Can not stop cheating?

Question

Been married 27 years to a great woman. She is loyal, faithful takes great care of me, children and has a full time business of her own.

I have an obsession with cheating. I feel sorry for ugly woman. I do not know why I get pulled into their life. They are so good at pleasing me it is hard to stop.
She found out and told me to move out. It is NOT forgiveable. She is slowly selling all my things. I have some very expensive tools, clothes, jewelry etc...
I did not realize I had actually not made love to my wife since March. I been so wrapped up in me I forgot to please her.
When she was ranting and yelling I realized she was right. I forgot to pencil her in. DAMN!!!

SO anyways...she told me to be free now to go play with whores and maybe since I was sp freely using FAMILY $$ then I could just go live with the whore/s.

Well....I am not sorry for cheating. I am sorry I hurt her. I have no $ and no home to go to.
It isn't fun anymore. I want to go home.
How can I please her?

Answer 1

Sounds like she is done with you as she should be! Leave her alone and let her get on with her life as you have obviously done with your life.

Answer 2

It is sad that men don't realize what there doing wrong till it's to late, but i'm not gonna dog you and say you don't deserve her, yes, it was wrong of you, put i do have to give you some credit for now realizing it's wrong what you did and that your sorry and that you want her back, i give you some credit for that, now as to how you can make it up to her, that is gonna be a tough one.....very very tough, if you really love this woman you wouldn't of done this, but i know you were probably thinking with your di*k instead of your brain, so, if you really love this woman and you really are gonna not cheat and try to win her back, you need to start by getting a place of your own, get a job, then give her time, try talking to her in a week or so and telling her what you just told us, that your sorry, your sick of cheating and you love her, she may hang up, she may yell, wait, give it more time and keep at it, if you really want something bad enough and your willing to change for it, things can happen, so like i said, get a job, get a place, learn to control yourself and pray....and show her your serious, talk to her, hope everything works out for you...God bless

Answer 3

sounds like to me your more upset about the fact that she is selling your things and you have no place to go to or money or you would talk more about hurting her than the posessions you are know out of. Can I say I feel sorry for you, well truthfully no. My wife cheated on me a year and a half ago and left and i haven't seen her since. So I relate and feel more for her. For know leave her alone and let her heal you have done enough damage.

Answer 4

Are you related to the father of my 3 sons?

It's crazy, isn't it? You love the attention of women fawning all over you and before you know it, you're being pulled into an affair. (Not kicking and screaming, mind you...)

You can't say no, you're not really sorry or you wouldn't have kept doing it, you're only sorry you've been caught and thrown out. You're not going to get her back, man. But you can get checked by a doctor, then a shrink, maybe you're bipolar or have an addiction to sex.

Either way, you should want to get better for yourself, not because you've been dealt consequences of your action that "aren't fun anymore."

Answer 5

You make me sad...but I would encourage you to seek immediate counseling alone first to get help with your previous extramarital issues...then once you have gone through the counseling see if the Mrs. will be willing to join you. I believe if you really want to make your marriage work it will work....you just better pray after 27 years of nuptials the wife is willing to take you back...she's hurt and dealing with major rejection by you, how could you not remember to make love to your wife?
Look, seek guidance and wise counsel my friend.

Answer 6

I think you better find another place to go. You have so many women on the side, go to one of them. But once you cheat on them, its going to be a cycle you go through. Seek counseling and maybe your wife might stop selling your stuff. You have any good cds at home? I'm looking for some good deals for cds. She might sell them to me for $1.

Answer 7

well it is not easy cause once they find out its over and and your pretty much kicked to the curb. you have to balance the affairs and the wife. even if you dont let them know or sneak out with your lover. you gotta treat your wife the same everyday. You can't act all fishy and stuff. be normal. have a different cell number for your chicks and a different one for your wife. different bank account for your chicks and a different one for your wife. Hanging out late nights with your chicks is so obvious. hang with her when the wifey is not around or away. one thing is never use credit cards on your chicks use cash. But dont like take like 500$ from the bank and then spent on her. that will be so obvious. basicaly be you and normal like nothing is going on.

Answer 8

Dude, it sounds as if you have already dug your own hole. I doubt anyone here is going to be able to advise you on this one. If you are not actually sorry about the cheating, then I would say that there isnt any hope for your marriage.

Answer 9

I personally don't think she or any other woman for that matter deserves you!! I wouldn't wish you on my worst enemy how can you be so selfish and not just towards her but to your children! I agree with her feelings and believe you should leave her alone and let her move on to someone who may make her happy..........


PS go find one of the "ugly girls" mentioned to put up with your s**t

Answer 10

Sounds like your wife is smart. If you aren't sorry that you cheated then she don't need your sorry #$$ anyways. Leave her alone and find some ugly woman to please you since that is what you really want.