i have a friend. actually she's my ex-bestfriend. the reason i don't consider her as my best mate is, she acts so good and nice towards everybody to get the first impression, but inside's, only god knows! she's terrible........
i sit beside her in class, and it's just like every minute i spend my time round her is a torture. i want to have a talk, but i just don't know how to let her feel she was wrong all the time and not feel hurt by me. she always get with her excuses and all of that
ok, she's terrible, the ones that you always called b!tch and skank in school but everyone likes her. sometimes i get jelous moreover she talks about her boyfriens non-stop and make me feel bad.
i go to all-girls school and of course, DRAMA! girls equal drama. like everyday i'm sick and tired of those i really want somebody whose mature and not self-conceited and don't talk crappy stuff...whom i can get along with not like my friends in school!
so how do i cope with someone like that ?
2007-07-28 16:46:04 · 18 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
aww u guys make my cry.... yes i do think i am nice, but not everybody treat me so...
2007-07-28 16:54:16 · update #1
Save yourself the trouble and just start making other friends. People like her will only make more and more DRAMA. Don't feed into it or let it bother you because you already know she does that to everyone.
2007-07-28 17:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by JOHN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you know the real person, not the person that she portrays to the outside World. I have a friend who has an Anti-social disorder and have to live with it. The question you have to ask yourself is can you put up with her negative side. No one can answer that question but you. Saying that do an Internet search for "Desiderata" and read it. It could help you to find some inner peace. I don't think you'll change the kind of person she is and talking to her could make the situation worse. If I were you I would try and distance yourself from her and find friends who are more pleasant. Why torture yourself. No matter what you say, you won't change her. You are a sensitive caring person. Don't let someone change that. It's rare to find someone who cares so much.
It's your choice, but it would be in your best interest to distance yourself from her and have her as a school acquaintance rather than a true friend.
2007-07-29 10:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
After reading this, I guess your best advice would be to try your best to ignore her. I know it will be hard, but I've been to high school and I know what it's like with people who like to say stuff behind your back. All I can suggest is trying to talk to new people, and keep your distance from her. I'm sorry, I didn't help much, but us guys don't tend to get into that stuff like you girls do! :) I guess it's a lot worse because you attend an all-girls school. But try and forget about her. It's not worth getting tangled in that mess. If she tries to talk to you, I would just say what's on your mind (the truth, now!) so she gets the idea. But it all depends on how you want to handle this situation.
2007-08-02 01:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's seeking long lost attention from childhood and the only way she's getting it is being a total ***** and a complete Angel all at the same time,just to get around;unfortunately you're the one who the one who gets to see both those personalities.I suggest that you get with her on one level of her life,like be her friend academically and not socially because even she may not know how to act around you in other levels of her life but,please don't return the favour of being EVIL back to her or to anyone else! -BE GOOD-
2007-07-29 10:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by ART 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me if she was good you wouln't mind being still friends with her. its best if you find someone else who will lift you up than down. don't be jealous of her because in the long run people will see her true colors like you did and as far as her being so popular im sure its all an illusion. to cope with this be mature, confident pretty not arrongant, supportive and people will want more of you . now telling this girl how she was wrong will only in her mind spark a rage in pin pointing you out to people "bad rumors" so don't say anything . herself will say it all for you and the other girls too...
2007-08-05 05:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't associate with her. It will only make things more difficult for you. I know the drama is difficult to avoid, you just have to not get caught up in it. It's just so stupid anyway. Focus on your life and doing the best you can in whatever you attempt.
2007-07-28 23:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a lunch get together and just talk to her, don't raise or voice or say the you word alot. and well if this talk doesn't work with her then just find other friends even if theyre geeks, sometimes there a little bit better.
2007-08-05 16:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if you are a better quality of person and deserve a better friend than she is capable of being to you.you cope by remembering that it is better to be by yourself and lonely than with those who are really not ever going to be a real friend and still lonely.keep looking, don't give up hope I am positive there are plenty of girls who would make a great Friend and not give you their bad reputation
2007-08-05 17:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be the focus of attention all the time.
She likes to be one up on you
She wants everyone to think that she is cool.
Either go with the flow or leave her and find another friend.
2007-07-29 02:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by **tomtom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank God every day your not like her. It is sad when someone is like that. She talks the way she does because she is very insecure. You sound nice. You do your own thing. Your are just fine....Good luck
2007-07-28 23:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋