you want to stay married to your wife. You may think turning a blind eye is the easy way to keep your family together, but she will only continue to be untruthful with you and unhappy in her marriage. She needs to figure out if she can be happy staying married to you, and being honest (and faithful) to you.
2007-07-28 17:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Athenart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has disrespected the family and your trust by meeting with a man behind your back. If she has cheated on you once, the chances are she will do it again. Without respect and trust what chances do your relationship have of working. It's very unfortunate that she feels that she must discuss such personal matters as the "finances" behind your back. The seed of doubt has been planted. It will be very difficult to dig up all the roots that has been embedded by that seed. Good Luck to You and your son.
2007-07-28 17:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by DONNA W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How far in debt are you guys that it took 8 hours to talk about? And if it was to discuss finances why were you not involved in the conversation? This sounds very funny. I am not saying that people can't have friends of the opposite sex when married because I have friends that are male but my husband knows them and I do go out with out my husband but he knows when Iwill be home and how to reach me.
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2007-07-28 17:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by bylovemagic 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is so obvious...she is lying and she is definitely cheating. If she had nothing to hide, she would have told you where she was going in the first place...not only that, when you asked her, she lied. She's a liar and a cheater...I feel sorry for you and more than that, I feel sorry for your precious, innocent son that he has a mother with no integrity. Kick her to the curb!
2007-07-28 17:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whew!
Well...I'd say you have good reason to mistrust her, since she has cheated before.
The fact that she out-&-out LIED to you to begin with would make me lean toward cheating. Why would she have to lie about something if it was only "financial stuff"?
Methinks she's cheating. But if you have any doubts, have her followed. It's expensive, but at least you'd know for sure what I think you already know.
Good luck.
2007-08-02 07:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by Barbi T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋