Did you find it lonely? If so is it OK when you are settled in and do you feel content after a while? Is it OK as long as you keep yourself really busy during the day?
2007-07-28 13:43:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Home & Garden ➔ Other - Home & Garden
Great question. I can't wait to see the anwers. I'm living by myself for the first time in my life, and it's...pretty boring.
2007-07-28 13:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lived alone for years.
What I had to do was make a home that I enjoyed coming home to. I have a garage and it keeps me busy doing this that and whatever, I tinker with everything but nothing in particular.
I am kind of handy, so I let me neighbors know and when they need something done or repaired they call for "Mr Dave".
Now I believe the thing that will get you into trouble living alone is your television. If you get hooked on watching TV all the time you will find a boreing existance. I hardly ever watch TV and I try to stay off this damn computer as much as possible. You dont want anything that you become a slave to.
I have joined a gym a little ways down the road ... I dont want to be all bulked up but fit and it makes it easier when you are around others to exercise, plus you get to meet people with the same interest.
I also do my own yard work and gardening. You would not believe how much time that takes.
I keep my house **** and span ... not that I am a neat freak or anything like that but I have time on my hands to kill. When my girlfriend comes over she is impressed as well as anyone else that comes in and see that I am not a total bum.
Best advice is to find something to keep you busy. If you live in an apartment ... volunteer at a homeless shelter or a church to help the less fortunate, join a basketball or volleyball league ... dont know where to look???? How about just going to the local high school and walking into the gym. Call the School district and find out what times and dates there are "pick up games" they are always looking for others to join in.
Make you home a fun place ... will a pinball machine fit, how about a pool table, an air hockey table? How many friends do you think will want to come to your house to play poker if you have a few toys to break up their bordome as well.
Think outside the box and if you are lonely in your home that is telling you to get out and do something so that you enjoy coming home.
2007-07-28 21:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by david a 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm the youngest of four so when I lived by myself for a while, I thought I would like it. I didn't. I'm not a very social person, so I found living by myself to be a lonesome ordeal.
I guess it depends on happy you are with yourself.
Fortunately, I found a very sweet man who loves me and we have been together for 20 years now. Sometimes being alone is nice but being lonely is a different ball of wax and can be rough.
You seem to be a sociable chap, so you probably won't have any trouble at all making friends and getting settled in. Don't forget to take time to "smell the roses" along the way and cherish every minute.
Good luck!
2007-07-28 20:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good...It's not boring. It's not lonely. Depending on your age and situation and personality, it might take some getting used to. I was fine with it. It gave me the freedom to be with people when I wanted or needed to, and time to be alone to watch what I want on TV, to buy only groceries I like, to not have to deal with anyone else cluttering the place or cleaning up after somone else, to sit and read in quiet without distracting noises from someone else, etc, etc. It helps you learn to entertain yourself...reading...checking out movies that you might like...taking up a hobby or hobbies....etc. To be cool with being alone is a great exercise. And of course you can have friends or family over now and then. There's something 'good' about being self-sufficient financially and emotionally and mentally. ............ It helps to be a well rounded person. Also, I think someone has to be 'good' on their own before they can be 'good' in a relationship. It's really a good feeling to be "alone" and being cool with that.
Good luck.
2007-07-28 21:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Barb B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have lived alone many times in my life and learned to enjoy my solitude. I have many interests and never felt bored. If I needed company or felt like socializing, I would go out with my friends or invite them over.
I am currently in a long term relationship and my partner respects my need for occasional solitude when I am at the other side of our house.
2007-07-28 20:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have nothing to do to keep yourself occupied, you will not like it. But if you are a busy person and home is just for sleeping then you will do okay.
On the other hand, there are people who like their own company.....introverts. They read, garden, exercise, write, have a home office, etc.
2007-07-28 20:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the evening it can be lonely if you dont have a hobby or good friends to hang with. Then my cat also has helped also.
2007-07-28 22:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time it was tough, but times since then haven't been bad. You have to learn to appreciate the time that you can spend with yourself.
2007-07-28 20:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after college and before marriage i lived alone, i have to say its the loneliest existance there is.............i dont recommend it to anyone..........
2007-08-04 04:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by IT'S ME AGAIN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋