Firstly, let me say I'm gay. Thinking on the subject I find myself wondering whether or not same-sex couples are selfish to adopt children. Having been alienated at school for being 'different' and for having strange emotions (guilt/denial) at the thought of coming out, I wonder how a parent's sexuality would affect a child? How would the child introduce his/her friends to two mums/dads? Would the child be bullied? Would the child end up resenting his/her parents? Is the world we live in ready for this yet?
2007-07-28 15:40:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Children need a loving home and same sex couples can provide that as well as any other couple. I am in a same sex relationship and we have 3 children. Not adopted. The kids have more problems at school for being short, funny clothing, our family car not being cool and so on. I think maybe there have been things said about having 2 moms but the kids haven't said anything to us so it must not bother them. They know they are well taken car of and loved. As long as a person or persons can love and take care of kids they should be able to adopt.
2007-07-28 15:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by whata waste 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different in some way or another. Kids pick on other kids just because they can. Remember what school was like? Kids don't need a reason to bully other kids.
I think gay couples should most definitely adopt. There are SO many kids without loving parents right now. I think it's better to give them a loving home with same sex parents than to leave them in the care of the government where they are generally ignored or worse.
I also believe that same sex couples should go through the same stringent adoption proceedures as hetero couples.
2007-07-28 15:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself was raised by a lesbian mother and I turned out great. I also asked a similar question about how one's sexual orientation effects raising a child if at all, just to get other people's insight on it. I don't think it is selfish for same-sex couples to adopt, a lot of heterosexual couples and single people adopt too. For the longest time I introduced my mom's partner as her room mate until I understood that my mom was a lesbian...most of my friends had known me for a long enough time that they didn't really care. I think most children are bullied in some ways because children can be cruel, but the bullying isn't necessarily specific to having parents that are homosexual. Kids get picked on by other kids for all sorts of things, looking to nerdy, being too short, too tall...you know whatever.
2007-07-28 15:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by unlikely_angel_19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 'net sites and blogs and chat groups and support groups that talk about this kind of thing (they'd already been there and done that).
It is a good thing that same-sex couples adopt. The kids exist and need parents. The parents exist and need kids. Looks like a simple math problem to me.
Do they get teased? Sometimes. Just like fat kids or pimply kids or kids with buck teeth. Once you tell the school authorities, it tends to stop because they fear a pending lawsuit.
2007-07-28 22:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sexuality is just that, your own. Ask Rosie O'Donnell's kids how they feel about being raised by two mommies. You will always find bullies out there no matter what the situation is. You will also find people who accept you as you are. This world we live in needs this to happen. The more it becomes mainstream, the less society will object towards it happening and maybe, just maybe society will see we are just the same as they are. I believe in equal rights, do you?
2007-07-28 16:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by astudsboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair. Anyone should be able to adopt, regardless of their sexual orientation. There are many children out there who need loving parents.
I actually know somebody with two moms, and she does not get made fun of much. She's my good friend. There are some people who can be very cruel though, and feel that they need to act all egocentric to make themselves feel better. I know that she was hurt and embarrassed at first, but with the support of loving friends, she's learned to love herself and accept herself and most important ignore those who try to make her feel bad. =)
2007-07-28 16:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not selfish.....your actually giving a child a better home....imagine having to sleep with other kids you don't know and you never really have anything of your own....Adoption by anyone who really wants a child is truly a blessing..
2007-07-28 16:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by evansmd911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair to me. My partner and I plan to adopt when we graduate med school. I wouldn't adopt and live in a small town, because small towns gossip regardless of sexual orientation.
2007-07-28 16:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fair. It would only be selfish for LGBT couples to adopt if it is selfish for heterosexuals to adopt.
2007-07-28 16:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by Dominic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they provide that child with love and a good home then it shouldn't matter what they are.
2007-07-28 16:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by Azu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋