I feel so angry all the time.?

Question

I just feel so angry all of the time - and I really don't know what to do about it all. I have rage that keeps emerging for the most minor things - spilling a drink, misplacing my keys etc.

I feel especially angry at my own mother. Last year there was a fight in the family, and though it sounds melodramatic it feels as if she did her utmost to pin the blame on me, and put me in a position where I couldn't fight my own corner.

But rage bubbles everyhwere else too - if I see a TV character treated with injustice, for example, I start to ket really upset and angry about it all. But I have other strange tendencies: I have these bizarre dramatic fantasies, where I'm centre of attention and sympathy, or I'm physically fighting someone else.

I get so tearful all the time, and I feel angry at myself for not doing work done - work which I dread doing, because I fear I'll find out I'm not capable of it. And then that makes procrastination worse. I feel like punching a wall.

Help.

Answer 1

I understand how you are feeling. I have been through the same thing.

First of all, anger is a reaction to fear, frustration, and/or pain. You have unresolved anger towards you mother because she hurt you very badly when she blamed you and pushed you into a corner. Instead of directing your anger towards your mother, you kept it inside and turned the anger on yourself.

You were treated unjustly and you didn't stand up for yourself. That's why you get upset & angry about little things: because you haven't confronted the person who really is responsible for hurting you.

If you would prefer not confronting her in person or on the phone, write her a letter. You don't ever have to send the letter if you choose not to. But, at least write it. Get your true feelings out on paper. Tell her how angry you are at her. Tell her how she made you feel. Tell her you feel like punching her........ tell her whatever you need to tell her to get the power back that she stole from you.

I would tell her: "How dare you treat me like that! I am your son! You have no right to treat me like that and I am really pissed off about it."

If you don't do something to deal with this situation, your anger will eventually turn to resentment, then depression. . . . please get help as soon as you can.

God bless you. I am so sorry you are in pain. I pray that everything works out for you & you get control of yourself soon.

Answer 2

Ahhh, anger-management issues - I know them well. There probably isn't any way for you to just make it go away - there's something causing it, and you need to find out what. It could be some trauma you've suffered in the past or it could simply be a case of hormones making you feel out of control (virtually all teenagers go through this, though it's more violently pronounced in males). Whatever you do, try not to foster it. Try not to let it grow or take control - enjoy your anger if you can, it is possible to rant and rave at the world and the universe in general and not be a hostile "punk" about it. Write about things that make you angry - perhaps you'll find a cause. Anger is one of the greatest motivators in making one choose to make a positive difference in the world around them. Identify things that make you angry and work on eliminating them from the world - through peaceful, legal means, I mean to say. We need anger, it's healthy for us to feel angry at times. But we also need to learn how to channel it in a healthy way. Just letting it build until your temper explodes - I used to do that all the time, it's not healthy and it drives people away. Don't let it build, let it -out-. Go to some remote place in the woods with a ten-pound sledge and just spend the day busting up rocks or pushing over dead, rotting trees. Write songs and/or poems about your anger, and be as explicit and harsh in them as you can be - it doesn't hurt anyone for the words to be written down, and it might make you feel better. Not only that, it might vent you just enough to keep you from going off on someone who didn't really deserve it.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Please see professional help. There's no shame in admitting you have a problem, only in doing nothing about it. Half the solution is admitting you have a problem. It sounds like you feel powerless. Sunday mornings - watch Joel Osteen - he's on almost every channel - all day on Sundays. He's got a very powerful message and it's all from Scripture! Help someone else to get your mind off of yourself.
God Bless!

Answer 4

That used to happened to all the time. As comical as it sounds, as soon as I started smoking marijuana, the anger problems really have dissipated. Now I really don't mean smoke your problems away but the next time you have feelings of intense anger, take a couple tokes (don't go overboard now) and try to do something relaxing like watching tv, playing guitar, or listening to music. I can assure you'll feel great.

Answer 5

I used to be like that dude, I know it sucks. U just gotta learn to chill and realize that those little things (like spilling something) really don't matter. There are many books available out there that teach you to not sweat the little things. Therapy can also be very helpful (not being sarcastic - I've been through it myself).

Answer 6

Caused from negative thinking and therefore always having a negative attitude. Try reading the book called the power of positive thinking.

Answer 7

Anger is a big symptom of depression.
Sounds like you have a deep depression that has been going on for a long time and will continue to control your life unless you seek professional help ASAP.

The links have basic help for anger issues.

Answer 8

anger managements c0urses. yoga? running / any form of excercise .theres a book dont sweat the small stuff 2 . good luck & remember EVERYONE makes mistakes. ur not alone out there, so dont freak out over something small

P.s ( just by smiling wen ur mad is proven to make u happier. als0 hugging someone <3 :)

Answer 9

I have been there, still am sometimes, and fully empathize

My heart goes out to you, and I hope we find peace

Just try and take it easy and focus on the good thing sin life

Take care

Answer 10

jim, you need to seek treatment with a therapist. he/she will probably recommend your going to anger management classes. even possibly going to see a psychiatrist as well since there are soome mental illnesses that can cause your behaviour. without treatment you could possibly hurt yourself or someone else which is not good. so,for your own sake please seek treatment as soon as possible .good luck and know that my prayers are with you as you go through this.