What have I done?
Why wont he go?Is he desparate?
I DONT KNOW WHAT ON EARTH IS GOING ON!!HELP ME! ADVICE PLEASE!My intuition is telling me to stay away from him
I met a man online in June.He and I started dating on June 20th. We have been seeing each other almost everyday/weekend since.The relationship started to become very uncomfortable.He would make rude comments about me,my home,my up bringing.I told him that I didnt want to be in a relationship anymore.He said"Why,I like you.We can work this out.Lets talk about this.I want you to be my girlfriend." I felt bad for hurting his feelings so we stayed together.I went through a divorce from an abusive man last year and I told this guy about it. When we went skydiving two weeks ago he made fun of the abuse!! He said"All Brian had to do was slap you around to get you to marry him." When we got back home I told him to never call me again.No Emails.Nothing. He called and Emailed and said "Oh,I'm sorry.I only want you to be my girlfriend.I'm so alone!Why wont you be with me?No one wants to be with me!" We got back together.How do I make him go away?Should I just ignore him from now on.I dont know?
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He also keeps insisting that I move to the city that he lives in.I keep asking myself why is he so pesistant about it. I told him that I dont like him anymore.What is wrong with him?
2007-07-28 13:42:34 · 15 answers · asked by DO YOU LOVE ME♥*´`*•.¸★｡ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him alone or you're gonna end up like before.
2007-07-28 13:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by zina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay now do you see that this man is a controlling a**hole? If you were in an abusive relationship you should see that you're getting back into an abusive relationship. If it's this early and he's already comfortable enough around you to make rude comments and so forth then we have a real problem. The comment about your ex slapping you around would've set me off to the point where I would not have cared weather I hurt his feelings or not! I would've left him so fast his head would've spun! And if I ever saw him walk on the street, I would about face and run like hell. I would call him now and tell him that if he ever calls me again or tries to contact me in anyway I will get a restraining order against him! He'll probably still attempt to contact you after you say that to him and I would call the cops every time he even farts in my direction! He's a sicko!
2007-07-28 20:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by ♥§weetiepie♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with him, is what is wrong with you.
On one hand you keep insisting that it is over, but YOU KEEP TAKING HIM BACK!!!! Of course he doesn't get it, because he sees that he can talk you around each and every time.
To end it, cut him off completely. Do NOT respond to his emails, do not even read them. Do NOT go out with him. Do NOT talk to him on the phone - hang up. Eventually he will get the message, but not if he's getting a different message each time.
Then my dear girl, get some help for yourself.
You are in danger of letting yet another man decide that what he wanted was more important than what you did. He disrespected you, your home and your upbringing, and you still saw him again. You told him you didn't want to see him, and he ignored your decision. Unless you do get help you may find yourself living the same mistake over and over.
Now, you need to take care of YOU.
2007-07-28 20:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Oh No!!!Not Again!" is your question. The keyword being 'Again'.
You stated that your previous relationship was abusive, so you left.
Now you're in another. Do you not see a pattern here?
STOP IT!!!
No calls/emails means just that, 'N O' calls/emails. What does he not understand about no, the N or the O? Stop being masochist by constantly taking this Bozo back. Cut off all ties, pronto, and stick by your resolve. And stop being a sap over these losers. Remember, sometimes a person can be their own worst enemy.
2007-07-28 21:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Larry F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it. This is part of abusive behavior....making you feel guilty. If he contacts you at all call the police and let them at least be aware of what is going on. It sounds like this could be the beginning of another abusive relationship. Get out and as far away as you can.
2007-07-28 20:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm... Quit responding to his emails and phone calls, its as simple as that.. Every time you break up with him he acts hurt and you feel sorry for him and stay with him. For him this works he gets what he wants and still gets to treat you like crap.
Don't let the circle of abuse continue. Also you should probably seek some counseling, a good one can help you understand how to avoid stuff like this.
2007-07-28 20:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRUST YOUR GUT! You right, you do need to get away from this man. If he's making you feel uncomfortable and being a jerk this early in the game (not to mention possessive) make a clean break. If you must, get a restraining order.
And don't let him play the guilt card on you either. It's not your fault that he's lonely....it's HIS!
Be safe, don't allow this disrespect, and move on.
2007-07-28 20:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you?
Get a back bone and dump the guy already!
He has learned from the pattern you are letting him establish that he can say anything and you'll stay with him after a small fit. Next he WILL be abusing you...and you can see it coming!
2007-07-28 20:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by BossLady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He thinks his persistence is charming. And he is focused entirely on himself, what he wants, how he feels, what he wants you to do. And since HIS feelings haven't changed, it has not occurred to him that there other factors to consider like, say, how YOU feel, what YOU want.
Cut all ties. Answer no emails. Take no phone calls. And kind of engagement, even to tell him how very much you don't want him in your life, will only encourage him.
2007-07-28 20:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by palan57 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't cave to him again. Be true to your word for your sake. Be dignified and follow what you say. When you tell him it's through, make your own efforts to not e-mail him back, ignore his phone calls, block him from everything, shut him down. Be firm with yourself, if he's bitchslapped you b/c you gave into his pitiful "I want you to be my bf" then learn from that, in the fact that he's not going to change. He's an asshole.
2007-07-28 20:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by halee8202 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to get away from this man or you may find that you are in another relationship that is abusive.You need to ask yourself is it wise to meet men on the net?
2007-07-28 20:50:24 · answer #11 · answered by Charlotte's Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋