2007-07-28 12:00:47 · 5 answers · asked by Kathie 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
You know where you stand with them. That they put your well being above theirs. That they listen, try to understand and help. That they support you and love you. That they don't just buy stuff to keep you quiet. They set boundaries and rules that you understand. They are consistent and trustworthy. They don't lie to you because it's the easier option. The list is endless.
2007-07-28 12:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by cobra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents who don't make their children the center of their universe, but actually have a good relationship as adults on their own, with adult friends and an involvement in the community.
Parents who walk their walk and talk their talk , know that there is something bigger out there besides them and teach their kids core values and about dignity, empathy and the golden rule.
Parents who are consistent with their house rules and know which type of discipline works on which child. You don't discipline them all the same way.
Parents who know how to say NO and mean it and don't get all paranoid if the kids say they hate them . Kids are gonna hate you at every point in their life, then unless you've been abusive to them, they grow up and are thankful you raised em the way you did.
Incest and sexual assault on your children or anyone else is not good parenting.
Abusing your spouse, physically, sexually, emotionally/mentally is not good spousal behavior and something you don't want your kids to model in your behaviour.
Caring about having a family relationship with both sides of the family is good parenting.
Not being a workaholic and acquiring more and more things is not being a good parent, no matter how much the kids say they want and need it they don't.
Parents allow kids to make mistakes, pick themselves up and start all over again. They aren't helicopter parents who at every little hurt or mistake fly in and intravene and make it right.
Parents allow their kids to grow up, leave the nest , become independent and don't throw every little mistake they've ever done in their faces.
They also don't always pay their kids bills , into their fifties , depriving their kids of learning how to stand on their own two feet. It's darn hard when you're 50 and mummy dies and you have to now take care of yourself because nobody's left to bail you out.
Finally parents know when to seek help if they're drug addicts , alcoholics, spendaholics, gamblers etc and go get help, they don't screw around with their families lives and well being.
2007-07-28 19:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Their children are their very first priority in life, second to nothing, including work, drinking, vacations.
They spend time with their children at every opportunity and make sure they are being educated and socialized properly.
They provide healthy positive role models for their children.
They establish good communications with their children and teach them this is a necessary tool in life.
They see to it that their medical needs are taken care of, immunizations, boosters, vaccines.
They try to establish a healthy strong foundation for the child to branch out from so that as they grow older they know the rights and the wrongs.
They watch their diets and try their best to see to it they eat well.
The parents are NOT worried about getting their children material items but instead spend TIME with them and show them they are loved. This precludes the need for a second and third mortgage, thus both parents working 90 hour weeks.
They teach the children that materialism is shallow and that no 12 yr old girl needs $250 jeans or $150 tennies, and that no 10 yr old boy needs to spend his full life sitting in front of an Xbox 360 fighting demons.
2007-07-28 19:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by Noone i 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think good parents are those that have a close and open relationship with their kids. their kids feel comfortable to talk to them about important issues. they listen to their kids and dont force, but guide them to the right decisions. they find creative ways to guide kids without being too harsh! to get kids to eat healthy, they give them many choices (do you want cherries or apples? turkey or ham? whole wheat or rye bread? yogurt or cottage cheese) make them feel that they have a choice. the punishment should fit the crime. if child throws baseball through house window, parent may take out a percentage of their allowance to put towards new window, teaching the concept of consequences for your actions. they should not be too smothering or protective, kids are capable of more than we give them credit for. encourage kids to join some teams or groups alone, teach them independence and friend making skills. expose them to many things such as art, music, museums, age appropriate literature to spark interest in different things. i think good parents should not fight in front of their kids, but argue and come to agreements on their own, so that their kids dont have to witness bickering and also so that they cannot pin one parent against each other. strive to keep their home a safe and nuturing place for their kids.
2007-07-28 19:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by snookums17 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kindness, goodness, gentleness, patience, self control, love.
They must also keep their word.
They must teach them where ever they go. Continuously.
They must also discipline their children. Discipline always needs to be swift, with quick reconcilliation.
Also, what not to do. Do not exasperate your children.
2007-07-28 19:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by lovingdaddyof2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋