He doesn't even know Im alive. He come's home every night and eats then goes to bed without saying a word. He doesn't drink at all, he loves to got to the races and bowl and I use to go with him, but it got old and if I would ask him to do something I liked to do he wouldn't. I do love him and we have 2 childern togher, but im Very unhappy! Please help me.
2007-07-28 14:44:09 · 23 answers · asked by Teri R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is what you need too do, before for things turn sour. Get some one to watch your kids one evening or even for the day. and you and him go on a outing together. like a romantic dinner in the city, or a outdoor picnic so that way you two can recindle the fire. Me and my husband do that about once every month, and it seems to help us out a lot. Good Luck.
2007-07-28 14:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by UpTownGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk to him. And when you do DO NOT make it seem like you are attacking him and picking at all his faults. Or im sure he will walk away from you. Im sure he knows your alive, maybe he is just getting borde and you need to put a little spice in the relationship and wow him with something. Remember marriage is never 50 50 its usually 60 40 but it alternates. Sometimes you give more and sometimes he has to give a little more. So maybe when he gets home have the house clean the kids happy, fix ur hair put on a nice outfit. Ask him if he can sit and chat for a bit. I know how you feel me and my husband went through the same "slump" for a bit. But you just have to up your "game" and wow him. He could just be getting to used to the same everyday routine. Good luck!
2007-07-28 21:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by angie4154 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down and talk to him orelse write him a note to express your feeling... He might have something not smooth happen in his life that he didnt tell you that is why he try to spend his time on his interest rather than staying at home with you... By the way, maybe you can try to plan a week away from home just the two of you.... try to see whether you can communicate with him by just talking friendly not shouting... if not, seek for a professional help but normally man dont like to do unless been forced to.. so, I do think maybe you should try to start with something soft first... Hope the best for you and your children .....
2007-07-28 21:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by Derma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOunds to me like you are in a horrible rut. That doesn't have to mean divorce. Snap out of it.
Get a babysitter. Make a plan. SOmething fun, something different. Don't take NO for an answer.
Save your marriage. You an do it. If he's still coming home every night and isn't drinking.....you are ahead of many.
Go for it.,....
2007-07-28 21:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're headed down that dreaded road. But I don't feel like that's something you really want, from the way you are asking this. I know you don't feel very interested in the things he is interested in, but why don't you at least try to show up and be there for him? You don't have to like it, but you always have to make an effort to be supportive and be together. Try looking at things through his eyes, and maybe ask him to do the same for you. I think you both are going to have to do some pride swallowing and compromising, but I think if you are both willing to try, you can make it work.
2007-07-28 21:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's boring and a fuddy duddy stuck in his own world of silence and shame. He's either seeing someone else, Gay or he's on another mental mission you know nothing about. Dump the guy, he's not worth it if he can't consider your feelings, wants and desires, and having 2 kids with him and loving him means nothing when you are faced with complete and total unhappiness with a person for the rest of your days!
Good luck and God bless ... but he's not worth it babygirl ...
Much Love
Peace & Happiness
2007-07-28 21:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men think in terms of black and white. he probably doesn't even know there is an issue. get two business cards - one for a divorce lawyer and one for a marriage counselor. (DON'T HAVE THE CONSULTATION WITH EITHER - ESPECIALLY THE DIVORCE LAWYER!). Tell him you want to have a serious talk about your marriage. Lay both cards in front of him. Ask him to choose - counseling or divorce (this is the way men think!). I seriously recommend the book called "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus". Remember....you love him. Good Luck.
2007-07-28 21:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by jherndon22@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you let him know you are unhappy. SOmetimes men can be so blind to the fact that you are unhappy. Let him know you are so unhappy that divorce has actually crossed your mind.
Tell him you need some him and you alone time to see if there are any connections left.
GOod luck
2007-07-28 21:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put some spice back into your marriage. Read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura. Tons of good information in the book.
Good luck!
2007-07-28 21:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gee, sorry ...
maybe your husband has some problem or issue he's not telling you about?
you could let him know you have noticed he's changed a lot, and you feel something might be bothering him. you can tell him that if he needs someone to listen, you're there...
you could also let him know you miss him, and would like to work on your marriage.
i hope he listens.. and that you get good advice here.
take care ok?
2007-07-28 21:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋