i met one of my best friends in year7 and we were really close
but me and my friend started to get bullied a lot and i moved to another school leaving her behind =[
now ive gone she hangs out with all the people who were horrible to us, shes not a bad person i just think shes lonly but when ever i ask her if she wants to come round she always says she is busy, she acts really tough now and loves herself far too much
how can i get my old friend back!
please help with sensible answers!!
2007-07-28 13:26:19 · 17 answers · asked by puzzledsophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Look you should start by telling her how you feel about her blowing you off and hagging out with all the people who were mean to you guys. And if she is rude about then sorry to say but she isn't a true friend. But if she acts like she cares or whatever then you may just have your friend back. The best i can tell you is to just talk to her and tell her how you feel.
2007-07-28 13:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by carebear1069 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may feel like you abandoned her when things got tough although you didn't, it is just what happened. It sounds like what is really going on is she is reaching out but she doesn't really quite trust you. Not because you did anything wrong but because that is the feeling she got. In hanging out with the people the two of you were bullied by she is feeling a little safer. It also may be that she really doesn't like where she is or what she is doing as opposed to loving herself too much. Does she know why you left and if not have you tried to take a few moments to explain why. She is probably still wanting to be friends with you but don't know how to say it. Give her a call and let her know that you really would like to speak with her and if that doesn't work talk to her on the phone. Give her some room and let her decide that she is ready. If she was a true friend the two of you will be able to work it out just fine.
Good luck and best wishes
2007-08-04 16:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by jstahrsgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This answer may seem brutal but I try to be honest. I think your friend is too far gone. Sounds as though she is a victim of peer pressure. I don't think you want this girl as your friend anymore because she is not the person you once knew and you probably cant even relate with her now. Find new friends at your new school and cut your loses.
2007-08-03 22:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gotta know for sure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard that same problem.. the answer is you wont get your old friend back, once someone changes is really hard to change them back. She is not talking to you because she knows how the people who treated you guys terrible dont like you or at least they think the same way of you like they used to. So your friend doesnt want to risk loosing them by talking to you.
My advice is move on, im sure you can find much better friends
2007-07-28 20:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by darklycs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad, but unfortunately, that's the way it goes. She opted for another scene, one you don't fit into. From her point of view, she now has friends instead of enemies, there's usually someone to hang with, & it's fun going down the sidewalk with your buddies. Nothing you have can match what she now has. And it's certain she has changed her views on a lot of things.
2007-08-05 14:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cam1051Sec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, that's hard people change and life goes on. Have you tried to talk to her, maybe shes angry because you moved. Let her know that you still consider her your best friend, and would like to hang out with her. But if it happens, don't expect it to be the same, as I said people change.
2007-08-05 17:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has had to adapt so she would not be bullied, call her and tell her you miss her friendship and wish you could hang around each other some, if she is not receptive, go on and find nicer people, maybe she will see what a true friend is when you contact her again
2007-08-05 16:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to get your old friend back...When you left, she probably started hanging out with those people so she wouldn't be bullied...Then she turned into one of them...It happens...Best thing you can do is find other friends, she wont change....Sorry
2007-07-28 20:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont find other friends that are nicer and get rid of this girl you know. Or you could call her and ask her what's going on. If she says nothing and keeps ignoring you why keep something doesn't want help?
2007-08-05 16:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel, and make her understand you. You miss the old her, and look what she has become now, you can always keep contact in some ways (writing letters, email, going somewhere).
2007-08-04 12:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋