there was a rumour about a female workmate going out with the boss, which most people think is stupid.?

Question

shes 26, and not stupid
He's 42, has a wife and 2 kids (ones 15)

Thing is on my way home i saw his car cross an intersection, followed it and he stopped outside and went into her house, she's a good mate?! what should i do?

i don't work there anymore but my wife does and we know the bosses wife really well

No i'm not into her, though i used to see her as a little niece if you like. when we followed the boss in the car i had just picked my wife up from work so we were both in the car

i followed because its almost the same route apart from one turn at the end

Answer 1

if she's a good mate of yours, you might let her know that you're concerned about her.

i dont' know what else you can do? they guy is probably using her for sex... and nothing more.

i hope things work out and she comes to her senses.

Answer 2

Why did you follow his car in the first place? Or was it on the same route you take to get home? I think you should do what you feel is best. This man is having his cake and eating it. The poor girl in question obviously hasn't thought what happens to her job when her boss gets bored of her and moves on to the next new addition to the firm. I hope his wife wises up whether it's through you, your wife or in another way and gives him what he deserves. Good luck in whatever you choose to do.

Answer 3

If ye are good friends then i would take her aside discretely and tell her about the rumours and that everybody knows what is going on therefore it won't be long before the boss's wife finds out.
She may hate you for it then again you could be saving her from a lot of future embarrassment.

Answer 4

I think you let your wife deal with this one. It requires a girl chat - someone needs to tell her she is doing a very wrong thing. He is 42 and married with kids. If she wants to be classed as a homewrecker then she is going the right way about it. Even if no physical relationship is taking place, its about to. Your wife could encourage your friend to see herself as worthy of a proper relationship. Not some sleazy part-time thing on the side - only there to gratify some sad midlifer.

Answer 5

I honestly dont think you can do very much, apart from make them both aware that you know of this affair.And to say that you refuse to lie for her, if you get asked about it.

Regardless of how we feel about affairs, its their own responsibility when the shoot hits the fan. Its the boss who is even more in the wrong... he is the one who is married and likely to break up a family.

married men rarely give up and leave their missus so your friend needs to be warned. She could be badly hurt here and it wont be very nice for her to continue working for him, should the affair break up in time. She would have to find another job in order to work in relative peace.

Answer 6

You can talk to the girl. But will she listen? You can tell her what you think and feel, but will she choose to follow your advise? I don't know.. Maybe you should be really sure about the real score between her and the boss. Then let her know that you know. Or let her meet someone you think will change her preferance. Good luck!

Answer 7

It's sad the adultery that goes on.
Truly it is not your business. If she is your friend and she chooses to tell you then you can give her advice, otherwise I would say stay out of it. Nothing good ever comes out of these situations. But of course if she needs you then you can be a friend and be there for her.

Answer 8

Do not get involved. The wife will find out sooner or later.

Answer 9

i think that you should just leave things the way that they are and not to sound horrible but top keep your nose out because you will only end up being the nosy one and interfearing no matter what you do or say about it

Answer 10

Rumor, rumor, is it a rumor? It maybe true why get involved u don't 2 b in the middle of drama. Let it rest.