My baby's father and I are not together like we were before I became 3 months pregnant, sure we have occasional sex every now and then but that's all. He hasn't done anything for me and my son since I was 4 months and now that the baby is 2 weeks away he still isn't showing the act right he needs to. I know he is interested in me and not the baby, but I know he's gonna do the same thing he did when I was 3 months and that's leave and don't call at all. I want to keep my son away from him because I am tired of giving this creep chance after chance to be there for our son and he doesn't take advantage of it. He doesn't buy anything for the baby not even a diaper or bottle and I want to terminate his rights. I mean no visitation, no pictures, not even a kiss my ***. Is this wrong and how would I go about doing it?
2007-07-28 15:18:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you don't put his name on the birth certificate and as long as he isn't at the birth to contest (doesn't sound like he will be), then in order for him to have rights, he would have to take you to court to prove paternity. I doubt he will do this. As far as terminating them completely, I'm not exactly sure how that happens. With my son after 2 years without any contact, it was considered abandonment and it was no problem for my husband to fill out an affidavit of parentage and be added to my son's birth certificate.
2007-07-28 15:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you are on any type of government assistance...medicaid, TANF, Foodstamps, or if you will be after the child is born, you will have to name the father or your assistance will be cut off.
Next, if you can make it on your own, with no government assistance, and the father doesn't sign the birth certificate or take you to court to prove paternity, then he has no rights.
Third, if he is named the legal father, you can NOT terminate his rights unless you are married, and your husband wants to adopt the child...then the biological father has to give consent for the adoption. His rights will be terminated, and your husband would be the legal father at that point.
Most states do have a law that allows adoption to take place without the biological parent's consent, IF there has been no contact--no phone calls, no letters, no emails, no child support, and no visitation for a set amount of time. Different states have different time allotments. The father will still be notified of the proceedings, but the court can terminate rights if the court feels it is in the child's best interest, without consent of the biological parent.
Terminating parental rights, refusing contact, alienating the child from a biological parent are all major decisions, with major consequences. You should consult with an attorney--many will give a free initial consultation.
I would also suggest that you enter into counseling for yourself prior to making any decisions.
2007-07-28 16:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Busy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's good enough to still be having sex with you "every now and then" but he's not good enough to be a father to your child? Lovely. You can not terminate his parental rights. What you can do is get a DNA test after the birth to prove that he is the father and then get an order of child support. Or maybe you had some other well thought out plan for having enough money to raise that poor child.
2007-07-28 15:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually, if you're unmarried and having a baby, the father has to sign a notice about father's rights and acknowledgment of his child. If he doesn't sign that, your battle is already half done. To add to that, the baby belongs legally to the mother, at least this is the case in many states. You should research your state's laws about this.
You could also have him sign away all rights to his child. Just make sure to have everything documented legally so he can't come back to haunt both of you.
2007-07-28 15:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by HoPeFuL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The child has a right to know who it's father is, like it or not. You thought enough of him to sleep with him (and continue sleeping with him) but you don't want him around his own child? Are you able to support the child without going on welfare? Supporting that child is BOTH parents responsibility.
Just remember DNA is a sweet thing when that child is 12 and the daddy decides he wants to finally be a father!
Instead of trying to terminate his parental rights, how about make him pay child support for the child he helped conceive!!!
2007-07-28 15:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by MamaB 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is such a creep why are you still screwing him? Basically he is a good **** buddy but not good enough to be a daddy? Guess you should have thought about thought 9 months ago. He has to sign over his rights you do not have the right to terminate them in answer to your question.
2007-07-28 15:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by J&A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first... of all you cant terminate his right just because you want to.no court is going to allow that.second...you picked him why punish you child.third.....hes good enough for you to screw every now and then so why stop him from seeing his child. you make wonder if you might of got pregant thinking this would make him want you and it hasnt work so now the think if you take his child from him that will work. i dont mean to be rude but you told us how he does nothing , buys nothing, and screws you only ever now and then. you say you know he cares about you.what in you story would make you think he cares about you?
2007-07-28 15:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋