I lost my job a few weeks ago and since then, every now and again my husband will over a day or half a day start to have a go at me, but not always just about that but I get the feeling that is what is behind it all, and even the next day he refuses to apologise for nasty comments he's made, like I am pathetic, or he is the only one making an effort to bring anything in, even though at the moment we have his two kids with us for 5 weeks and I am making sure they are looked after, fed, clothes washed, entertained etc....and i adore his kids too so there is no hostility there. But I really feel like walking away for a week to see if he could cope on his own without me........
2007-07-28 11:34:58 · 20 answers · asked by tencat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Then walk away. Make him see how much he needs you.
2007-07-28 11:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him know he is being nasty and if he continues to treat you that way how would he like to be doing all of this on his own? I would. Maybe he will change his tune. He has no right to treat you this way. He evidentally can't deal with the changes that have been made by you being at home instead of working lately. Some men do not deal well with the change. They are used to things being a certain way and more money coming into the household. He may be feeling stress and he is not talking to you. You two need to sit down and talk this out and he needs to be treating you better.
2007-07-28 18:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, don't talk to him about anything. Men often get angry in stressful situations, he's probably just angry/stressed with the situation. Just focus on finding a new job and working towards that. You can only do so much, and it sounds like you are taking good care of the kids. Once you find a new job, things at home should smooth out. If he's still not being supportive and flies off the handle at you, you don't need him in your life. Get your hair cut, buy a new outfit, indulge in yourself a bit.
2007-07-28 18:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by J T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I would leave anybody who called me pathetic, but then again i am not married. These questions upset me so much. I know things are always more complicated than you can type in one of these questions.
Really it ends up being all about me and my past experiences. You can't really give advice to someone about relationships. They have to advise them selves. No one will ever know what you are going through or how much you love, and how something feels etc.
Good luck. I'm sure you will make the right choice.
2007-07-28 18:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why for just a week. This guy sounds like a real prize. Why are you providing free child care for his kids when he treats you like garbage. You love this? Take a long hard look at where this is headed before you bring any children of your own into this unhealthy mess.
2007-07-28 19:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he is just really feeling a lot of pressure right now going it alone financially. He's probably just stressed out about it. Maybe if you can talk about it without arguing and make a plan as to what your next step is going to be, it might put his mind at ease. Good Luck
2007-07-28 18:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ferosia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your hubby is a macho p-r-ick who needs a reality check on whos who and whos doing what if that was me i wouldnt put up with him talking to me like that for no reason he has no right just because hes the only one working doesnt mean hes given the right to to make you feel even worse tell him to lighten up or pack his bags and that not even your parents talk to you like that if you get my drift , no-one has the right to speak to people like that and not even say sorry afterwards so think about what your willing to put up with and make a decision on how to put a stop to it. Also he might be stressed through work but this is still no excuse.
2007-07-28 18:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by magnum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like everyday stress is taking its toll on your husband and in return he takes it out on you and it appears hes not very diplomatic and doesnt fight fair with you. He just opens his mouth and lets it allpour out with ever thinking of what hes saying. You may just need to sit down with him when hes in a better mood and explain it to him just how you feel like especially when hes angry.Explain it all to him and let him know if it doesnt change then you will. Good luck
2007-07-28 18:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront him, tell him what you just told us in your question. You MUST communicate with him to have a good marriage. God only knows if his nasty comments are subconscious or whatever, you need to bring this up front, right now. Good luck.
2007-07-28 18:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your going on holiday and upon your return you want the house the way you left it, the kids clean and fed and the husband you married.
2007-07-28 18:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal and mental abuse should not be tolerated. You're not pathetic and should never be called pathetic. Talk to a professional They can truly help you with this situation.
2007-07-28 18:52:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋