Sex at 15?

Question

Alright, before you guys start judging,
just please read everything carefully.
if you're going to say "dont do it since,
you're asking" or "you're too young"
dont comment, dont waste you're time..
alright, as you see i 15 years old
and i have a boyfriend, he's also 15.
many many times, we've talked about
having sex because well we want to feel
really close to each other. we've been goin
out for at least 5 months now. anyways,
should we do it or not? we've talked about
EVERYTHING like consequences and such
but we just dont know if we should follow
through with it. we're both virgins so it would
be our first time. and i know if i do it, i
know i wont regret it. he's a very caring guy.
he even said himself, if im not up for it,
we dont have to do it. i mean i would do
it, but i just dont know if we really wanna
go ahead and follow through with this.
and i can say that he is the "first love" thing.
and no im not some stupid little kid who says
"i love you" to everyboy. im pretty smart

Hmm. I've read the first 28
answers. Very helpful.
Some seem harsh, but
eh, not really, they're
just trying to reason why
NOT to do it. More answers,
and i think i'll have my
question resolved :]

Answer 1

You should only have sex with some one you are married to.

You should only have sex when you are able to support yourself and a child that might come along.

You should never have sex at 15.

Answer 2

I dont care who you are, or how mature and grounded you think you are. You are not ready to be a parent. And its not a risk you should be taking.

Not to mention you are not capable of grasping and understanding the weight and consequence of all the things that come from being in and adult level relationship. Thats why theyre "adult" relationships. Having sex because you feel old enough does make you old enough.

The older you get the more you will understand why people tell you dont do things.

You can know a lot at 15, and be just as mature as an adult, but your reasoning and understanding of life and all its many facets just isnt grown up. You can only get that with age and living.

You're not ready and old enough to have sex until you're ready and old enough to be in a stable long term committed relationship, and deal with the fact that no matter what precautions you do or dont take you can STILL end up with a child that has you for a parent whether you want to be one or not.

As for your partner, 15 for boys is a lot like 10. Theyre just bigger and have penis' and know it. Theyre boys in mens bodies. I can promise you that no matter how grown up he seems and acts he also is not going to settle down, quit school, get a job, and care for a child that he can so easily make.

Having sex isnt what makes you close to someone anyway. Men have sex with prostitutes every day, go home and forget about them for the rest of their lives. Having a healthy realtionship is what makes you close to someone. You have to perfect that before you can have children, and you cant have sex until you can deal with that.

Good God, go be a kid. Enjoy it baby. Once its over, its gone forever. Your childhood, and your virginity.

Dont have sex until you're married. Its not worth it. Ive never met a married woman who didnt regret all the men she had sex with before her husband. It takes something away from you that you cant get back.

It can be done. I waited until my wedding night, when I was 20.

:) Grow up, just not that way, and not that fast.

Answer 3

If you both think you're ready then I say go ahead but use protection. Just make sure you wont have regrets.

I had sex at 15 and we both thought using protection every now and then was ok.....we dated almost a year and i got pregnant.ALWAYS use protection.Dont ever think it wont happen to you.I was 'smart' to....but I got pregnant a month after I turned 16. Ive been married 18 yrs and have no regrets and love my husband but not everyone stays together when they marry that young...its almost unheard of these days.I feel lucky to have a man like my husband but not all men are the same.

Im rambling and not preaching just use protection and be sure you're ready.Theres no need to rush anything....

Answer 4

Honey, what exactly are you looking for in an answer? You don't want anybody to tell you no, don't do it, so what is left?
I can't tell you I think it's a good idea, because I don't. If you want something other than because you're young or because you aren't sure (and that right there, to me, is the best reason to hold off), how about "wait until you're married"? You truly don't know how you will react after this act - no one thinks they're going to regret something they choose to do, but a lot of people do experience regret.
At least give things a little more time. Wait until you are absolutely sure this is right for you and what you want to do. You do sound smart, and you've clearly given this some thought. My advice is to give it more thought and don't be in a hurry. You are worth waiting for.

Answer 5

Having sex just because you want to feel closer to each other is not a good reason to do it. I had sex at 15, and yes I'm still with the guy. I don't regret that it was him but I do regret the fact that I didn't wait. It really is better to wait, trust me. I know from experience. Hold on to your virginity. Please, it doesn't sound like you realize that what you're saying is not a smart thing to do.

EDIT: If you are mature enough to tell your mom that you had sex, and know about ALL the consequences and take all the precautions then go ahead. But if you're afraid to tell your mom and aren't ready to handle the consequences, don't do it. I realize that the chances of getting pregnant while using a condom are usually pretty slim, so just be careful.

Answer 6

I'll save you the "you're too young" speech, because obviously you already know that. You know you are having your own doubts. That being said, think about the following things:

1 - It is possible, but unlikely, that the 2 of you will be in this relationship for any great length of time. If he is your 1st love now & you decide not to have sex - and your relationship continues for another year or so, he'll still be your first love...are you following me?

2 - Once you do have sex it becomes easier to continue to have sex (with him or someone else), because once the first time is gone, you can't go back. The thought process is different (and shorter) once you already made the difficult decision to "give it up" the 1st time.

3 - He is also having his own doubts - and he also agrees that it's ok to wait - so wait. It'll be worth it. Trust me.

Answer 7

Are you sure he's not just saying it to get into your pants? Personally, I don't think you are ready. I know you said you talked about "everything," but how do you know if you get pregnant that he'll stand by you and not run off? Once you give your virginity to a person, it can never be given to any one else. Be sure that he's "the One". Don't just go for it because your hormones are raring. And, if you are going to, both of you should use birth control. You- the pill or an IUD, Him- a condom or spermacide. That way, you ensure you dont' get preggers unexpectedly. I hope you make the correct decision for the both of you.

Answer 8

OK my advice to you would be before you have sex with this guy get on BIRTH CONTROL (it can take up to 2 weeks to get into your system before your protected) and when it does finally happen get you boyfriend to wear a CONDOM just so you know that it will be harder to fall pregnant if you use the right method (but you can still get pregnant don't get my wrong k) but just don't feel like you have to be pressured into having sex if you want to have sex because you want to and not cause all your friends are doing then i say think about and go with the flow but i know that if i found out my daughters was having sex at 15 i wouldn't be very happy but i hope you make the right choice good luck

Answer 9

You should only have sex when you're absolutely sure you're ready to do so. You'll know you're ready when you dont question it so much. Only YOU know when you're ready to have sex; really, no one can say a flat out, "yes you should do it," or ," no you shouldnt do it."
I am, however, proud of you for having your head on straight. You've discussed & gone over every consequence that may happen, with your boyfriend- I agree, you are very smart. My only suggestion to you is that you make sure you are ABSOLUTELY, 100% SURE you are ready to deal with ANY consequence of having sex. And should you decide to, PLEASE, my dear, take all necessary precautions to remain safe. I dont encourage sex right now:it may benefit you two to wait awhile so you have more time to think about it, but it's ultimately your decision.
No judgements here. I love you one & the same =)
Best wishes for you & your boyfriends relationship & good luck on you all's decision! I hope the best for yall!

Answer 10

Hey, i'm your age and i'm here to tell ya what i think. I really, really think you should wait. Now, I completely know how you feel. All you want to do is be closer to him, but trust me, sex is not the answer. There are so many things you can do to be closer to this guy. Sex does not mean love! Why have sex young and have it be pleasurable for a moment but screw the rest of your life up when you can do it on your honeymoon night and have nothing BUT pleasure! I'm serious girl, there are so many things that can go wrong. Not just physically but mentally, too. Just do yourself, your family, and God (if your religious) a favor and save your purity and self for your one true love.

Answer 11

You still run a serious risk of getting pregnant.

Teens your age really don't know how to use birth control properly and that's why that there is a special nickname for teenage girls who rely on condoms.

That name is "Mommy".

The odds are very good, that once you do this, you'll break up.

Even if you don't break up right away, the odds are this i not the boy you are going to marry.

And you'll be giving something to this boy which one day you will wish you could give to your new husband.

And as sweet as you believe he is, he could be lying to you and he could carrying an STD and give it to you.

Please don't risk your future, its not worth it.

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And notice, I have not even told what God thinks of your idea.

Pastor Art