I am so frustrated with my husband!!! I am so Tempted to do something!?

Question

I am stuck here with our child 24/7 and he gets to go out and do whatever he wants with his coworkers. There's been 2 guys calling here, and one has been coming by (came with his wife and baby too), my husband got super sloppy drunk and the guy had to drop my husband off here. Now my husband is out again, supposedly at a bow tournament at freaking 9PM at night? WTF?! WTH?! He has been trying to get it on with me, and we did it this week and we were talking about him and me getting together tonight, but I'm so PPPPPOOOOODDDD
I just want to run around town too! I wish I had somewhere to go and be at freaking midnight instead of waiting with my child for him. And get this: When I went to a grocery store I was almost mowed down in the parking lot, and had I been hurt, there is no phone number for me to call! I've been after him for a long time to get a cell phone and he won't because it costs money but he's willing to buy alcohol, cigarrettes, and pay for the gas of driving.

I want to get even and I want him to know how it feels for a change.
Any ideas or suggestions?
I'm so mad at him.

Answer 1

Find a sexy good looking guy and take you child to his place. After your child goes to sleep, have hot sex and, if the guy is not hot enough, find someone else. Shower first and come home at 3am. When your husband asks where you were, tell him you were visiting a girl friend. Have a couple of girl friends that will back up your story.

Do that at least once a week when your husband is gone. He will get very suspicious and may even put a recording device on the phone and may try to follow you, but if you are smart he cannot prove anything. Don't call the guy from home and don't allowed yourself to be followed. With traffic and lights, and lots of turns, he will not be able to follow you and not be seen and even then he can not trail you long because of stop lights and other cars cut in.

You will have your fun and sweet revenge and his suspicions will bother him a lot more than what he is doing is bothering you. Very likely, you husband will decide to stay home.

Answer 2

My answer might not be the one you want to hear, but here it is. It appears that he is more stable with his buddies, than he is with you (which is no reflection upon you). Perhaps he enjoys the company of men. However, he is an alcoholic and when he gets drunk, he probably doesn't realize the devastation he is causing you.

You want to "get back" and I realize that emotion. You can do that, but it will only exacerbate the situation. On the other hand, it he is laid out drunk and you have the opportunity to fulfill your needs elsewhere, I would not fault you for it.

As far as the cell phone, I doubt it would do any good as he may or may not answer it and tell you any kind of excuse. As far as the cost of such a phone verses the cost of his alcohol, cigarettes and gas, he's going to spend the money on that no matter what. You do not want to hear that you need to remove yourself from this relationship, because it may be difficult for you to do financially.

I can only recommend that you try to find a way to move elsewhere for a time, be it family or friends and then to end the relationship. It is not going to change because what he is doing is a habit and a choice that he will continue to do.

Answer 3

Don't do anything out of anger! You will definitely regret it. Don't become a 5lut just to make your husband mad. Don't lower yourself. I like the advice SuziQ gave. Find a baby sitter, put your hottest outfit on, meet him where he is and put it on him. After that, go somewhere and visit a friend or relative where you can stay out as long as you want, with your baby. Enjoy yourself without neglecting your baby. Don't just sit around the house waiting for him. That will drive you crazy and make you frustrated. Let him see you leaving the house sometimes -- even with your baby. Don't let him think that you're tied down just because you have a baby. Leave the house. Remain respectable. Be a lady, always. Enjoy your life without him. Don't divorce him if you love him. He is being selfish. Don't let him know that he's controlling your emotions like this. Get out and enjoy yourself in a good-old wholesome way.

Answer 4

I know how it is to be home with a child and have the husband off and going about his merry way. do not do anything that would bring disrespect to yourself or your family. It is a sin to commit adultry and you would be very sorry even if you think you would not. It is not worth it. First, sit your husband down and map out a child sharing plan. This child is part of both of your lives. He is responsible for taking care of the wee babe and not just because he goes off on a job. I know of several high powered men who have sat. morning duty taking care of the kids. Second, he needs to work out a budget with you and put savings away for necessities and a babysitting fund and tell him one night a week is your adult time with him. I would not yell at him. Look at this as a problem to be solved rationally. Do not ask his permission to do these things. It is like doing a math problem..map out the formula and solve the problem...no whining, no lack of confidence. He also may need to have a chat with a pastor yo know is Godly who can remind him of his vows and his responsibilities. Without yelling, tell him what you want: alone time with him on a datenight, he takes the child and has a decent plan for the child. Tell him he is to be home every night unless agreed that he will be out. He has to be home to put the babe to bed. Make a chart for him and what is expected of him.

Answer 5

Hey I think I know how you feel...except my husband goes out with the cops because he is a reserve and then off with his brother...I am here all the time with our children..2 girls...he doesnt care...I say get one of those phones at walmart the you can get prepaid minutes....i think the phones are 35-50 bucks and the minutes run 10-20 bucks depending on how many minutes..he sounds selfish just like mine....I really dont have any friends....so no where to go but if i had to a place to go i would be all over it...

Answer 6

This is def. frustrating for you!!! I'm SO sorry!! He sounds like a real jackass! I would talk to him about this and give him a chance to change but if your still miserable in a few months Maybe you just need to leave. I know it's probly not what you want to hear. But it's better to go and be happy else where than to stay and be miserable. And don't try to get even with him. That's just lowering yourself to his level. Your Better than that and show him that you are too!!!

Answer 7

Just be the boss. Tell him that he is staying home for a change and that you are going out to be with yor friends. Stand your ground, don't let him push you around. Hoped this advice helps.. You just need to find the courage to stand up to him. It might be hard but you should be able to do it just believe.Good Luck

Answer 8

Do what I see alot of moms do.
Say " Your home tonite with the baby and I'm going out ,it's not a request or a debate I need a break!"
Short and to the point.

Answer 9

HE sounds liek a selfish @hole. i think you shoudo try to find a way to go to school during the day and get some education career training ( if u dont arleady ) so that you can leave his *** when ur good and ready and find a good job.

Answer 10

You're "stuck" with your child? You "want to get even"??
What are you, 12??? GROW UP.
Either get your butts into counseling or file. You two are too immature to be married, let alone have a child in this world.